Bc he probably wants a cock

 

You should only wait...

 

I've heard that, generally speaking, while a man's sex drive diminishes with age, a woman's sex drive increases from age 30 onward.
Talk it out before you decide to cheat.

 

So, here's my perspective. I'm not sure how old you and your hubby are (it might have been mentioned here somewhere, but I haven't read through the entire thread), but at 43, I am having issues with my sexual situation. It takes more work to get things going these days. I need to feel wanted, and I NEED intimacy and foreplay to get things working. My wife continues to tell me she wants more sex, but I am the only one ever initiating, and many times I get shut down for whatever reason. She also wants to get right to it, without the kissing and touching that I currently need to get things to work. So, even though we both supposedly want it, I don't initiate that much any more, because I'm either shut down, or I feel like I am a huge disappointment that can't satisfy her any more. We have tried some alternative options that have worked, but they are not for everyone. Yes, I look at porn and read stories and come here to the chat....aside from the intimacy, I can also get things to work with visual stimulation. Anyway, there could be so many different issues. Depression, stress, age are definitely a few that could truly be problems for your husband. I think the best thing to do is to truly talk to him about it. See what he wants. If you can, find out what kind of porn he is watching, as that might be an indicator of what might work.

 

and to maybe he likes incest poen, or tranny porn,or doggy porn, that's to kinki for you and he doesn't want to tell you!. or maybe likes gay porn. but something is getting him off. see what he likes,maybe he likes little girls,maybe u could dress up like one?

 

If you want your man to eat your pussy you must wash your asshole!!!

 

Your pussy probably stank !

 

This may seem crazy and ridiculous but how about a makeover? Men are visual creatures. Change it up perhaps something drastic (not short tho) bleach your hair if you are a red things along those lines. An ex enjoyed changing her look often and it was like dating several women. No matter how stunning hot and sexy you may be men don't dig eating steak breakfast lunch and dinner... Also if you are as goodlooking as everyone is claiming you will be more easily able to pull off other opposing unlikely styles...


BTW You DO NOT want to know the answer to your OP...Just saying

Good day

 

Idk what's wrong with your husband. I'd love to be in his situation as my wife only wants sex maybe once or twice a month. I end up masturbating allot to relieve my horny feelings.

 

I've lost interest in my wife. Just got to the stage where I'm too lazy and can't be bothered anymore. Sex with my wife has become so boring I'd rather be on my own for a wank. I asked her and asked and asked her for some certain things I liked and she pawns them off and says we'll do it the next time. I've never asked for anything crazy, just a little bit of kink, like some stockings and hi heals for example. Asked her one time would she dress up with fake tattoos she started accusing me of wanting to fuck other women.

Our sexs involves me licking her out until she's cums, then I have to fuck her until she cums. There's fuck all in it for me. I can't even finger her she doesn't like it, she doesn't let me eat her pussy from behind, now she doesn't like my cum on her body, the list goes on.

She'll give me a blow job but have to cum into a fucking tissue and wash it first. So I'll wake up in the morning lying there with a hard on then I get the old "go clean" I have to get up and wash it if I want a blowjob, im sorry but the mood is gone. I've had a shower before I've gone to bed that night how bad can it be?

I hope some day I catch her fucking someone else, I won't be mad I'll say fair enough, I'm now going to get all the pussy I can.

Not sure how this pretains to the OP, but are you sure you are satisfying his interests? What you might think he should like is not what he might be into. He me might have a fetish you don't know about.

 

Have you thought about a girl? I'm in North Ala...

 

After what I read here....can't imagine a guy having a low sex drive....but I guess it does happen.

For time in my relationship with my wife, we never had sex with each other or others. We just looked after our self. I would have sex every night if I could....but my wife put a limit on that. Hence porn from VCRs.... or late night readings. I kept this hush hush until after we had kids. For some strange reason, I remember telling her that I was jerking off in the evenings and that it was easier to do this than to bug her and get turned down. I needed to get off in order to make my sleep better. Later, I saw her getting herself off in the hammock in the yard....several times...and then I started to realize she also enjoyed masturbation....we had both come to terms, unconsciously, with our sex life. We both found ways to cope.

When I discovered she was masturbating, I was affronted. How could she engage in sex without me? One night in the tent, I woke up and saw her doing her deed and asked to participate....she denied doing anything and rolled over and went to sleep. I confronted her about it...and she denied doing anything. And for a number of years, this was a bone of contention with me. Here she was masturbating frequently, but denying my request for sexual relations. Sometime along the way, I developed a heart condition called Afib. It did not stop me from being horny....but I sure stressed my heart when I jerked off. My frustrations were set aside and so too was our sex life.

Now I am starting to realize that I have a few short years left and I want to enjoy sex with my wife again and have resumed communication. She has admitted and acknowledged that she masturbated and it was so what. For me that is a step forward...I have just gotten over my indignation of being ignored as a sexual partner....I am looking ahead with more communication....

My point is that you need to keep talking with your partner.....find out what makes him tick....do you need to feed him Viagra or Cialis...or gay porn or whatever.

You gotta keep talking if you value your partner.

I have thought about quitting numerous times.....especially when I get turned down. But value the history of your relationship too....

 

This may sound odd but if he watches porn, try find out what porn he watches. Get involved with him.
Then when your having sex with him, try and implement some of the stuff he watches.

I know sex shouldn't be like porn. But if that is what he likes.. just my 2 pence

 

You need to get out here to California a look me up when you do

 

Ladies Im in the same boat. My wife hasnt wanted sex in years. I get it maybe 1-2 times a month and then its just me getting off in missionary style

 

Without hearing from him, I can't help you.
When people talk about a problem in their relationship, they almost always put the onus on the other person.
Have a mutual friend talk to him. Someone who can be impartial and non-judgemental.

 

I'm having the same problem with my husband right now. I'm really thinking hard about getting it elsewhere.

 

I wish I was getting 1-2 times a week. At any point in the past 20 years.

 

He promised his girlfriend or boyfriend he wouldn’t fuck anyone else but then.

 

Nothing a little licking or a lot wouldn't cure. Tell him to cum taste your young studs dream-pie (fantasy or not). Maybe a kinky twist will fire him up. Communication is everything. No bitchin. Count your blessings and orgasms.