It's not hard at all as long as you be yourself. You fuck up, make a mistake or do the wrong thing, and can admit you were wrong and take responsibility for your actions, you're a man. You get married, buy a home and start having children, you work and provide for your family, show love, understanding and affection towards your wife, raise your children with good family values, morales, and respect for others, that's being a man. There's more to being a man other than just brawn and muscle, having a really nice firm ass, cocky attitude, a swagger in your walk and being able to show your true self, makes you one hell of a man.

 

@Milo Cronos, you bring to mind an old saying....
Fathers are put on this earth to protect sons from their mothers.
Maybe the ancient Spartans had this whole masculinity/femininity way of living sussed from the start.
Women were women,
Men were men
Neither could exist nor function without the other
But both recognised how to either render each other weak and useless or powerful and effective.
They chose the latter...
Is it really so brutally wrong to be true to ones sex and acknowledge the others strengths and weaknesses?
Apparently so when you look at current legislation on Equality blah blah blah

 

Where have you been all my life???
I’d say you have definited what it is to be truly Masculine!
You rightly quoted biology...
it’s in our chromosomes toyiu have male and female... XY or XX.... guess which is the common one between the two?
There’s that bit of feminine X in each and every man on this earth....
The cavemen of this world just need to get over it and start ironing
I bow before you!!!!

 

All i know is women spend there whole life in search of that "man". They nearly lose their mind in search of it. They do crazy shit and try to change who they are trying to turn guys into a "man". Cause a woman tends to blame theirselves for everything that goes wrong. But however hard you try ....i do know this ...you can not force someone or make them be a man when they do not have that drive. Or shall i say respect!!! And as for the sexual aspect of being a man.......well guys put more pressure on theirselves than women do sexually. Cause if a woman is a real woman she can work with you. She can match any effort you put in and even double or triple that. Just watever you do....do not let your insecurities take over and totally ruin a woman's desire to continue putting in effort.

 

I think its a matter of making sure your wife is satisfied in every way, taking care of your family, and making sure they are well fed, clothed, and protected in everyway.

 

my ex wife tryed to do that with me, she said i was a "diamond in the rough" and she could make me better, so she dressed me better she thought and cut my hair the way she wanted too but i just went back to the way i was before. she got over it and let me be till we split. and she said later she liked me the way i was when we met. and i laughed. so if ur attracted to some one just take them the way they are. I know i loved my wife the way she was, and she love the man i was, and still am. i will protect all of my fam. if need be, and others too. my dad always told me care for ur mother and sister, and i always did till she passed, and sis got married.

 

Intelligence overrides quaint and robust notions of gender and our role. If your smart you realize that gender barriers are what stupid pple construct to brainwash an already panicked and unpredictable society....break the cycle.

 

Insecurity is nothing but fear....
There is nothing to fear but fear itself...
Borne from fear is mans darkest hour
‘From fear is born The evil that men do”
(By man/men I also include the female flavour of our species..... but I thought I’d add that chauvinistic dramatic touch.... Old Testament
Style!

 

Some things just strike me as being funny and please don't take this the wrong way? It's just that I'm very immature and really haven't grown up yet and don't think that I ever will. I find it really funny someone with the name @Babyboy26 replying to a thread titled, how hard it is to be a man, sorry but it's just how my mind works.

 

Oh no you've got it wrong lol its all part of the joke...

 

For me, it's easy peasy. My life is fairly simple right now. If my roomates knew I said this, they would probably hurt me...hahaha.... We had a heart to heart yesterday about me interacting with.........females...lol

 

I think the gist of what is going on with the 'un-masculine man' is that as women are taking up more and more roles that were once held by men, a lot of the new generation, myself included, wonder where we go from here in this evolving society. It's not a bad thing at all actually, women have been getting the short end of the stick for a long time, and deserve these opportunities. So now the question is posed: What does it mean to be a man? Really I think the important question is what does it mean to be a functioning adult, and really that's what a man and woman is, a functioning adult. As for what separates a man from a woman socially is going to be a toning down of 'machismo,' the unnecessary aggressiveness and territorial behavior, tendency to violence, and coping with the lose of social status. I think the best way to do that is instead of tearing down these younger men by saying they aren't men, we instead work on making them adults. Responsible, loving, empathetic, and many other virtues that have been lost by both sexes along the way. Work to restore that basis, and new roles will naturally come with time.
Oh, and the importance of assertiveness is something that both sexes could work towards improving.

