Hi,

I am a 37 year old male who has been single for a 3 years and have been sexually active on and off in that time. I have been with about 7 or 8 girls in that time and have had good times with each girl.

About a month ago I met a 24 year old girl at my local pub and she came home with me for the night. I was heavily intoxicated and was unable to get a lasting erection to engage in sex as I have always been able to do. She was cool about it and we still had a good night for several hours. Fast forward two weeks and she texts me while I am at the same pub but a little less drunk. She meets me at my place and we try to have sex again and I cant get hard again and I put it down to being drunk again and we still have fun other ways for a few hours. I still got hard but when I tried to penetrate her I would go soft soon after. This is sooo not like anything I have had happen before.

In February I met a girl and was able to get hard whilst very very drunk. So I am wondering what the fuck is going on cos this 24 year old girl makes me very horny.

The 24 year old girl contacted me last friday night to see if I was drinking, knowing full well the only night I drink is Friday night and then said she would have come round if I wasnt drinking. She said she wasnt going to bother trying again cos she doesnt think Im able to get hard at all. I see her point and Im cool with that.

But the problem is it has got inside my head and now I cant get hard at all. I tried jerking off a couple of times this week, fully sober, and nothing. Not even my favourite porn is doing it.

I dont think its physical as much as it is mental but omg am I worried cos I know she is into me and we really connected but she just sees me as an older guy who cant perform.

WTF do I do?

My questions are:

Is this unusual for my age?
Is viagra my only friend?
Who else has had this problem?

 

No more yanky the wanky!!

 

It's all about inner peace. Keep calm and calm and calm. Try smoking herbs or hashish. Trust me.

 

I used to smoke alot of pot but quit 2 years ago I dont think it had a bearing either way

 

This happened to me when I took medication that had steroids in it. I know the feeling trust me. Once I finished the meds everything was fine. Are you by chance taking meds?

 

I'd say a visit to your physician might be in order, if it's a blood pressure-related issue that might be a flag of a potentially serious issue. If everything checks out there's always Viagra !

 

Not on meds and recently had a health check with blood analysed and was told I have the health of a 20 year old. Doctor had to reconfirm my details as he didnt believe the results.

Might go pay him another visit me thinks

 

try not drinking night

brewer's droop.
so avoid the drink !! It desensitizes the penis (well the brain really)

 

given long enough they sober up....

we found a good way to get him hard after he was drunk !
He whips my pussy with it ! and beats my pussy with his dick !
allways worked!

The next problem is how to get him to cum...
its good sex (but sore after) but I have to finish him with a fast hand job and fellatio.
(or I fall asleep and wake up and then finish him off !)

 

I find that I have similar problems, no problem getting hard when looking at porn but sometimes when with my gf I have hardness problems. We can kiss on the couch and I get hard. Then when moving to the bedroom I loose the boner and it can be hard to get it back. And it seems that being worried about it makes it worse. Instead of concentrating of my woman's body I start thinking about no boner and it feeds on itself. One tactic that works most times is to go down on her. Then I start enjoying her smell and concentrating on pleasing her. I will get in position to play with myself and can work up a boner.

 

Its just nerves. You had a natural experience of not getting an erection which can happen from time to time. Now you've got it in your head that you can't anymore. I had this happen to me once when I was 22. It was a month or so before I could keep an erection with a girl. Just try not to make a big deal about it and don't see this 24 yr old anymore

 

I agree about seeing a doctor, to rule out anything physiological...and I also agree that this may be something going on in your head. You might consider seeing a sex therapist. You're much too young for something like this to happen to you naturally.

 

Have you changed anything in your diet or meds? I had this problem awhile back when I quit smoking weed. Withdrawals from that (for me at least) were a bit more severe than what I had heard. Changing the chemical balances of the brain can do strange things. Fortunately for me I have a very understanding wife and it didn't last very long either.