My wife and i have been married for seven years and our sex life has always been up and down. I know its normal to masterbate but when you go from wanting to have sex all the time to not makes me think somethings going on. I say that because I've caught her masterbateing after she thinks i'm asleep or when i leave the room. When I say something she denies it. Is she cheating or am I crazy?

 

she could just like to masterbate some people do hell I do it when I cant sleep it helps

ever talked to her asked to be there when she does it

 

Did you ever ask her if you could watch? I would.

 

I've been going through phases simular to that at times. She has a different type of ogasm when she stimulates her clit, as opposed to a vaginal orgasm when having sex. Does she ride you? I know it can be most pleasurable to grind my clit against his pelvis to get my clit going while his penis is firmly in my pussy. I just rock back and forth.:excited: and usuallt get two for the price of one.

 

I find that when I'm having sex regularly, I'm less likely to wank. Perhaps she's just horny and isn't interested in the effort it takes to orgasm while fucking.

Hopefully she will open up if you ask her about it. Good luck.

 

You need to talk to your wife. Maybe is not getting the satisfaction with you during sex and takes matters into her own hands. I would do the same with my ex, he was horrible so I always took care of myself. I am not saying that is what is going on with your wife, but talking to her about it would be the best thing. Good luck!

 

You know you guys are very sweet, you did'nt jump all over me saying i suck in bed and stuff. Well I have tried to talk to her and she says she isnt doing anything. Well maybe I'm just analyzing this way to much but still dont like to be lied to.

 

Has she ever played with clit while you are having sex? I never did this with my ex, but now I do and I am glad that I feel comfortable enough to. It was very hard for me to do this for the first time, but when I seen how much it turned him on, it made it even better for me. Being on top is great as well. I have achieved some of the greatest orgasms this way!

Keep us posted!

 

Do you have a very freaky/open sex life? It seems like she's embarrassed ...

 

Most older women just won't admit to masturbating, because of the connotations society has placed on it. If you sound like you're accusing her, she won't. Don't be accusing.

 

+1

 

You guys masturbate all the time, and just to let you know...so do WE!

 

when you tried talking to her about it, what kind of approach did you take? Because that can have an influence on how she reacted and the things she does. If she lied to you, try to keep an eye out to see if she continues to lies. If she does lie again, confront her and let her know that you've caught her with the dildo in bed thing...so that if it is something other than cheating, maybe she'll be more likely to come out with whats wrong, if anything. Keep us posted, and good luck.

 

Sometimes I like to masturbate not have sex. it depends on her mood.

 

Any updates?

 

I am always horny and willing to do anything all the time. I masterbate alot and I masterbate in front of my hubby too. Maybe shes shy about masterbating and you should tell her it turns you on or something, so she's more willing to share. :excited: Now to try to get hubby to do it in front of me? He refuses, Its my ultimate fantasy to have a guy stroking in front of me. *drool*

 

You should encourage her to masterbate during sex. Maybe she can't orgasim from just fucking, she might need more direct stimulation. If she masterbates while you fuck her, she'll really get the great climax.

I also agree with whoever said it sounds like she's embarrassed.

 

A bit off topic, but she already did admit to it.