I know this isnt really the type of forum to ask this sort of advice in, however, you all have always been great help in sexual help with me soooooo here's nothing

So, I have been best friends with this girl (shes bisexual) for years. We have dated the last year on and off up until a month ago and that too was when the sex ended.

Anyways, I know she had been talking to other people (girls) behind my back and about a week ago she came to me and told me she no longer wanted to be with me romantically and wanted to pursue a relationship with this girl. I am much better looking than this girl and have much more going for me in life. Sorry, dont want to sound rude, but I have been told this by others including her family for advice and have been told the same by them)

I have only slightly acknowledged her once since she started dating this girl. During this conversation, she told me that she loves me more than anything, including her, however, she just cant be with me right now.

What does that even mean? What should I do?

 

People inside the situation would have better insight than people outside the situation.

 

Well yes, obviously, but having more opinions on it from an outside view always helps.

 

She's playing with your mind. Move on to the next one pronto!!

 

Pretty much this. She has you as the back up plan. If things do not work out between her and this girl, then she will likely run right back into your arms.

She clearly does not want to be with you. I think it would be best to try and move on from this girl. She says one thing, but her actions say another. If she did, then she would not be involved with this other person.

 

If you care for her, let her figure her self out. She might be confused about what she really likes. It has nothing to do with looks my friend. It's finding her sexuality out. I'm not a sex therapist. But I did stay at a holiday inn express once.

 

I wouldn't take it personal it sounds like she wants to be with this woman solely and give it a chance without fooling around with others, that's her choice that needs to be respected. Bisexually she needed a change so allow her some room, keep in touch with her and keep the vindictiveness to the ladies.

 

I'm assuming respecting her wish is out of the question?

 

Yep!! Goodbye says it all.....move on.

 

Yup...moving on is hard at first but this doesn't sound like a road you wanna go down. She may be indecisive in everything. She's bi (this or that) your relationship (on and off). Take the hint and leave her alone.

 

I always choose good dick over good pussy, so if she's like me and went for the pussy....it had to be great!

 

You have to listen to what you see, not what you hear. People around you say you are a better person. Fine, that is their opinion. When your friend started talking behind your back, doesn't that indicate she doesn't feel like she can talk to you? What you view at better looking and have much more going on in life, maybe isn't the same as your friend? And maybe you just can't acknowledge or understand that?

It's not easy. Having an emotional attachment to someone and they no longer have the same feelings towards you. You have to learn to let go. If it's difficult to have a relationship as they engage in a intimate relationship with someone else, then you should let them know. Hey, I love you. I really thought we had something. I want you. But, I can't stand to see you with someone else so, I'm going to move on. That can be difficult for the other person to understand. They feel close to you to have a friendship and likely wish for it to continue. But, you need more from them or nothing at all.

I'd take some time to reflect on things. Maybe write a letter to your friend and express your feelings. Leave it for a day or two. Come back to it and decide if you still feel the same way or not. Make any changes. Then decide if you would like to share those feelings with your friend. Decide it it's best to send the letter or talk.

And be prepared to live with the outcome.

IMO, I think you should move on but, that is some stranger on a computer. You need to find a way to deal with things yourself.

You do have a lot to offer someone. You just need to find that someone that is worthy of what you have to offer.

Good luck!!!

 

She's toying with you, if she loved you more she would be with you, I know it sucks I've been there but the next girl will be better just move on

 

Walk away. When a person wants to be with you, they make a time and a place. When a person doesn't want to be with you, they make excuses.

Your looks might be a factor if this were a beauty contest. What you have going for yourself is just as irrelevant. This is not in your control, so don't expend anymore effort. Walk away and find someone who wants a good looking guy who has a lot going for him. That is something you can build a relationship on, not a woman who has looked you over and decided on someone else.

 

Thanks for the advice everyone.

To make it clear, I have left her alone and have not "bothered" her like some of you seem to think I have. I am just doing my own thing and letting her figure it our herself. Ill keep ya'll posted. Thanks again everyone