Men put off by women making the first move? -idiots! I have been on both sides. I find it very flattering when a woman makes a move on me. It lets me know I still have "it"!

 

Before I swore off office dating I found that three big factors played into me hardly ever getting asked out.

1 Being short
2 Being if a different ethnicity
3 Guys being afraid of the complications of inter office relationships.

The guys that are really into short Asian girls are usually the geeky nerdy type and don't ask women out much anyway.

 

How tall are you x

 

I hate that I'm surround by Asians that are too stuck within the Asian circles. They all complain about having "dated everyone" don't realize that there are more people out there than their immediate surroundings.

I even got chasized from Asians for dating outside my ethnicity. Like really.....

 

Kind of a different social situation, but my first wife & myself were at a swinging party with about 8-10 other couples. Things started out in the living room but we began to pair off. At first I was in one of the bedrooms on the floor in a 69 with a sweet young woman for a little while. Then I was approached by the lady of the house { the couple who was hosting the party } a buxom blonde who was probably mid 30's I was 25. She took me by the hand. Whispered in my ear that she had been waiting on me. Then led me into the master bedroom & shut the door. We tangled up on their waterbed at first just making out. Then proceeded to really get it on. She was super hot & very sweet. Her name was Reggie & I'll never forget her !!

 

I've had quite a few women who have made the "first move." Duh! Women get horny too.

 

Yes, I prefer the woman making the first move, although, historically, I tend to mishandle these situations (I'm bad at reading signals).

 

Women can smell "taken" on a man. I swear. Smh.

 

That had been part of the problem for me, in that most of these opportunities were in the workplace and the one time I acted upon it, I completely misread the situation and could actually have gotten into a lot of trouble.

And to this day, I still feel bad about the incident.

 

I was def the one who approached my husband when I saw him. Not typical of me at all. But I knew. Whether I liked it or not. Mine! Must have! Approaching him was best decision ever.

 

One study of cold calling at a uni showed 75% sucess rate for females asking males for sex, and 0% sucess rate for males asking females (probably reported for sexual harassment too!)

 

0% seems a little low, but maybe things have changed since my college days.

If I had to account for all the women who approached me for sex, their success rate was about 50%. Sometimes things just don't work out, for reasons that have nothing to do with her attractiveness, or how much I want to fuck her.

It was in January of 1990 and I had just met the woman who is now my wife. It was a Friday night and she was coming to my house for dinner and breakfast. I stopped at a grocery store to get all the stuff. It was slow and there was no one in line behind me. The cashier was a gorgeous little girl with nice tits and big blue eyes. She says, "You cooking dinner tonight? It all looks good."
I smiled and admitted that I was cooking dinner. She's in no hurry to check me out. The food is just sitting there and she is looking me straight in the face with her blue eyes. She says, "It's been a while since I had a good meal. I get off in an hour and I have nothing to do tonight."

In the previous year, I had probably stopped and bought one meal's worth of groceries a couple dozen times, and she picks the one night I was busy to invite herself to dinner at my place.

 

'One of the most cited series of experiments in social and evolutionary psychology are those conducted by Clark and Hatfield (1989, 2003) and Clark (1990). In these experiments, conducted to test the classic evolutionary theory notion that men are generally more receptive to sexual offers than are women (Symons, 1979; Trivers, 1972), college students approached fellow students and asked one of three questions: (a) “Would you go out with me tonight?” (b) “Would you come over to my apartment tonight?” or (c) “Would you go to bed with me tonight?” Men and women differed markedly in their receptivity to casual sexual offers (see Table 1).

Table 1
Percentage of Agreement by Gender and Type of Request

Type of Request
Gender of Respondent Date Apartment Sex
Men 50.0% 69.0% 75.0%
Women 56.0% 6.0% 0.0%

http://interpersona.psychopen.eu/article/view/121/html

 

I guess it's all in how you ask.

 

@Riskykristi1 guess you were fortunate enough to be around more diverse people lol

 

I make all the first moves on my husband. When we were kids dating and now for sex

 

I would love to be sought after but I just don't have that with him. It's been a long time since he has come to me let alone chased me for love...

 

I'm sorry to hear that, like you said everyone needs to be loved and desired.