Closets sometimes open. Family secrets are hard to keep secret. It's not easy to hide yourself from the one you love. Plenty of men are bi-curious. For those who have satisfied that curiosity, are actively bisexual, and have admitted it:

Interested in hearing stories of bi-men who are married or in a committed relationship with a woman and have - come out, come clean, spilled the beans, fessed up, whatever you want to call it - about their bisexual nature and activity to their woman.

Wives and Women - what happened when he told you? How did you feel? How did it effect your relationship.

Husbands and Men - what happened when you told her? How did you feel? How did it effect your relationship.

 

I knew my girlfriend was bisexual before ever admitting my own sexuality. In a way, it made me more confident in saying so... it would be hypocritical for her to be able to be and me not to. Since 'coming out' our personal sex life has become far more interesting and so has the willingness to bring others in. I'm certainly glad I told her for both sexual and psychological reasons. Sex is one of the most important parts to a relationship and keeping feelings like that inside can be downright tormenting. It can be intimidating, but I say admit your desires early, because they are not likely to change. Hopefully your partner embraces them, if they don't, they may not be right for you because you will never be truly fulfilled.

 

My wife knew and sensed before I needed to tell her. She'd found out on the threesomes we did where she was the center of the attention. We did a few things where I could suck off a guy but unfortunately it didn't excite her and made her feel uncomfortable.

 

Please, other experiences from bi people?

 

Maybe there are alot more closeted bi-guys than ones who have had "the talk" with their partner.

 

I'm not a guy but when I told my boy friend I liked girls it seemed to put him on edge and he tried to over compensate on everything
Not sure if that helps any

 

Thanks for digging up my 8 month old thread. I was surprised that more people had not responded. I can only guess that a person's bisexual nature, when in a committed hetero relationship, stays closeted.

 

I have several friends, both sexes, who were bi. Almost every time they told their mates it ended up in divorce.

 

i always had been curious and i tryed it out a few times and have really enjoyed my experiences with guys. the role reversal and being submissive instead of dominating, which is how it mostly is having sex with women, i was always nervous telling my girls of my enjoyment of cock, unless i knew they were into it. I have had mixed reviews, the girl i mostly fool around with now she loves the idea and the fact, doesnt neccessarily want to see it yet, but she enjoys the ass play i like and the thought of me with another guy. it has gone both ways though however and luckly for me really, none of the girls who wernt into it, didnt blow my spot up.

 

When my wife and I went from 8 years as best friends to lovers.... we told each other everything. I got to share with her my 25 year secret, that occasioanlly when watching porn ( film or mags) Id see a cock that my mouth just wanted to suck. And I didnt understand... I wasn't attracked to men at all.

She didn't freak, but instead encouraged me to explore and chat online. 10 years later and I am comfortable with myself now, and realize there are a LOT of men in similar situation. My wife however had to admit that while she intellectually "understands and accepts" she emotionally just can't handle 2 men being intimate... can't blame her, I don't like gay or bi porn either.

She has however been talking more about it with men who have done it... and recently said she could handle me being oral with another guy.... not sure she really means it though... really hope someday to have the experience, but don't want to go behind my wife's back...

Now my wife's bi curiosity? No Problem LOL Go for it honey!

 

I'm bi and when I told my Girlfriend she broke up with me, despite that I now have a much more comfortable friendly relationship with the girls I hang out with at college, as they now feel comfortable talking about guys in front of me and asking my opinions

 

My ex told me a month or two into our relationship that he was bi. I was concerned that I wouldn't be enough for him, that eventually he'd need something I couldn't give him.
The idea of him being with another man was exciting to me - it gave me material for many a wank!

 

Some interesting stories and reactions. What's yours?

 

Well, it was about 3 years ago when I met my girlfriend for the time. After being together for about two weeks, she brought the subject up. It caught me off guard at first. I never told anyone of my curiosity over the years. She admitted that watching guy-on-guy porn REALLY turned her.on. This was a total suprise to me. I never knew that a lot of women are turned on by this. A few days later she brought the subje ct up again. But this time she clearly had a purpose. We started talking and she flat out aske if I ever had those kinds of desire. Of course I told her "NO". I tried my best at selling that story....but she saw right throught it. The next thing I knew, we weee in the car headed to the adult book store. She wanted to purchase a strapon. After getting home, she ripped my clothes and her clothes off and then she put on the strapon. She was going to gently break me in. I was scared and excited all at the same time. That afternoon was the best sexual experience so far in my life. Well, two days later, she got to view in person, the activity that turned her on so much. During the two days, we went searching for the "right" guy. She went absolutely wild! And I had a good time also. :excited:

 

Well that's a good outcum. Sounds like the relationship is no longer active? Your bisexual practices continue with or without her?

 

I'm a girl and was looking at gay porn and my bf caught me but he just watched with me then when it finished we went to bed and I noticed his hard on.

I kept thinking about it and then the next day why stuck in a traffic Jam I asked him if he had done anything with a guy. he told me he hadn't but wanted to and I admitted I've always wanted to have sex with a girl then we talked for ages while stuck in traffic and we both are on the same wavelength and want to have a 3some with either sex.

 

when I started dating my girlfriend she was 25 and I was 40. one day we asked each other our biggest fantasy, of course mine was to watch her eat pussy, well her being bi that was no problem. her biggest fantasy was to watch me suck cock for her. well she did it for me so I did it for her. now over the years its helped out. my cock doesn't get hard quickly again so I get to suck and be fucked and watch him fuck her. sex is get now. only problem is that we do it with our guy friend more then the girl.... women they always get their way.

 

Absolutely wonderful communication! Sounds like you two were made for each other.

 

Life changes. Way to keep up with those changes. Time to even-up these activities.

 

When I was 16, I was staying at a mates house as I did most weekends, but this one night, we were discussing wanking, and it soon became obvious that we were stroking our own cocks. This lead to the suggestion that we do it together, so I went over to his bed and as he pulled back the doona and I saw my first hard cock that wasn't mine, I immediately knew that I was going to enjoy cocks. I climbed on top of him and within a few seconds we had blown over each other, a very quick intro into the world of cocks, but over the coming days and weeks, we learnt how to stimulate each other and enjoy the experience through sucking, stroking and eventually fucking.
This became a regular session for us both, even when we both had girl-friends, we would meet discreetly for a cock session.
Eventually my mate meets wife No1 and for years that stopped our plays, I also got married, and likewise did not go near cock for about 15 years.
Recently however, I have once again started to enjoy cock, and through various sites, I have meet another regular suck/fuck buddy that I se every fortnight or so.
Hence why I love cock.