ok well im pretty new here and ive been looking around and i seen that yall try to be serious and helpful so i thought i would get your thoughts and advice.

im a male that is engaged to my girl soon to be married. my problem is that she isn't able to give me oral as she says it makes her gag. just the thought of it makes her sick when we go to talk about it, however she says she can if she has a can of whip cream to use. now im glad that she is trying by using the whip cream but i was wondering if yall had any advice about how to make it so she doesn't need the whip cream anymore.

also she doesn't really like to do any other positions other than her being on her back and me on top or her on top facing me. like she has to be able to see my face as she says its because she was raped when she was younger and it still bothers her. there has been a few times she has gotten past it but not much. i try to talk to her about it and sometimes it goes well but because of her bad past it makes it difficult to and i totally understand but i don't know what to do because i don't want either of us to miss out on the other good stuff.

so please take this seriously i don't want any answers that say something like "find another girl" or something like that because she is the one i want to be with and its my decision.

so if yall have any thoughts that aren't nasty, distasteful, or rude please feel free to let me know.

thank you

 

Hi. Im m 28 and my gf is 24 she was tge same but if u use toys and do alot of foreplay she will loosen up abit and will be so horny shed do anything pm me if u want more advice

 

Welcome to the forums... :rose:

For your first question, I sympathize with your girl a bit because when I first started out giving head I LOATHED it, I mean with a fiery passion, but its expected of every single girl out there and if she doesn't do it or at least act like she enjoys it then people talk shit about her. So I learned quickly how make it better for myself. I still gag if I see cum though so thats an issue sometimes.

Anyways, suggestions::

In place of the whipped cream she could try:
*Flavored Lube
*A piece of hard candy in her mouth (smooth nothing with a jagged edge)
*Honey
*Chocolate syrup
*Anything thick that would take a lot of licking to get off but wouldnt require a lot of reapplication so less stopping, etc. Like frosting.

To make it more fun for herself:
*She can touch her self while she does it
*You can try 69
*Pop on a porn she really enjoys
*Get her a suction cup dildo to ride while she does it
*ETC.. LoL
Remind her constantly how much you enjoy it. Sometimes just knowing I am doing a phenomenal job helps me get into it even more.


As for the second question, I recommend treading very slowly down this road as she sounds like she is still having some major mental issues with her past. You recommend that you guys see a counselor together so you can learn tips on how to support her while helping her to overcome at the same time, and she can get some of the issues out in the open which should make her feel better. Just go at her pace and never attempt to force anything or get angry at her for it. Remember its not her fault she feels this way.

Having said all that, there are PLENTY of positions where you can see each others faces and not be in missionary. Just google search positions and pick the ones where you can look at each other without too much straining.

Hope that helps.

 

Good advice from true love.

I would just like to add that I would stop trying to talk to her about her past. When she is ready she will talk to you, just make sure you listen.

Good Luck

Thinskin