Lil' Donna needed to be reminded that as long as I'm here where I can talk about it on XNXX that I'm unlikely to venture into reality and I used our PERSONALS to do it. To reassure her there was no threat of me cheating here, at least here I showed her how fast the first page changes as most would rather Skype or Kik each other silly? No I was looking for a "Meet, Greet, Agree and Get to know each other" with permission from Lil' Donna, I showed her the only response to Kik or Skype (against the clear conditions I proposed) FWB and discreet?

Having grown up on a primarily sexual academic and discovery period early on led to me managing two porno shops and buyer for another, then on to many of those years and beyond to being a chef at 3 owned and operated gay bar and restaurants. They're gay, but they're men so sex and sports were the main topic too just as open in the porno shops that I shopped in before working in them. So I showed her Tinder right from our computer and knowing we just got smart phones, how easy cheating has become in real time!

The moral (I told her) is that knowing I can so easily cheat, should assure her that while we're trying to adjust to being parents in our 50's that we need to lay it on the line. I have and can again cheat, but not without provocation like a clear lack of interest, beyond explanation or comprehension!

 

https://forum.xnxx.com/threads/let-off-leash-once-again.459397/

My Personal

 

It seems like you're looking to buy a new car when all you need is an oil change.

 

To be honest I'm not looking for new at all or even a rental, I just want to repair and improve what I have and it's frustrating the hell out of me at the deepest level! Problem is the repair woman is in denial (stop me if you've heard this) "There's nothing wrong with our sex life"

 

You know I'm totally down to meet and talk any time, or at least as my poly schedule allows, lol. Not interested in anything further right now but hey, we could have some awesome convos over coffee.

 

@Shopdog at this point in the issue a test drive would only complicate matters and as I may have said before, "If I'm going to go to the extent of cheating ever again it's going to be a permanent change" I'm too mature to be playing games. Most of what I've seen out there in the female world only know games which means I'd have to commit which I already have to one woman, so it's in my best interest to continue working on us!

 

A Married man can hardly complain about game playing. Why not get your wallet out and seek professional help? No complications, no game playing, no real cheating by developing another relationship. You could stop pressuring Donna for pity sex and concentrate on the things you still have in common.

 

I dunno... Not that there's many comment here or anything.
But I have a though experiment for ya all.
I feel that if one would switch the genders in Milos' situatuon...
Let's say a still very physically fit woman in her 50s, with a healhy sex drive (sure a little weird. Who among us isn't?) would complain about the lack of intimacy from her not realy giving a fuck, overweight husbant, m?
I can already see all the "leave the fatguy", "fuck me" and "leave the fatguy and fuck me" comments not to mention all the support for a poor woman who just can't get her lousy man to fuck her right...

It's coming from a bit bitter guy who's splitting up with his partner, so take it with a grain of salt. But the honest work some men put into relationships is kinda seen as how it should be, while in majority if cases it's just not. And if any girl just mentions the lack of intimacy it's - fuck that guy.

The phenomenon might have a lot to do with 90% male population on the site...
I'm not sure where I'm going with this realy.

 

"Au contraire mon ami'" a married man earns his right to insist on no games when looking for a mistress, if he doesn't play any himself. Every mistress knows (or has known) my story "Married with children and not looking to leave them any time soon and if they are GGG (Good, Giving and Game?) It's a dishonest act, but it's truthful and seriously reserved as the last resort!

 

What's in it for the Mistress? Is there something else in your relationship with Donna that is unsatisfactory besides your sex life? Is it a money/ego thing that makes you not wish to seek the services of an Escort? You could go home pat your Grandson on the head and give Donna a kiss and a cuddle, make her feel secure, loved and still your life partner.

 

Yes and no on our relationship as the actions and emotions that change inherently are affected as well over time, not merely due to a lack of sex (as many might portray it or say it) creating a chain like effect on other aspects. If it were just sex it could easily be resolved by putting together an agreement on the amount of time spent, days we would engage and an acceptable amount of affection agreed by both of us. As I've said before in the past though in the pursuit of avoiding pressure on her of which being honest it's not my intention to cause, while still maintaining my needs many times our time together is casually postponed and otherwise romantic situations are avoided.

Cumulatively this begins to affect other emotions and if (like my wife) you can neither express it openly, you might (like her) deny it vehemently. Loving her is the one emotion that is rather deep and well rooted, but that doesn't make it better, worse or easier as love is an emotional bond and pure lust is biological that can only be suppressed for such a time that it breaks out of conventional expectations. We as people choose another to be our one and only source of sexual expression that is just as imperative as food or water (studies abound have proven this) so that if your source of sustenance (the maintaining of someone or something in life or existence) dries up or is not satisfied. To it's most basic level hunger, thirst, oxygen and/or even sexual need will avail itself to outside sources inherently, despite what we want to believe as fact which is only emotional fiction.

As for mistresses surprisingly there are more mature women and men out there that can carry out a sexual exclusive relationship that does not require an emotional bond as payment for it as long as you respect the general rules of FWB (for an example.)

 

It seems like to me your trying to resist the urge to have a affair or a fwb. And feeling extreme guilt cause the thought to is entering your mind more often than not here lately. You don't need validation or someone's opinions if you decide to do it or not. The fact that your wife never actually listens to you. Or wants to give you things you desire. Makes me think divorce is the better option. A fwb or affair is great but one of two things happen. You get caught eventually. Or you get feeling for the other party. And where can that lead when your married?? So then you end up hurting worse than you were.