Just wondering if anyone else ever at times feels guilt over their sexual past? Or guilt over their sexual desires and fetishes? I have moments when i feel like such a bad person for those things. But it doesn't stop my desires or thinking about them. Maybe it stems from feeling like if others knew certain things about my sexuality that they might judge me. Just curious what others thoughts were on this subject.

 

Nope never felt guilt. Unless I didn't do it.

 

Since my wife has reached menopause our sex has all but stopped. Even though I love her I still have needs. I had sex with a female coworker and sucked a few cocks out of curiousity. Since she cut me off I feel no guilt.

 

Yes. Apparently at some point in my life I decided I wanted to be with one female instead of several.

 

Not me.

 

Hope all is well
Sex = guilty
When I was teen age I us to masturbat alot and I feel guilty due no knowledge of sex and nobody there to tell me its normal thing. As I grow up I had sex with female first time and I feel guilty .once I had threesum mff first time I feel super guilty and three sum again and again guilty again and again . even i have feel guilty but can't control my desire .Today I am married wife lost interest in sex after child birth its 4 years now I masturbate 5 times a week and I feel guilty

 

I'm very sorry. That's a bad situation to be in. I understand you would still have desires and needs. I guess men don't feel as much guilt as women. We were always taught to be so proper and lady like. Well some of us love everything about sex. We can't help that. Lol

 

This made me laugh. Lol

 

But yet you still can't stop. I just wonder why we ever feel guilty.

 

Yes i did the same but over time i still have desires.

 

How can you feel guilty for what makes you happy? I mean if what makes you happy is something like beating puppies then yes you should feel bad or guilty(and be beaten to death) but for sex?
When I was younger I fucked almost anyone I could but I do not feel guilty for it. I have someone special now and he knows about my past so no guilt. Feel bad about what you did not do, not what you did do.

 

Maybe it's due to the fact that i feel i can't be honest and open with my husband about my fantasies and desires. He's very jealous and insecure.

 

Sounds like he should feel guilty for denying someone he loves something that could make them both happy and bring them closer. Most men fear everything because they do not know how to deal with it. I mean most guys still think that even admitting that they dream about other men makes them gay. But fantasies are just that, dreams unfulfilled.

 

Yes your right i think. I've never given him reason to hide his sexual fantasies from me. Yet he never shares them. I've tried to have numerous tlks with him. Which were failed attempts and only made him seem more jealous and insecure.

 

My best advice would be to sit down and talk frankly about everything. Don't just shout out something like "I want to be gangbanged by 100 black men while you watch" but just make an attempt at open honesty and assurance that it does not change how you feel about him. My guy knows that there is 1 person that I would love to have sex with and he knows that even he would if he could. The woman is a friend of mine and is smoking hot and is attracted to me as well. He told me once that if it ever could happen just make sure that i film it so he could watch.

 

I've tries to sit down and discuss these things but it's just not going to happen. Lol your lucky that your guy lets you be yourself and you can share your fantasies as a loving couple.

 

For me honesty and trust are the corner stones of a relationship, if either are not there I will walk away. I feel bad for your situation and hope that one day he will open his eyes. Just love you for who and what you are and love him for him, some people never stop being insecure, but sometimes they do have reasons.

 

Basically all my life. I've grown up in a very church-oriented family so it was always sex=sin. I was told even thinking about it was bad. Imagine going through puberty thinking you were fucked up for what went through your head every 5 minutes.

So yeah, I felt guilty then, when I started masturbating, started fooling around, actually started having sex, and now that I'm starting to fantasize about more I feel guilt for that from time to time. I guess guilt has been a big part of my sex life unfortunately.

 

My family is very conservative and we never discussed sex. So i understand where your coming from. Luckily my parents never caught me masturbating. Lol which i did alot.

 

Maybe that is why I am the way I am. I grew up mostly in a small Texas town where everyone went to church but me. I knew from a young age that I was not the same as most, I liked boys and girls. I just did what was right for me, and told the rest to fuck themselves.