Hi All

2nd post, I am 30 years old and recently started talking to a old friend that I used to know a couple of years ago.

We are now both in relationships but have started flirting and exchanging pics, talking about meeting up, but are both attached I dont know if this is her flirting with me in a friendly way or if she is actually thinking of it.

She lives down south, about 8 hrs away from me which is a problem but certainly one that can be solved.

Every now and then though she seems to go cold on me.

Can you ladies advise if the thought of meeting turns her on but the actual participation of it, isnt what she is looking for, getting mixed signals when we talk about it.

Sending me some nice pics which makes me think she would be up for it.

Thanks

 

Just my two cents worth... Man, talk to your wife (girlfriend) and explore sex FIRST !!!! Then, expand into other worlds together... other wise you WILL lose what you have !!!

 

I've never had sexual relations outside of my marriage but plan to and my papi is going to be there when it happens. One of our things is not to do it with any of our friends or with someone we even know and do it away from anyplace near us so there is less chance of running into them.
My advise is though if your spouse isn't going to know, like BedBuddy says you could lose what you have, maybe will but that's not guaranteed but sketchy or sneaky , well adultery on both parts if your spouses don't know or to put it mildly cheating . And as far as finding out her thoughts about it I suggest since you mention that she is a close friend to just ask her assuming she is a close enough friend that you can talk to like that with out jeopardizing the friendship, and good luck to you.

 

She sounds like more than just an old friend, were you two drinking buds? How did you recently start talking to someone you knew a couple of years ago, and that lives 8 hours away from you? Please don't tell us that you did a google search, because I don't want you to sound even more pathetic then you do already.

 

It might be that she enjoys flirting and sexting and feels safe doing it from long distance.
Her partner might even be in on it and they're both playing out their fantasies without your knowledge.

 

If you find it fun...go ahead...!

 

Is a little hot and cold attention from a woman 8 hours away worth losing what you have "at home"? If so, go for it. Bc that's what will happen.

 

My guess is the reason she's flirty is that you are so far away and she doesn't have to go through with anything.

 

I think the idea is exciting for her, but she is scared to actually do it.

 

I agree with the above posts.
If I had to guess, this girl is in a relationship where her partner isn't satisfying her sexually. She is using you as an outlet for her frustration.
You make her feel sexy. You make her feel wanted. She can tease and flirt with you when she's horny. Then she probably gets herself off thinking about fucking you and then goes cold until she is horny again.
Right now, if you pushed it and actually showed up, she might not follow through on it and you'll waste your time. Eventually she will cheat but it's more likely that it's with someone closer to where she lives. Probably a friend from work or someone she meets in a bar. She might even end up sleeping with several guys before she figures out the real problem.

Keep sexting but don't push it is my advice. Once this girl breaks her cherry with cheating on her partner, you'll have a better chance of actually fucking her.