Hello everyone, first let me start off by saying that I appreciate anyones advice on the matter, useful or not. So on to the matter at hand I'm a 24 year old, normal guy 6'3", average build, and of hispanic/black decent, but I also am a virgin who is in a real need to get laid. Now this lack of experience doesn't come from some horrible deformity or a psychological imbalance, it's simply due to 22 years of asinine dogmatic beliefs and a very strict religious upbringing. Now that I don't have these things holding me back I would like to experience the sensual arts, you know BJ, Hj, all the different positions, and especially to preform oral on a woman I can't explain it but that particular act really gets me going. Anyways I'm getting off topic my question is would it be wise for me to hire a prostitute to help get me comfortable with the whole act of having sex or should I just let it happen naturally. I don't have a problem getting a girl it's just when it come close to the act I self-sabotage to avoid having sex, because i psyche my self out to the point where I just can't do it. So my gut feeling right now is to hire a 'lady of the night' someone who i know will be open to my particular situation and help introduce me to the art of fucking; I think from there I can move on to a more normal sex life.

Anyways, I apologize for the block of text and if you got this far thanks for hearing me out and again any advice is appreciated.

 

Good. Get the right instruction from a lady of the evening. It might not give you college credit but the tutition is worth it. Now for eating pussy: Some like it soft and others like it hard and most like it anyway they can get it. The tounge is nothing inside, according to my teacher of old. Work the clit and listen for and feel the the clues. Bring a little experience and your guirl will appreciate it.

 

Swami Boy thanks for the awesome and quick response. And thanks for the cunnualingus pointers like i said any advice helps

 

Get a pro, so you can psyche yourself out, you probably still have to pay her/him. :wall:
You will always remember you first!! How do you want to remember it?

Go watch the movie - The 40 Year Old Virgin

 

The way i see the best is possible go with a girl you like if you get her a your girlfriend then slowly work your way towards it. It would come naturally when you perform. Otherwise you can always hire a girl of the night and help you thou i found it the best play come out when you are with someone you love very much and care about.

Hope it help you

 

You probably want to try first with someone you're comfortable with. Even if you do have your first time with a prostitute, your first time with someone you care about will still (I believe) will be an emotional barrier you'll need to overcome. Just my two cents.

 

Well liltxsmile I did think about it and I'd like to think that this will be more of a lesson or a test run then an actual 'first time', honestly I'm just afraid of not pleasing the one I like or screwing something up; my buddies tell me it's cool if it happens but I'm of the school of thought that if your going to do something do it right, but I may have set too high a standard for myself.

Anyways thanks for the response, it's good to get a woman's input on this.

 

Hmm that is something I had never thought of sexy_nic I was so concerned with getting laid that the thought hadn't occurred to me. Thanks.

 

Avoid the prostitute if you can. It's your first time so just let it happen naturally! It's bound to be a better experience if you wait for a woman you genuinely like. Keep in mind- no one expects you to be an expert in the beginning. Most men need a little training with a new woman because preferences vary.

Good luck whatever you decide!

 

My apologies for the triple post, but thanks Kenster I had missed your post, and your absolutely right I do want my first time to be with a girl i really like but i feel that I'd be much more comfortable if I at least had some experience.

 

It just a matter of taking your time. If your girlfriend is as virgin as well the both of you would have fun just trying to do it so it really doesn't matter if you have or havent done it in the first place.

I been in your position around the same age but just take your time when it happenes it more fun then you can think of it

 

Thanks again Kenster and thanks christina2709. You all are starting to sway me to the waiting side, and the best advice is from the ones who've experienced it. I'm curious to know if there is anyone who had lost their virginity to a prostitute or a very experienced woman, and what their advice would be.

 

Get yourself a prostitute and do it now. Why wait one day longer to get laid? You can keep working on finding the right girl but that might be a while when you could get laid tonight for a few bucks. That will also give you something new to think about in the future when you're jerking off.
Look at it as on the job training.

 

I think this was nicely put.

For the OP, simply depends on your personality. If your first time will be with a professional and that does not bother you or think you will not regret it in the long term then of course that is something you can seriously consider doing.

But to me there is way more than physical movements to sex. Going to a pro I would guess lacks any emotion, passion and lust in the sex. Now I know many guys emotion does not have to enter into the equation for hot sex but I would think passion and lust would.

Most women but maybe very immature, shallow or just looking to get laid women are not really going to give a damn you are a virgin. Certainly with the reason you have for not trying not to be is something easy to believe in. In a relationship where a woman cares for you they will not see you being a virgin as bad at all. In fact do not underestimate the amount of women out there that would view your virgin status as a challenge, be touched you picked them or get a big thrill out of taking your virginity.

In terms of sabotaging yourself out of being afraid you will be bad or not get some things, just relax. First I would suggest telling the woman you are with that you are a virgin. She will know then some things like awkwardness or quick trigger will be expected. Second most women into a guy for a relationship and not a one nighter are not judging the relationship on how well the first fuck went. Most are always nervous the first time with someone regardless of how many men we have had. Most will want to see improvement in the sex the more we spend with someone, the more comfortable we get with each other naked in bed and as our trust grows with our feelings for the man the more we will open up. The first fuck with a guy I think for most women and certainly with me is not some sort of pass/fail test.

Relax, everyone goes through what you are going through. Age is irrelevant to that fact.

 

just let go and the next chance u get, shag that pussy. eat like a starving Ethiopian. Just grow a set and then use it bro!

 

Do you have any idea what happens with a whore? You think she has the time to babysit you to get it up? No idiot, she comes, she asks for the money upfront, gives you 5 minutes to get it up; if you can, great (you fuck), if you can't she is out of the door with your money and you will truly be burned out then. The only time when you might get a whore to stay, is if you order 2 of them (she needs a friend) you have a shitload of coke in the house and have around $1K handy . Then you can get kinky and they will get you going.

So, since I am assuming you do not have the $1K or the coke, you can't fuck around with a whore. It will be a traumatic experience when you can't get it up and that's it for you. My advice is, you get some Viagra online (or Mexico if you happen to travel there). Keep a pill with you at all times, much like a condom since you never know when the opportunity arises, and wait for the perfect time. Pop that pill 30 minutes before the nasty and you will be hard wheather you like it or not. And stop being so gay, fucking blaming others for your problems, it is not the upbringing or the family that kept you virgin, it is your inability to get that dick up, so go do something about it.