my husband is 14 yrs older than me and when we first started dating we were having sex every day and after we got married it was the same thing but we've been married for over a year now and it feels like my sex drive is increasing and his is decreasing because we only have sex once or twice a week now any suggestions to get him in the mood more often?

 

godly oral sex...

 

Push your boundaries, get him into it.

 

well i'm kinky as hell and very open-minded and he knows this

 

well what does he like? what turns him on? not that you should not indulge in what you want any less but maybe you two have fallen into a routine? also his sex drive my be falling due to age, while yours will only increase throughout your 30's (these are averages everyone is not the same of course) is he having any medical problems that he may not want to discuss with you? are you discussing the problem? Is he even aware that you need more? there are too many variables to offer an easy answer. but if you have looked at all these things and still dont know then do what all the therapist advise and spice it up. find his fetish and use it till he wears out 8)

 

Couldn't have said it any better myself

 

yea same its nice to see someone new contributing right away instead of writing about something stupid. very good reply

 

seriously... while hes laying down at night go right nex 2 him naked ... doggystyle position and say how do u want me ... that would be great if my gf did that 2 me

 

Talk dirty to him about maybe tell him you wanna fuck somebody else while he watches. Or vice versa. Or get some interracial vids and moan alot when there showing bbc. He will cum to you more often

 

I have a personal interest in this. Except, mines gone up and my wife’s has gone down to the point where we have sex very very seldomly.
It also doesn’t really help that we want to be monogamous. Her more so I think since part of my sexual fantasies and interests involve threesomes and me with other men.

 

Try new and different things
They don’t have to be directly connected to fucking,,tease him and little things like spanking his ass as he comes out of shower
Get the picture or send him a few on his phone
Secret is lead him towards sex with out being forward

 

get a jar beside the bed - both put say 5 ideas into it to spice things up - no recriminations or stuff - but just try to keep them achievable and enjoyable for both of you - it really heightens the anticipation if neither of you peek at whats been written - but as has said before - talk to each other and try to agree a more active way forward that helps both of you

 

FFS i've just noticed this thread is 13 years old - WHY THE FUCK DID YOU RESURRECT SOMETHING THIS OLD - YOU FUCKING DICK

 

This has got to be the oldest thread that has been resurrected. What the fuck don’t people look at the post dates before responding. The original poster has not been since 2006 (according to their profile) so its highly likely that the ones giving advice are talking to themselves. Way to go guys!

 

I'd like to echo what "inifty" wrote in a recent reply; stating that "there are too many variables to offer an easy answer..." However, I would add that barring any possible medical conditions which may have cropped up unbeknownst to either your husband or yourself, your best bet for discerning the reasons behind this change in pattern—aside from a visit to a medical professional—involves a combination of employing keen observation and using direct communication.

"Keeping your ear to the rail," so to speak, and being vigilant and cognitive to the ever-changing landscape within a relationship are key practices toward successful resolutions. I know..."easier said than done"; right? Also; nothing beats direct communication and openness. Just the two of you talking openly about it, where you state your concerns and he responds in turn, works wonders in a loving relationship. It may even inspire steamier sex.

Keep in mind that the libido waxes and wanes. Speaking as a man, I've always found that to be true.

Hope I've been of some help... (Whoops!...Didn't notice the posting date of this thread until now! lol! Well, it is a common problem. Perhaps all of the positive commentary will help someone else who might happen along. )

 

Just bring it up. Talk through everything. Come up with some kinky stuff you want to try and start a conversation. On a dirtier note, if hes not going to do it, in bed start touching yourself next to him. Partners done that a few times when i wasnt in the mood.... my mood changed pretty quickly

 

Holy 13 years batman

 

I have seen older posts being resurrected but this is definitely the oldest. When did this Forum begin?

 

Appreciate it for what it is, the thoughts of people 13 years ago, like a photograph of a conversation