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  1. Sia.

    Sia. Pixels Banned!

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    I’m really sorry bad things like that happened to you.

    And ..I definitely don’t think people need to have been abused to be into bdsm.

    But ..I don’t know about comparing being gay to enjoying bdsm. So ..please teach me! Is bdsm beyond sexual for you?
     
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      I believe that it is beyond sexual to me. Bruises MEAN something to me. And maybe that isn't healthy. I wouldn't engage in BDSM with someone I didn't trust. I wouldn't engage in it with anyone but my partner, I don't think, because it means something to me. It means complete trust. It means that he owns me. It means he could do whatever he likes to me, and knows where the line is. And he would never cross the line. He knows where the line is because he knows me. I have never had to use my safe word, and I don't believe I would ever need to, however, I know that if I said it, he would respect it. My partner is my daddy, and that is a deep deep thing that goes beyond sex. The whole thing is very emotional to me. Being degraded is very emotional to me. All in a beautiful way. All in a way I wouldn't change for anything, even if it only came about because of abuse.
       
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  2. RCummings

    RCummings Porn Star

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    Yes in moderation. I have a paddle and some ropes, some handcuffs and a little spanking can be fun
     
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  3. Macht

    Macht Sex Lover

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    Most BDSM is more about the power and control for both parties than just the physical pain. The pain releases endorphins which causes a sort of natural high. A true Dom/Sub relationship is more about the trust each party has in the other. It actually creates for greater intimacy. As long as both people are willing.
     
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  4. VenusInFurze

    VenusInFurze Online Odalisque

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    Bdsm and pain aren’t sexual to me. So I certainly don’t fit the sexual masochistic disorder or whatever the hell is in the DSM-V!
     
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      I hate the way people read that book and think they're experts on people.
       
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      The only way that any disorder is a disorder is if it causes you distress in your life. Otherwise, it is classified as a fetish (if it's sexual). For instance, if you like wearing women's clothes, and your wife knows and is accepting, and it doesn't affect your job, and it doesn't affect your marriage, and it doesn't affect your health, and you don't get into trouble with the law for it... then it's a fetish. If you have to hide it from your wife and that becomes stressful, or if your co-worker sees that you are wearing pantyhose when you sit down and your pants raise above your ankles and they give you shit and that becomes stressful, etc, then it's a disorder. If you are an exhibitionist, but you go to appropriate venues to do your thing, and you never get in trouble with the law, then it's a fetish. If you flash unsuspecting ladies in the park and get arrested, it's a disorder.
       
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      Also possibly a felony ;)
       
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  5. user 326

    user 326 Renaissance Man Banned!

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    Hell no. If anything, it's merely cathartic and an endorphin release and a high. A lot of people are into it who weren't abused and vice versa.
     
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  6. thinskin

    thinskin Porn Star Banned!

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    I would absolutely disagree with this thesis because among the abused and non abused spankees out there………..it is consent they are exploring perhaps despite or because of their abuse or they are not priorly damaged at all but like exploring pain!!

    It is consent that makes it a completely unique experience!!

    Thinskin
     
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  7. Auparishtaka

    Auparishtaka Sex Machine

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    Simple answer is no. I love being spanked and slapped. But I was never abused. I just like anything taboo. Maybe its because it makes everything more base and primal. Purely physical satification. I think its more about feeling free
     
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