so there' this girl that i have been hangin out with for the last little while and we have been talkin about a relationship for a while....she just broke up with her bf that she's been with for 6 years...and yes i do kinda feel like a jacka**...so shes a little depressed but gettin better....but i feel are flame is diein down and i dont want that to happin...what should i do?

and plz dont tell me im an jerk for braken a 6 year thing...cuz i allready know and feel like one

sry if this isint the right thread/website to be askin this

 

you ask her out one night and take it from there.
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JUST FUCK HER ALREADY. SHE JUST WANTS SOMEBODY TO BE THERE FOR HER.

 

wev been fuckin for the last 4 months and iv been there ever time shes call and ever time i she wanted to hangout

 

So...you have been talking about a relationship WHILE SHE IS ALREADY IN a ~6 year one with someone else...
Thats as good as cheating...i bet shes a great catch...

Sorry my mistake...after seeing the previous post that IS cheating.

 

um...she was cheatin with me

 

and YOU let her cheat, its as much your fault as hers. Great guy you are for not having her break if off first, great girls she is for sleeping with someone else, great couple you will make until she decides to cheat on someone else again.

 

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Once a cheater always a cheater

 

some people can and do change

 

She'll still be stuck on him after beign with him for 6 years. I've been there, its a rebound.

 

can it still be a rebound when we'v been talkin about it befor they broke up?

 

Just keep fucking her until she starts fucking someone else.




Then I would still fuck her.

 

This is what happened.

Firstly, she was unhappy in her relationship.
Second, you came along. She realised she could have sex that was comparitively strings-free - because you two weren't dating. She had fun, and thought 'it might be nice to date him'.
Third, your attentions gave her the self-esteem and strength to get out the relationship.
Fourth, she realises that she's not ready for a relationship with you, or anyone. Perhaps she just doesn't want a commitment.
Lastly, she's realised that she's led you on. This is why the flame is dying.

Your situation, mate, is unsalvageable. It's over. You fucked her while she was in a relationship with another guy precisely because she was in a relationship with another guy. Now that's over, she doesn't want anybody.

 

WOW.........SO TRUE.



You are such a party pooper

 

dam....im impressed...that really makes alot of sences...but she still says she wants relationship...and he broke up with her cuz of a condom...

 

She says she wants a relationship because she hasn't the heart to turn round and outright say 'no' - not suprising, really, but unfortunate.

And he broke up with her? That's worse, in a way. While she was dating him, sleeping with you was a method of 'getting back' at him, even if only she knew it. Now that he dumped her, her power over the situation was abruptly taken from her. She's now completely impotent, having left the relationship without even the self-righteous indignation she thought she was promising herself by cheating on you. She's got nothing left, now.

What you represent, to her, is a failed attempt at dignity - and there's nothing you can do about that.

It's over, man. Let the flame die gradually and naturally. Don't push for answers; she won't have them. Let it fizzle out - and if it doesn't, then be pleasantly - very pleasantly - surprised.

I hope I've helped.

 

I concur.

 

Go for it. What are the chances that she's going to cheat on you with someone else?

 

Whoa.... sure, cheating on your partner is not a great thing to do, but that doesn't make her an awful person. At all. People get urges, simple human nature. Our capacity to be 'moral' creatures may tell us it's not right to always follow our urges, but that doesn't mean if we fail, we should be condemned. And I really don't see how it's his responsibility to make this girl be faithful. As long as he didn't push her into the decision, which I doubt, then it's her responsibility, her choice. How has he done anything wrong?

 

ya man...thanks.. it has kinda helped...im not really stressin about it as much...still wouldint mind havin one with her...but thanks.....you should have like your own show or somthin...cuz you got that shit figered out nicley done

 

*sigh* Figured out? I wish.

Just been there, seen it done, watched my mates do it... you learn that the wheel spins the same almost every time, man.