Ive been seeing someone for a while now, and have been very happy. My cousin has been seeing someone for a bit short than ive seen my guy. For a while now ive been having strong feelings for this other guy, i dream about him and daydream about having hot steam sex with him.

Now he flirts with me and i love flirting back, now its progressed to him slapping me and feeling my leg, saying its all a laugh. He got drunk at our house a few weeks back and kept grabbing me and smacking my ass hard. Infact my guy got the hump and threatened to hit him.

He flirts with me infront of my guy, i think he loves the thrill as much as me. My guy thinks its a laugh, but im flirting for real.

Ive never two timed a guy and dont intend to start, i wanna get this guy out of my head but i find myself thinking about him. Hes a strong guy, and i imagine him holding me tight and being rough with me during sex. Dont get me wrong, sex with my guy is great, and ive never experienced this before!

What can i do?

 

Hi FLG ,

Well.. you don't say it. But am I right to think you're man is not the type of guy, at least on the surface or so, that would be accommodating if you suggested a three-way? See I know this is obviously something you will have thought of but since you didn't say anything of it.. err.. ??

But ok. Also you're not married I think. So no kids? Maybe you and this other guy are made for each other? Or you'd get the fantasy out of your head if you actually got into bed with him.

BTW. Something's are better left a fantasy imo and there's no harm in it at all. lol

The other thing is, and I know this sounds wanky, what about hypnotherapy? might help "get him out of your head" so to speak.

I spoke to a lady onetime years ago and she told me she saw one about something similar and the therapist did something so she didn't feel the same way about the guy because she didn't want to cheat (married, kids etc) She didn't tell me what he did, sorry. I mean, I don't know if she was a bullshitter but well.. she reckoned it was true, just thought I'd mention it as a notion.

 

This guy is having huge problems with his girlfriend, he has openly admitted to me that he loves all things i do, i enjoy role playing and i enjoy rough sex, and hes admitted that he enjoys the same.

Not just that, hes got more things in common with me.

To me i think its just sex! My current guy is clean shaven etc, whereas this guy isnt, but its not just that.

My guy would never dream of having a threesome, he believes that it should be a one on one. Ive always wanted a threesome, ive also wanted to have unforbidden sex just once.

Its only the last while that my sexual desires have gotten stronger and more daring!

 

Always weigh what is really important to you. What is in your life worth keeping?

 

Wouldn't you have to cut it off first?

 

I honestly dont think i would do anything, maybe its just the excitement of this guy openingly flirting!

He is my riding instructor aswell, when we where at his house recently his gf was at work, and i was sitting with my guy. When i asked him when he was giving me another riding lesson, he said "Go upstairs and i will give you the best riding lesson ever" lol

 

Is anybody else turned on right now?

 

If this is becoming a real problem for you then maybe you need to start off by stop flirting with him. I take it that he comes to your home and is a buddy of your BF. Tell your BF that you want this guy to stop coming over
to your home sinced you don't intend to start having an affair. Seeing that you really want to fuck him, maybe you might want to suggest to your BF that you have been having feelings of a 3-way. The down side might be that he say yes but he wants a FMF 3-way and you want a MFM. So you would have to give in to his 3-way if you want him to give in to yours. Or break it off with your BF and then go for it. Or think to yourself that this guy has a small dick and can't fuck. If you are going to do something you better do something soon or you WILL find yourself having an affair with this guy. Or as I always say...(check my signiture)

 

Well.. I think if there aren't any other insurmountable considerations of entanglement.. well.. yeah I guess I'm gonna have to give you the green light here. Play safe of course.. and you know.. keep your options open. But my main reason I these things is because if you're feeling this way. Not married. Its new to you to feel this. Well. Better do this now than wait till years from now when married with ankle biters, then cheat, maybe get caught, and end up in the phoop.

I was always true to my wife, hard working, kids, took her to Europe, gave her a big expense account.(*gents, idle hands remember! ) But my big mistake was moving to Holland. Lots of tall, good looking guys with EU accents. I guess she couldn't help herself, still. I busted her and then forgave her after a while.

BUT, well, that damage is done forever after when it wasn't agreed upon before hand.

That sucks when you have so many commitments etc that you can't just shuck them and start again like you can at the momment I think.

 

Kool Madness i love your signature lol.

