Milo's recent thread titled "Casting Couch or Casual Sex ..." helped focus my thinking about the streaming sexual harassment claims against Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, and that whole gang. Something upon which I would like to get feedback is how a woman, who has been a victim of sexual harassment or sexual assault, reacts to sexual advances made later by other men who are NOT harassing her, especially a man who is romantically involved with her.

Around 15-17 years ago, I dated a woman who was sexually harassed at her job. A few months after being hired at a small company, her boss made having sex with him a requirement for staying employed. She immediately quit. She was quite conservative and sex with me was limited. So, I was unsure of how to make my sexual desires known to her without coming across as harassing or insensitive to what had happened to her. Today, with more experience and maturity, I would stress the difference between that man over there and this man right here. I would help her compartmentalize that behavior by that man so that he doesn't infect and sully her other far more positive relationships. But it hasn't happened again (to my knowledge).

For the ladies, how has job related sexual harassment (or other sexual harassment or sexual assault) affected, if at all, your other relationships? How did your romantic partner help (or hinder) your dealing with it?

For the gentlemen, how has job related sexual harassment (or other sexual harassment or sexual assault) upon a romantic partner affected, if at all, the relationship? How did you think you helped (or hindered) your romantic partner in dealing with it?

 

Well I only can think of one time that you might say I was sexual harassed , I was working in a convenient store and was sweeping up and the ast- manager put his hand on my ass ! I gave him a quick elbow to the ribs and spun around and kicked him right in his Balls ! Dropped him to the ground ! He never bothered me again !

 

Not enough for me. I am only sexually harassed by my papi and I wish it were more. I like it.

 

Sexual harassment has different meanings, women call it comingn on to a guy when they do it.
But when a guy does it to them, they call it sexual harassment..

 

I've had women and teen female rub their tits and pussy on me before.
But being that im never sure if it was by accident or not i don't act on it.
When i really stop to think about it , their groping me..
But don't let me do something like that to a female because I'll be a pervert and a dirty ol man..lol

 

Here we go again! Not for nothing, it seems nobody cares about the men who have been victims of sexually harassment, and that have been molested? I know women are the majority of victims, but let us not forget that it also happens to men!

 

If she can't stand by her man, she will have to stand with some elses?

 

That's not fair, because we need to talk about both when it comes to this subject, or else we strengthen the females to continue to persecute the men for doing things they also do.

 

The only time I feel that I have been sexually assaulted or harassed was by my first husband so I don't know if that counts. I wasn't with another man for several years after the divorce but I guess I was a little jumpy in certain situations. But when "Mr. Right" came along I don't believe that my previous experiences affected me at all. Since then I have been in many situations that many people would probably call harassing. But I don't take it that way at all. It's given in a friendly, teasing way and that's the way I receive it, and sometimes return it. As I said in another thread, I'm sure many women have legitimate reasons for shouting harassment but I think many people are too quick to call a foul. If you aren't being touched or threatened I believe it is what we used to call flirting. But regardless, if someone is doing or saying something that makes you uncomfortable you should be able to tell them so and expect them to stop. If they don't, official or legal action may be necessary.