Rightfully so that our focus on sexual exploration in the bedroom is a big part of keeping them satisfied in those moments, but whether you feel lucky, gifted or blessed with a full time lover as somethings can't be obtained fleetingly? You must be aware to how your behavior outside the bedroom affects what takes place within it and how the connection between the two exists in a balance. If I've learned anything from a sex life gone wrong it was my focus on how my general loving ways were affected by what seemed like progressively overwhelming "missed" moments and the resentment led to being less romantically inclined.

Now when I look from the outside having come to the point where having sex outside my marriage with permission, has really loosened the pressure and is slowly becoming a more "romantic me" to my wife. She asked me just the other day if I'd found a lover (an agreement we made not to discuss) but I extended her the courtesy this "one time only" to say that I haven't. The "why" is simple, just because she's allowing it doesn't mean I'm going to lower my standards and just jump on the first offer (which there has been) to fuck! Not only do I have to meet someone, but that woman has to be of a quality standard and mature enough to handle a purely sexual relationship without conflating tenderness with love?

It's a very interesting time for me and the wife that is really showing signs of bringing us closer together even if it isn't sexually.

 

That's commendable to me in that I think anything that helps bring a couple closer romantically, sexually or in anyway at all that brings you both closer is always a good thing. As opposed to pushing you further away. IE: A lot of guys might get jealous of their other half being on sites like this and showing themselves provocatively and talking with other guys/girls about anything let alone intimate sexual things but my papi doesn't mind because he doesn't want to prohibit the things I like to do as long as we communicate things with each other and aren't being sneaky or upfront about it. I think we are secure in our marriage which is not something every marriage has. There's nothing we can't talk to each other about.

 

Did you tell your wife why you have not not engaged in a sexual encounter yet?
I hope you did so and using those exact words.
It will make your wife feel like she’s special... because you don’t have low standards with regards to your taste in women...
In a way it reflects on her..influencing on how she feels about her own self worth...
By explaining it the way you did in this post ....
It would make me feel that I am a woman of quality that is not easily matched... nor disrespected and cheapened by you going with any skank.
It’s no surprise your relationship is evolving positively, you are learning more about each other than you have in decades...
I think it’s a beautiful thing to see you guys getting stronger as a couple... I hope this is the beginning to something better for the both of you...
You guys deserve to find friendship and happiness in each other again...
and it all begins with the h word... honesty✨

 

Most people that feel they are not being taken care of in the bedroom will seek out someone who will fill there needs.

 

Strange at what it took to get somewhere, but yes I explained it (and mean it) exactly the way I wrote it with even more details that followed in a very open discussion. Thank you for asking..........