So I've been dating this girl for a while, and I'm looking to make it a bit more serious. Problem is she's very religious and all for sex only after marriage. I don't want to offend her, but i really feel we are ready. I'm not sure what to do. Thanks for any help

 

IMHO

You respect her beliefs, knucklehead. -.o If she wants to wait until she's married, don't take that away from her. If you want to marry her, then do so, and reap the boons and banes of such a relationship. If, however, you have no intention/want of marrying her, then don't take away something that she doesn't feel she's ready for - also, find yourself a new girl, preferably one who puts out! :awesome:

Otherwise, such use of force would just make you a total dick. ^_^

 

Mercutio, you could not say it better.

 

Waiting until marriage to have sex leads to divorce. People change after their first time, and she'll no longer be the same woman.

Be romantic. Kiss her. Then move to start kissing the rest of her. Just go on instinct from there and so should she. If she says to stop, obviously stop, and either marry her, break up with her, or convince her somehow that anal sex doesn't count.

 

Well you're not looking to make it a bit more serious at all, you just want to get your end away.

You simply aren't good enough for this girl; she wants committment and you just want a nookie.

 

Abide by her standards or move on.

 

she might never be very interested in sex. You might marry into a sexless existence. beware.

 

Try this

 

Mercutio, you should write books on the subject man... :excited:

 

Leave her and find someone who will enjoy making love with you. Would you buy a used car without taking it for a test drive? Imagine this scenario - you get married then find out she's shit in bed or frigid - how happy would you be then?

 

Multi-Quote Madness! XD

Thank you. ^_^

Wow. o.o Dinner, you just lost some serious brownie points with me.

First off, sex only after marriage doesn't lead to divore. Fucking the mailman/secretary because you can't be faithful, and realizing that you're missing out on something leads to divorce. Frankly, sex shouldn't make a bit of difference, and if you love and are faithful to your partner, you'll never have that problem.

Kudos on the anal sex part, but, still, not enough to save your argument. -.o

You know, you're right. I think it'd help pay the bills, at least.

Perfectly fucking happy. Love is love, not sex. They're two completely different things, and so long as your hearts beat in-synch, you won't have that problem. Besides, if she loved you, she'd fuck you, even if she didn't really care for it herself. If, however, she's a frigid, stingey bitch, then you probably should've picked up on that prior to the wedding, don't'cha think? -.-

As for being shit in bed, that's the stupidest fucking thing I've ever heard someone say to me other than, "Shut up bitch, I'll snap your neck." Sex isn't something you're born knowing how to do well. You have to learn how to be a good lover. If they suck in bed, then watch some porn, read the Kama Sutra, and start learning new shit together! >.<

Stop being so impatient, you silly fuckers! Haha..

 

Oh ho ho ho, hilarious. Oh, my name is Chocolate Giddy Up and I'm going to have to disagree with you. She'll be a different person but that doesn't mean she's going to decide that she's going to leave him for some new dick. Quite the contrary, I think she'll have a deeper connection to him as he'll be the only person that she's ever been with, I think he'll actually be the one that's more likely to leave her. Also, anal counts like a sumbitch.

Nerdface! Respect her, if she doesn't wanna give it all way up then she doesn't want to. If you force or coerce her, she's just going to resent you. If you love her that much, it should be no problem to wait for her to be ready. Nothing's set in stone, she may "loosen up" well before marriage.

 

Well I've got to agree with noboat. Try the booze! But being an atheist, I would simply walk away from such ding bat. Anyhow that's just my opinion. Tell her this. "If you go buy a new car you take it out for a test drive, if you don't like the car you don't buy it, no one buys a car without first test driving it" People who wait until their married, because of religion are many times disappointed, the sex was not what you or your partner expected, thus already married, and in a bad sex situation sucks for the both of you!

 

Mercutio is right. If you love her, respect her wishes and don't coax or pressure her for sex. Use Craigslist or an escort service to get some loving on the side, and be discreet so you don't hurt your girlfriend's feelings. When you're getting sex, it'll be even easier for you to respect your girlfriend when she says no. It's a win-win scenario.

The key is to be discreet. Don't hit on her sister or her friends, don't brag to your friends about it, and don't hook up with someone that's going to try to split you from your girlfriend.

Oops. I just saw that Yikes Run had similar advice. See? This is a technique that has been used by perfect boyfriends and husbands ever since golf was invented as an alibi.

 

im just wondering where you can find this stat... that waiting to have sex after marriage leads to divorce?

i am also assuming you would believe that moving in together before marriage is healthy? so two people can test out the living situation...

 

by saying that you believe you both are ready for sex is offensive. who are you to judge her and say she is ready? maybe she is ready but wants this to be something special and not give it away to a boyfriend she doesnt feel deserves this special thing? if you really love her you would sit her down and talk about what you want and see how she feels. and for all the people on here that believe sex is all you need in a relationship they are just lame people...

 

I had a fem friend

(who of course i wanted to nail doggy so bad it hurt) who was extremely religious. The fundamentalist kind. She was engaged for about a year i think and she once told me there were "other ways" to ease the tensions. I got the idea she meant oral. Which totally changed my fetish for her haha

 

Pleasant thoughts. ^^

You're absolutely right, Kink. Communication is a wonderful thing, especially when it's honest and open in all ways! To be fair, I don't agree with the Craig's List bit, but.. I wouldn't judge someone for it. Temptation is a bitch, and it's better to do a little evil to prevent a greater evil in the hopes that you'll eventually do a greater good to compensate than it is to just do the greater evil and not give a damn! >.<

As for the lame folk comment, feel free to PM me, Kink. ^_^ Communication is a wonderful thing, as I said. And, to quote an individual who's name sadly eludes me now, "The G-Spot is in a woman's ears. Words are the only thing that can stimulate it!"

 

I'm not religious, but I'd have to agree with the comments by other posters that you shouldn't try to change her beliefs, Nerdface. You have to decide whether you're willing to give up what could be a fulfilling relationship over sex.
Having said that, Lance makes a good point. Maybe it would be worth finding out what her idea of 'sex' is. There are plenty of things you could do with each other without having to resort to genital-to-genital intercourse, if she's willing.