our sex life has been in decline what can i do to get it going again? or do i need to find a side job?:wall:

 

http://www.funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/228378/A/

 

I liked the title: A real man's Rufie.....

 

thats funny but seriously.

 

I am to the point that im considering divorce because this is not normal and i have a very high sexdrive.:wall:

 

Tell her honestly about your sexual needs and find out what she thinks. Find out if there are needs if hers that you aren't fulfilling yourself. Just having a divorce probably won't fix your sexual desire issue. Also if you have kids getting a divorce just to get laid is a bad move.

 

very true i have talked to her but she says there is no problem . Divorce would be messy and expensive i do have 2 kids

 

Advice

Try going about it in a loving way. Maybe don't say a word and start massaging her and see where is leads or run her bath water with candles and give her a nice bath sometimes women just want to be pampered which really turns them on and could lead to some hot sex!!

 

When kids come along most people stop doing some of the bonding things they did before. Make it part of your life again to go out and have a good time like before. If you must hire a baby sitter it is money well spent. If you have family near utilize them if you can.

 

Kidnap her. Farm the kids out. Rent a hotel room out of town. Friday pack her a bag, pick her up at work and take off. don't tell her where you're going. Spend the weekend fucking.

 

sounds good to me

 

yes we need to have some date nights

 

Pimp her out

 

health shop !

vitamins !
give her frolic acid and B3 (the sex vitamins).
could make her wild and horny and go nympho.
no really !

 

I doubt that works, my ex took those vitamins for other reasons, and she pretty much never wanted sex

 

worked for me

double the dose

 

Divorce is, as it should be, the last resort...
Maybe she is now too focused on the kids - which, in fact, is not really a bad thing!
Much too little info here, to be able to give a reliable solution...

 

send the kids off somewhere to have fun for the day, or stay with your parents/her parents while you 2 rekindle the fire. rinse and repeat every week.

or start simple, maybe a date night like you 2 had in the past before marriage and kids. just remind her of what made her marry you and have your kids.

or if all else fails act like a caveman one day, come home after work, swing her over your shoulders and take her to the bedroom and not leave for sometime.

 

Dress her up!

If you love her......try to romance her one more time!

But her something sexy and take her to a club or party where there are lots of sexy people....and try to raise "her temperature"

If that doesn't work.....it is possible that there is a medical or emotional issue......sometimes hard to find the source.....abuse in childhood sometimes shows up later in life.

Divorce is drastic.....think about some NSA relationship first until you find out what the problem is...

 

there is just nothing left anymore