I told my guy that this guy flirts with me etc, and he just laughs and says he is joking around and means no harm, that he loves his GF loads. However i know they are having huge problems, and i do want them to sort things out.

Hes always saying things that hint towards sex, ive been a good girl lately and not really responded to his teasing lol. Thing is, we do go to each others houses, however we are rarely alone - which is a relief in some way.

He would carry on with my guy, saying stuff like he would ride me better etc, and my guy just laughs!

Saying that hes not much better, he likes to flirt too, the exception is that he doesnt realise that he does it

 

Probably didnt explain it right, but the things said in the 2nd paragraph are infact said by my bf

 

Yeah, it's a bit hard to figure exactly what you are meaning there.

I guess you really need to talk to other guy and make sure of the whole situation if you intend to peruse it. Make as sure as you can, you're not going to make a huge mistake. BUT.. I think you deserve, and can afford to be quite selfish in your situation.

Probably not easy, but talk to the other guy alone, if you can possibly arrange it.

I guess if he's already being as forward with you as he is.. slapping your butt an all. Well. Get you alone to talk and maybe he's going to make some sort of sign if not try to whisk you off to the cot asap.

So I imagine with any luck, you'd say to him, hey, what's going on between us? Where's this leading? ( I know we guys love those questions when we're horny. not lol) But put him on the spot, so you know where YOU stand.

Find out how he really feels about you, and HIS relationship. Maybe if he confessed he would do as much for you as your current situation or something etc.. you know, and you believed it etc. it could be something worthwhile. At least you can judge for yourself with more certainty of a good outcome.

Believe me though. If you were married etc. Well. I would also tend to advise on the side of stricter caution. I don't quit on my commitments easily in life and I tend to expect the same from people whom give me theirs.

But as a romantic at heart, I tend to like the notion that, worst comes to worst, your BF found out, well, maybe he has to get more serious about you, declare his commitment, or loose you.. if you see what I mean? I know I'm encouraging you to be selfish. But I have a reason for that.

All's fair in love and war is the old saying. Its one I tend to agree with right up until marriage vows have been swapped at which point those orders are (perhaps romantically again) somewhat over ridden or at least should be in the average union. But UNTIL then.. you're still on the battlefield soldier, and you have mostly only your own welfare and happiness to be concerned about as far as I can read your situation or the way I think I understand it.

 

Only on this forum can you get what I think is sound advice - but from a cream-pie! Fantastic!

 

Well i have been having a good think about it all, even though this guy drives me wild just thinking about him, im going to throw cold water over it all lol.

I would hate to think that my guy was doing this to me, and im not a heart breaker! Ive never two timed and ive never left a guy to hop straight into bed with another guy.

Now sit back in shock horror, but hes my first sexual partner, and i feel that im "missing out". I did try and explain this to him, but he just walked off. I put it as easy as possible, but he said that im just looking for an excuse to sleep around!

I dont think im attractive and im not special in any way. Ive had guys come on to me since meeting my guy, but ive never responded, i felt good that they thought of me that way. However ive never had dreams and fantasies about them!

Will keep you all informed, im suppose to be seeing him on saturday

 

I may be reading way too much into this, but my impression is that if you're having these thoughts, you're really not ready for an "exclusive" relationship with any guy.

I'd let go of the anchor chain and live a little.

 

Its a natural instinct for females to be attracted to other men who are with another girl. The easiest way to meet girls is to go out with another girl. More girls will check out a guy who is on a date than a single guy.
Are you sure you aren't looking to see if the grass is greener with your cousin's guy?

 

Slapping your ass in front of your bf and the instructor telling your bf, "I would give the bitch a better ride yuk yuk you know what I mean ha ha get it? get it?" That's called cuckholding your bf. You obviously don't respect your bf not to mention you must get off on humiliating your bf.

As for your bf's high denial he is obviously a wimp.

Why don't all three of you get together and you give the instructor a blow job in front of your bf and if your bf still thinks your instructor and you are joking then there is not much I can say.

To sum it all up the three of you sound fucking immature.

 

ROFL

 

Press the threesome issue!!

 

Thanks for some of the great replies.

When the guy says these things infront of my guy I soon put him in his place.

I would love to know how this is immature! Im hardly giggling like a school girl. I think that was rather uncalled for.