To assume there's something wrong with the giver or receiver of hand jobs and head to the point of cumming is to ignore the many variables that make up the human sexual response as a whole. Hand jobs to me are a cheap alternative that I do not humor in any sense and yes my ham fisted callous hand knows exactly what I like and head is at best a piece of foreplay. To answer how a majority of men can cum from these seemingly rudimentary acts one must realize that many men have relinquished themselves to taking it anyway they can get it which there's nothing wrong with while some of us don't want to just settle!

 

I can't even fathom not cumming, if someone is doing any of those sexual acts on me, I am cumming, no ifs or buts about it. I always thought that not cumming was some sort of skill some men had and I didn't but I have realized that some men struggle to cum and that is the oddest thing to me. Some men struggle to get hard not matter how sexual the situation is.

We had a friend who my wife and I sucked and did everything to including having sex with her but had to resort to jacking himself off over her tits before he could actually cum. He told us that is the only way he can cum. I was floored because I would have cum in first 5 min in that situation.

Handjobs or oral are not the norm for me cumming since we prefer penetration. I normally make a point of letting my wife cum first with oral or some other way or at least get her really close before penetration so we both cum together. We are all different but I for one have no problem cumming, sometimes too early but I can usually go again in a few min to try make up for it.

 

Everybody is right and everybody is wrong. You idiots make these posts way too long to read or care about after the first few NOVEL sized posts.

Know it alls are bad...I was married to one, but those who go to great lengths to call them out on it...can be just as bad.

Settle down Dr Ruth and Dr Phil..

 

I'm a virgin
But still if you can't cum from having a women giving you head or a handjob. You might have a medical condition.

 

@GinaDee
Whilst I liked your post I must ask where a man's talents, or lack of them, at oral, or even his possible feeling of 'power' as he cums on her face to humiliate her, or his abilities in the bedroom come into this 'discussion'? That is surely the subject for another and different topic.
Also where did you get the (incorrect) impression that any of the male 'none cumers' was whining? I know that I, and think that all others, were just stating a fact and were (mostly) not complaining or asking for help and certainly not for opinions.
As for cheap shots at some ones opinions - @Hush was not stating an opinion, her post was based on her own 'successful' experiences and was therefore fact not opinions. Her post actually started off by outright apportioning 'blame' to the man for not being able to cum, because of her own unfailing successes, whilst being paid to do it, at making them - therefore what was being cheap or sarcastic in using her own statements?
Again I say that trying to equate cumming from your own hand against that of a woman's, or her mouth, or her pussy is like try to compare apples to oranges, to pears - turn your own thoughts around and compare cumming from your own hand, to cumming from a man's, from his tongue, from his cock and ask yourself are they different?

I will be honest and say that I think that my 'problem' with HJs and BJs, which to me isn't a problem because I enjoy them so much, is because once I learnt of the wonders and sensations of a well 'prepared', wet, and ready pussy along and around my cock, eventually combined with the basic primaeval act of cumming deep in a woman, then no hand or mouth could compare to those sensations enough to make me cum. If my partner for her own reasons and freely and of her own volitions makes it very obvious that she wants me to cum on her I will and have pulled out to satisfy her wants; I have pleasurably for both, fuck her labia lips and clit to our mutual points of no return before cumming on her. I have no hang-ups about a woman seeing me cum, or if she wants me to of cumming on her anywhere she wants but, as yet, it hasn't happened from a hand or mouth.
I do not get any feelings of 'power' from not cumming from HJs or BJs because I am not holding back, most times I want and need to cum but just don't; BUT when fucking I do enjoy my 'power' of being able to 'hold-back', until the right time for us both, because it gives me the 'power' to make my partner happy.
To really possibly make some wonder about me having psychological hang-up about not cumming from HJs/BJs - whilst I can cum from my own hand I no longer masturbate for pleasure, I might remember and imagine some of the better cunts I have had while doing it, but only do it when the need for 'relief from the pressure' is there and look on it as being no different than blowing my nose to relieve a pressure build-up.

 

Well said - everyone is different.
(WHO is Whilst? Girlfriend?) kidding