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  1. SweetieBrit

    SweetieBrit Amateur

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    Yo, I am a woman and I suck at masturbating. Like, I much rather be penetrated, it feels so much better than have my clit rubbed, if that makes sense. Is there anyone else out there who agrees??

    Also, I don't think I've ever had an orgasm??? Like, I enjoy being penetrated, but, honestly it's never really felt so amazing I think I'm orgasming. Does that make sense??

    Could I possibly be frigged??
     
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      Not meaning to butt in here... but the word is "frigid"... took me a minute to figure out what you meant :) and since I've butted in anyway... you might want to try the pulsating setting on your shower head.... Just a thought
       
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      Oh my god, I am laughing so hard at myself right now. Frigged, frigid. I'm actually a moron. Totally, not an excuse because I am actually an idiot, but it is very late at night where I'm from.
       
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  2. Adventurous_Pleasure

    Adventurous_Pleasure Porn Star

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    A lot of women are like that. Some can’t even orgasm unless they’re being penetrated or can’t orgasm at all via masturbation even with toys.
    Whereas other women can orgasm seamlessly endlessly via any method.
    Everyone is different and once you find what works then build off of that.

    I’m a guy but that’s my two cents without going deeper into the subject.
     
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  3. SweetieBrit

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    That's annoying when I'm trying to get off.
     
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  4. Cordelia Windsor

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    Some woman just can't orgasm with penetration alone, I've sadly learned this. I've never gotten off by penetration. Ever. In fact. I've only had one person get me off and it was by oral sex and even then it's damn near impossible. I've been the only one who can get me off and it sucks, but it's just something I've accepted. Have you tried both penetration and a different means of clit stimulation? I can't get off by my clit being just rubbed. I have to experiment and get creative. A vibrator on the clit (for at least an hour and a half), but an extendable shower head with the water stream on a preferred setting aimed at the clit has worked wonders.
     
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  5. SweetieBrit

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    I just want to experience a mind-blowing orgasm everyone is always talking about. I wan't it to be easy and comes super swiftly so I can have multiple, instead of one.
     
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  6. Cordelia Windsor

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    I've been masturbating for a few years now and I just experienced three orgasm (a few minutes a part) in one go and it was last night. I just think it takes time and exploring what gets you off. I can tell you from my experience the vibrator on the clit has probably taken me the longest and was the most painful (mainly because I feel like it's caused wrist and join point in my hands), I would recommend the shower head or even the bath tub faucet. That was my most mind blowing orgasm and it was the fastest means of getting off. Not to get TMI, but I hope that helps.
     
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  7. SweetieBrit

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    Thank you! One time my partner was fingering me and sucking on my clit (also tmi sorry,) and I thought I was close to an orgasm but, it never came. It was so bummy.
     
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  8. Adventurous_Pleasure

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    You’re going to have to experiment, different types of penetration, vibrations, rythms, toys and those specialised lubes. Worst case for you is that you may only be able to have on orgasm during masturbation instead of multiple during sex.
    Try using toys during sex or little changes to the angles and depths of the penetration.
     
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  9. Cordelia Windsor

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    Girl I hate when that happens. Or when they just suck at oral in general. That's why it's great to have a guy you can coach. Lol. I hope you get that mind blowing orgasm soon sweetie! :p
     
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  10. Sweetpassion

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    I am gonna send you a helpful pm with some very detailed information that just may help you out. At least i hope it does. Your still young and you got alot of time to figure this out. Best wishes.
     
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  11. robodroid

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    So I'm going in to some TMI as well. My wife for example doesn't handle masturbation well. She has never really explored herself in that way and lacks the experience one the ways she can touch herself to get things going. She has actually lost the mood doing so. I have no problem getting her off but we have been together for almost 20 years so I have figured it out so to speak.

    1) I'm saying that simply because as far as masturbation goes, it could be you just haven't explored your body enough to figure out what works. To that I say just take some time when your alone and just explore it. It doesn't have to be anything major nor does it have to be a one time thing but take time to touch and caress your body to know what turns you on and can open you up for that orgasm you desire.