 

Bring back National Service!!!!!
I remember many a male Italian male friend disappearing off the social radar for 18months..
What I quickly learnt was that a boy friend would disappear out into ether for a while...
When he returned he was all man; no longer relied on mum to do his washing; stopped playing around at 2a.m and instead got a job that started at 5.30 a.m....
Problem was they abolished national service in Italy in the 1990’s....
Please don’t confuse me with some right wing fascist but boys will be boys as long as they can get away with it... by 17-19 they need to be taught how to take on responsibility and become a man

 

As How hard is it to be a man started its journey in the latest MFM thread and related to performance anxiety, on that aspect I'll spill a little.

The word performance itself implies work, effort, challenge etc.. Its not a job! Don't get me wrong, sometimes I'll look down (or up) at what I'm doing, or watch in mirrors and think I look so fuckin good, I should be on stage and getting paid for it. But the reason it might look and feel more than good, is because its not work. Its a combination of factors that all have thier roots in fun and pleasure.

My cock has been on it's own personal rollercoaster for years. It doesn't suffer stage fright, it just doesn't bother turning up at all sometimes. It'll make guest appearances or it'll steal the show and blind everyone in the audience. My partner will know this and still be prepared to bring the house down with a full standing ovation from the crowd because...

Its a big stage and a big production. There's many acts. The man in the corner, vigorously wanking his flacid cock, whilst cursing it, usually has himself to blame. I haven't got time to worry about it. I'm busy having fun.

 

I would love to see a time when men and women understand that retaining your sense of independence is not genuine if you have to resort to dependency to "make it work." We should have enough respect for them and ourselves to not have to "change them", but learn how to truly work on negotiating a balance that works for both.

 

It's hard to be a man in today's progressively feminine world. Not a lot of real men left, many many males, not many men left at all.

 

@Bigamerguy24 - Well, I don't have a job. Been there and done that, including owning and operating an auto service business for 13 years. I know cars and how to fix them. Should say I knew cars and how to fix them. Modern cars don't need much attention. Change the oil when the dashboard tells you to and keep mfg's recommended air pressure in the tires.

The older stuff and I grew up together and we understand one another. Vintage vehicles and a vintage brain work well together. Adjusting valve clearances, replacing timing belts, rebuilding brake calipers, removing a blown engine and installing a good one, replacing a failed knock sensor after I found where the damn thing was, fixing ABS brakes that quit working (broken wire at the sensor), successfully trouble shooting that motorcycle when stranded far from home and fixing it - I like doing all that stuff and glad I don't have to do it on our newer daily-driven vehicles. I know and rebuild carburetors, but love fuel injection.

Hope your wife's door card didn't cost too much.

 

Damn!
Sorry, pressed wrong sodding button on iPhone....doh

 

Sociologically, its easy being a man if you're a beast like me.

Biologically its hard as fuck!:

 

I have reached the conclusion that it is just as hard to be a man as it is to be a woman....
If only we spent more time and effort, concentrating on improving ourselves rather than trying to improve our partners and vice versa!!
I would love for my partner to concentrate on improving his shortfalls rather than placing that responsibility on my shoulders but hey....
It’s much easier to blame someone else than to look square in the mirror and take responsibility for ones own shortcomings...
It’s hard being a man
It’s hard being a woman
It’s harder still taking responsibility for our own shortfalls as a woman or a man.
The hardest part is then doing something to change ourselves..... especially when it is so much easier to sort out everyone else’s problems rather than face our own.
It’s a hard life but hey..... sometimes it’s as simple or as complicated as we choose to make it✨