So I'm bi, and dressed a man I like women, dressed a woman I like men. I very much enjoy both sides of myself, but I had a troubling experience that I'm looking for advice about moving forward. I LOVE dressing up, gets me so excited. Back when Craigslist still offered the personals option, I took full advantage of it. Sometimes I just enjoyed the attention of posting pics, and having men tell me all the stuff they wanted to do to me. But even then I was still looking for someone to meet up with, spent a lot of time looking. I finally took the plunge to agree to have this one guy come over, and I said up front that it would only be a blowjob, made sure I made that point clear. So I was dressed, all done up wearing lingerie, buttplug in, and made sure the girls were propped up for some jiggle for the guy looking down at me(I'm lucky in that regard that I'm fit but still have some jiggle that's pronounced when I wear a bra, in this case strapless). When the guy came in, I pulled down his pants, and started blowing him. But he almost immediately started trying to pull me around the room by my hair(I have shoulder length hair that I make work in both worlds), and asking me if I had a rubber. I tried to ignore all of it while focused on the task at hand, but I eventually just felt too unsafe to continue and told him to leave. My question is if this is something that anyone on here has dealt with? I know the easy answer is the guy was just an asshole, but since it was my first experience meeting up with a guy all dressed up, I'm feeling a little jaded. I'm afraid to meet up with anyone else, because the guy seemed sane through email, then was a giant prick. I had a condom, but I'm a virgin back there and there was no way in hell I was going to let the guy who was pulling me around the room by my hair have me in that type of vulnerable position. I guess I'm afraid to get back out there, even though I want to, and was wondering if anyone here had any advice. Thank you in advance for any thoughts!

 

Well, I havent had that particular experience, but I know it can happen. I would suggest tryin to feel a guy out a bit before meeting. Since you have them come to your place, jokingly let them know that your fully strapped at home & dont have time & patience for someone to come over not knowing what they're there for! I know that sounds harsh, but lets face it, he was pulling You around your own place by the hair! Your the one should that should be in control! Not "dominant", but in control! I dont know if its really helped my experiences or not, but I Do let them know that whatever kinda crazy they might be,they've yet to encounter this kinda crazy! It may weed out a few that have bad intentions about coming over. Not the only way to deal with it, but just one angle! Good luck!

 

Maybe meet them out? No dresses up or anything. A couple beers or something at a public place, hopefully they’ll be more normal. And you can get a read on then

 

That's really great advice, thank you! I thought by having the guy come to my place, I was in control. But he kinda showed himself early, I didn't recognize it then, by asking who was watching. He kept asking who else was there, and what I figure is that it was like that guilty conscience thing. So thank goodness I wasn't at his place. The irony of that whole thing is that I had put my dog outside for the encounter, she's a pitbull mix, and she has protected me from so many things: a raccoon, a pack of coyotes, and a flippin' black bear. But she's still like my child, so I didn't want to corrupt her thoughts by seeing me engage in that behavior, haha. But if she had actually been inside, that hair pulling would have lasted all of two seconds.

 

Thank you! That's good advice, and I'll have to think about that.

 

Yes, keep the dog inside!! There it is, your solution right there! plus, use your good sense!!

 

You’re so nice! Thank you so much for helping and engaging with me!

 

No problem! Please let me know how yer next meeting goes! I know its nerve wracking!

 

Welcome! All about safety. You’re doing them a favor you know!