I bought myself a dildo the other day and I am trying it out. I have a problem though. I am trying to stick it up my ass and and I'm having trouble doing so. Any advice on how to make it easier? Also how does it feel?

 

first time!! Start with a small toy and lots of lube take your time if it hurts stop and reposition. When done right it feels amazing and you may cum if done right

 

Push it in your ass and then come back and tell us how it feels I dont see what the problem is

 

Make sure you take a shit first I'd hate for you to plow your dookie shute and get it all over your new toy that would suck...and you can't return those

 

It takes awhile to learn how to "loosen up!" Practice makes perfect!

 

We could use additional info. Being as you are new at this, how big of a dildo or plug did you get? As was stated earlier, start small and use lots of lube! Did you use any lube?

 

The thing I got is a 6 inch which shouldn't be too hard to get in after some effort. I will definitely try the small toy that you guys are telling.

 

You are using plenty of lube right? Just cover the toy and your anus with it.
Can't just jam a toy in there
Also do your best to relax as much as possible, it doesn't help if you are tensed up.

 

you need to relax and push back a little when trying to go in, makes things slide in a lot easier and definitely make sure you've cleaned yourself out first, give yourself an enema not only will you loss a few extra pounds your asshole will be clean as a whistle. and definitely use a generous amount of lube.

 

I assume 6" is the length.length isn't really an issue. It's the girth......

 

I'm still a beginner at this, but I'm slowly working my way up. I first started with my finger or thumb during a shower. The warm water would help relax me, and the soap would act as my lube. Not a great lube, but better than nothing... After I could easily do one finger, Started working with two at the same time. Then I worked up to three. After getting three fingers in as far as I could reach, I started using a thin clear dildo. It was about an inch (or a little less) in diameter, but about 12 inches long. Since it was smaller around than my 3 fingers combined, I could take it fairly easily in my shower with my soap as lube. I would then bend forward and just fuck myself with it imagining it was a real cock, not a plastic dildo. Now, I have worked with it enough that I can start by sucking it and getting it covered with my saliva, then standing in front of the mirror, I can bend over and start to slid it into my ass. I can stand there and watchmen fuck my own ass in the mirror using only the dildo and my saliva for lube, but it doesn't last long before I step into the shower and jerk myself off. Once I've cum, I may bend down and resume fucking my own ass with the dildo again, but often I just stand there enjoying the feeling of it deep in my ass. I can get about 10 inches of it up my ass, so I'm almost ready for the next larger sized dildo, or maybe even a real cock.

 

Do a warm water enema first to get cleaned out. Get highly stimulated watching some porn fucking and masturbating. Put a store plastic bag over a towel, on a computer chair, then lay a lubed dildo on it and hold it in place as you position your lubed anus on the head of it, squirming to stimulate your sphincters. You may have to push the dildo slightly. Then the wondrous sexual feeling as the glans of the dildo penetrates your sphincters. There may be some pain but the sexual thrills are unbelievable.

 

I can take my 81/2 inch dildo like a champ

 

Counterintuitive as it may be..

The exact sensation that you experience when defecating or passing gas is the same sensation you should be feeling just prior to and upon penetration or insertion. You need to "let out" as whatever is going in...

Albolene (yes the make up remover/cleanser) is WAY better than ANY lube you will find in a smut shop...

Good day-

 

It's all about progression in an unrushed way when it comes to anal sex (giving or receiving) I live by the motto, "If it were happening to me for the first time how would I expect it?" My first time was with my wife's largest dildo, but I knew from actual anal sex to start by easing in just the tip then slightly teasing, being fully aware if I was tensing or loosening followed inching it in till it felt like enough before stroking. As in anal sex it's not about the sheer depth it's in the slow and steady motion then gauging the speed to the pleasure of my lover (even if it happens to be me!)

 

Took my big vibe yesterday and slowly played,it was the best feeling I have had in a long time.Lots of lube,relaxed,and a little movement in the hips and it was filling me good.The smaller head on it made things a little easier,then came the girth,then came me,lol.Take your time.This is the first time I have really stretched myself and it was the best feeling.

 

I take it n the ass I did last night .... after work with my supervisor

 

Exactly! NOT be stretched out, but (tee hee) "learn how to loosen" or relax.

What he said. Length means nothing. The girth is what matters, and in the case of a toy, the surface material of it. Glass and steel are the easiest, but they are uncomfortable being hard and unforgiving. Super soft will be more trouble than something firmer. Most of all, something with a porous texture meant to make it feel like real skin will actually feel rough. That's why it burns when someone sticks their fingers back there, it's their fingerprints... Try a very firm, and very smooth/glossy finished silicone dildo. A vibrator can work out either good or bad, so keep it simple the first few times.

Personally I advise against enemas. Unless enemas are something routine in your life, they will simply tense you up.

A good quality lubricant is essential. It shouldn't be too thin or too thick. Thin like oils don't lubricate as well, and too thick like Vaseline requires heat/friction to make it lubricate well. I suggest "Empowered Products" lubricants.

The first few times "until you learn" in that you will never "stretch" out your sphincter, the position you use is critical. Don't do it on your belly, or all fours, or squatting down on it, or laying on your back and pushing it in. Lay on your back and put your feet against the headboard or the wall, and lift yourself up. Then without moving the toy "lower yourself" onto it. The reason for that is, that motion and the muscles involved will cause your sphincter to relax. The trouble with a squat is that to much effort goes into balancing, and more so there is an ideal window of motion/position/pose that is optimum. A squat typically passes that window (so you're tight, looser, loosest, less loose, tight. The position I suggest above will help you find that optimum position.

Hush....an alias

 

I have a shower enema that is attached to the water thing on the shower head that uses the water to cleanse inside very well and also helps to get you ready for anal sex, they run about$40 online and are worth it. You also need tons of water based lube and to relax.

It is 6.5inches insertable with a 4foot hose, not to girthy and depending on how hot you like to shower it can be used with warm or cold water.
I use the shower enema to get ready for my newest toy on nights before I go to the swingers club to get real cocks in my ass.

 

Love the topic. I have been fingered before and used a sizeable vibrato once or twice. What is the best position to receive a nice cock. When I have been fingered I have been laying face down with pillows below my waist which pushes my ass up. Seem to give my friend good access to my ass.