    2) A partner is a different story and if you have multiple partners that can be a killer there too. Most men aren't to keen on getting a woman off it takes time and experience, what may have worked on the girl they were with before won't necessarily work on you. This also leads back to before, if you don't know what works to get you off you aren't going to be able to coach a guy through it either and they're going in blind. He might get off, you probably won't. Communication and knowing your body are key. Having a partner that is perceptive enought to read your body language helps too, if your not too vocal about what you want. Some can't and it's going to be a bad time.

    3) State of mind is important too. It seems like you're focused on the end instead of the journey. Having that orgasm build and build then thinking this is it, it's going to be tonight. Might be the worst thing for it. Since you're expecting it, you're probably subconsciously killing it.

    As for multiple orgasms it differs from woman to woman. My wife can go for a half hour or more with multiple orgasms. A friend of mine, his wife on the other hand is one and done. You'll probably have to train your body to handle multiple orgasms. One you figure out masturbation and are able to orgasm with that then try for two, or if you can get to orgasm with a partner keep it going into multiples. Just take it slow and enjoy the ride. The destination will get there eventually no need to rush it.
     
    1. SweetieBrit
      Thank you so much! It's very nice to have that insight. I really appreciate it.
       
      SweetieBrit, Jan 14, 2018
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      This is great advice.

      Getting a woman off the first time can take time as a guy, no matter how in tune you are with her body. Definitely doesn't help if she doesn't know herself yet.

      In any case, like this guy said, time and patient exploration is the key.
       
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  12. RCummings

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    To the OP have you thought about getting your self a vibe?

    Although I can cum happily through penetration I still need plenty of clit action, but that is me.

    I doubt you are frigid though
     
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  13. alok1091

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    Hello sexy
     
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    Try try and try again.
     
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    I don't know why I'm so entertained by just thread but I am
     
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  16. ladygodiva123

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    The only way I orgasm during intercourse is by rubbing my clit while he's inside me. Fortunately he thinks it's hot.

    When masturbating I like to use a penis shaped vibrator in my pussy while I play with my clit.
     
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  17. amethyst10

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    I think most women would rather be penetrated by a partner than masturbate. I can't say that sex feels better physically to me than masturbating because I can orgasm a lot faster by masturbating. But sex with a loving partner is much more satisfying. I'd rather have sex with my lover and not orgasm than masturbate myself to a dozen orgasms. And I'm pretty sure you'd know it if you were having an orgasm but the possibility that you haven't had one does make sense. Not coming doesn't make you frigid. You tell us nothing about yourself or your experiences so it's kind of hard to determine what, if anything, that might be lacking in your sex life. All I can say is don't worry about coming, just enjoy yourself and keep at it and hopefully the orgasms will come. Oh, and get yourself a good vibrator.
     
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  18. SweetieBrit

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    Well, something that I think could maybe add to the whole orgasm issue is that I was sexually assualted as a child, but I don't really know what that would do???

    It definitely makes it so I don't like to touch myself that much, as I feel gross doing it.

    I don't really know, I have tried a couple different things, but probably not enough.
     
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  19. 2Sensual

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    i feel we are a little more complex, if that's the correct word, as compare to men. I find, after many years, that it helps telling the partner what we like and how we like it. Out mood changes relatively often, and so, we need to express ourselves, to minimize the guessing work. This, improves orgasms by penetration and also, self stimulation should also help us, before, during and after a sexual encounter.
     
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  20. BigDDSub48

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    Sex is a lot about the mind too. Friction makes us come but you may find it easier and less pressured if you can let your mind go. Watch/listen to some porn. Don't rush it. Find time where there is no time constraint. A small clit stimulator and experiment. I like a small clit vibe and a dildo. I can put myself in the scene. Feel it. Or get your partner to whisper a fantasy to you. A voice in your ear can be very stimulating.

    Whatever you do, have fun.
     
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