We've been in the lifestyle for a while, and I have never seen happier couples. It takes thought and care and is not for everyone, but it represents complete trust and a true and deep care for your partner's happiness.

 

I didn't so much share my wife she wanted to share her body with me & a friend

 

We're polyamorous; we both have other sexual and romantic partners. We don't call it "sharing" or "swapping," though. We have independent, individual relationships with multiple people.

Some of the reasons it works are that everyone knows about everyone else, we're completely transparent about it, and we all have regular STI tests. Also, we're "wired" poly - I don't know any better way to say that. I think some people are inherently non-monogamous, and some people are inherently monogamous. If you want to be non-monogamous and your partner doesn't it can be difficult, impossible, or relationship-ending.

 

There's a huge difference between @VenusInFurze 's description of polyamory and inviting a man into your relationship to please the woman. I can only relate to the latter. Don't think polyamory would ever work for us.

 

As a matter of fact we had one last night unexpected total stranger got fucked hard

 

I think there can be less jealousy when it's two couples because no one is the odd person out. That doesn't mean no jealousy but no one's a third wheel who goes home alone.

 

A lot of guys chicken out when it gets real.

 

Sorry to hear that he let you down, but its nothing personal, I have tried to organise several groups of guys to come to my place for as long or as short time as it suits them.
As you said they don't even have the decency to Phone,TX, or email you they are not coming.
I stop even trying. They are ill mannered grubs who you don't want in your house never mind your lives.
Their that's sorted [/QUOTE]

I heard several horror stories. Most of the guys I invited over were close friends or coworkers or dependable guys. One of them was really ill-mannered, we decided kicking him out but he was a great lay for my wife. He was also smoking while he did her and we have no smoking rule and did some other crazy thing lol

 

It's ok. That way we weed out people who we don't want anything to do with. We already have a friend but wouldn't mind one more to have fun with every now and then. That is not required though. We are not going to pick someone just because they have a cock. We have to get along with that person too.

 

I think there is only one test: if its gonna make you and your partner happy, go for it.

 

Thanks to all who have voted thus far. I was curious how many people enjoy this. I would love more responses though. Even if your answer is "No" it is interesting to me to see the results of this question.

To break it down by gender...

So far of the women who answered:

10.5% do not want to be shared at all
6.9% would like to be shared but hubby is against
13.7% want to be shared but not sure how hubby feels about it
68.8% are being shared and enjoy it


Of the men who answered:

10.6% do not want to share their wives at all (about on par with women's vote)
21.1% of men want to share wives but wife wants nothing to do with it.
23% of men want to share their wives but have not broached the subject perhaps
45% say they share their wives

So interestingly about 90% of respondents both men and women like the idea of some form of wife having sex with another man in their marriage. The majority of those engaging in this activity are the women on this forum apparently instead of the men...which I found interesting. Only 10% of people responding are in favor of this.

Granted this is a sex/porn site forum so I imagine the answer to be different when polling the general population but then again I might be surprised! lol

To those who have not shared their anonymous opinion, please feel free to chime in to this poll

 

That is quite a HOT description! Got hard just thinking about that. My favorite part is the part where he is not sure about touching her in front of me as we talk and then she either puts her hand on his leg or lifts her leg over his leg to signify it's ok to touch. He glances over to see my reaction and then proceeds to rub her legs mmmm...hot!

 

Plainly it has to be a mutual decision between the couple to "swing." On other sites I've been on the couple generally wants to meet the 3rd. party maybe more then once and they come put a say, "No sex the 1st. meeting." Then, I guess, they discuss it as partners and if both are okay with the 3rd. party a sex meeting is arranged.

 

Hump...lol