my girlfriend, we're ready for sex and we're both virgins. i try for a little while to penetrate her but it puts her in pain and i end up losing my erection, is this because i'm not hard enough or shes too tight, or a mix of both. answers would be nice. thanks.

 

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well...the first time will be tight for sure...and cause her pain. just relax, take it slow for a while....it will eventually work out just fine.

 

i guess you just gonna have to resign your self to staying a virgin all your life...doh! Try going down on her to get the wheels in motion...lol. Mind u...could be messy if she's a virgin...lol

 

Lots and lots of lube. I don't remember my first time being that much fun as I was drunk and it did hurt a tad. However, once plucked I was... ahem... ready for more, more, more... yessss, yesssssssss, yessssssssssssssssssssss.

20 years later... more, more, more... yessss, yessssssssssss, yesssssssssssss, more, yessssssssssss, more, more, yesss

 

actually I used to go out with this girl years and years ago, who was so f*cking tight it hurt like hell. She was a hell of a long way from being a virgin. Just was ludicrously tight. Sounds great, but f*ck did it hurt. Like sticking your dick down the neck of a wine bottle...which I imagine would hurt...lol...not that I have tried sticking my dick down the neck of a wine bottle. Nor would I try, for that matter. But if you tried it would hurt.

 

I had the same prob actually 1st time, and she was a tiny little thing too. Didnt have to use any lube, we just stopped and waiting, i think it was another month, much more romantic setting and all for her. You know alot of girls 1st time, and i guess times affter that are very mental, she has to be comfortable for it all to open up. Try some foreplay too ! Working the clit always wettens it for me..

 

Lots of good advice has been mentioned already - lube and foreplay. A good idea would be to start fingering her with one finger, then when she feels loosened up, move to two fingers, and then move up to three and so on until your fingers together are about the size of the thickness of your penis. And if she is not totally comfortable with the situation it would make her even more tight.

 

that happened to me and my boyfriend the first time too...you just gotta keep trying...everytime you try it works a bit better until it isnt a problem anymore...it wuz easiest for me when i wuz on top so give that a try

 

my first time was rather painful.. the pain didnt last very long and soon i was having sexx with him like we had been for years..

the initial penetration is going to be painful for her.. different.. new.. try starting off small like with your fingers to get her to loosen up.. then go for the big one..

 

its a combo.. don't be too sensitive to complaints of pain from a healthy young woman is my advice.. you get a can opener down there as a guy.. women don't appreciate your aggression as a male 98% of the time.. BUT this is when they need you to assert that controlled aggression for both your sakes imo.

 

position

Read Kama sutra, it can help you try many alternative positions of sex,good luck,enjoy

 

would the length of my penis come into play in this. fully erect i'm 6 inches or so. Is this too small?

 

Ohhh .. is my cock too small to fuck a virgin ?? Oh sure .. lubes, lots of lubes ..call a surgeon .. and first time ooooh so painful ...

ARE YOU KIDDING ME ?? Has the whole damn world gone nuts ?? Lubes ? Painful ? Cock too small ? Green aliens around the corner, eh ? For heaven's sake !! You wanna fuck a girl for a first time than fuck her ! What's the prob ?? Push in, she might feel a litte pain but that's over in a sec... never mind ... Oh MY !!!

 

From a male point of view..

A bit of confidence is what you need.

As advised above..foreplay, fingers etc..and when she is really wet and ready...go for it...put it in steady and firmly...do not stop until you are buried in her to the hilt!

 

*laughing* It had to be said.

 

Hehehe,

Makes me wonder about the very few times "manliness" is really required in a woman's life.. in no particular order:

1)To lift heavy things
2)Lay down the "law" to the kids.
3)Defend her when she (as usual) picks a fight with someone her man wouldn't of - or even begged her not to attack or so.
4) Be there during birth in case the need to bite someone becomes overwhelming.
5) Take her maidenhead despite feeble protests about pain.

Any others?

But the last one is as old as time and the reason it "gets so hard it feels like it might snap off" sometimes.

 

Ya not for everyone....there are such things as naturally small girls and obviously naturally large guys...put the two together and it causes pain so u gotta go slow...but is my cock too small to fuck a firgin???? riiiiight

 

AND YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT MR. FANFICTION!!!!:rose:
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Got to agree, Get her relaxed then just go for it. Always works for me.