Dunno where to start with this but basically i got a bird into bed on saturday night and the unthinkable happened, i could not get a freakin hard on!!!

To fill you in im 39 yr old the woman in question is 19 she works at the local chip shop, we been txtin each other for a week or two, anyway we got onto the subject of sex she said she wouldnt mind so we had to come up with a time that suited us both, she works near where i work, but lives with her boyfriend, im single came out of a long term relationship bout six months ago, anyway we agreed a time and place etc, but last friday night she was out with her friend, she txt me and asked if i wanted her to come up to my place for awhile, i said sure thing, she comes up we get down to business but try as she might i could not get a stiffy, we had a break tried again, i did manage to get a stiffy but it lasted 5 mins i didnt ejaculate, crashed and burned big time, she ended up staying the whole night, in the morning she hung around for a couple of hours, we had a laugh, she gave me some grief only joking though, about not getting a hard on, she wasnt in anyway nasty and the fact that she hung around reassured me somewhat that she wasnt really bothered (if she was she kept it well hidden) she's agreed to get together again, we been txtin each other like nothing has happened, thing is i know when im on to a good thing, she's 19 tanned, tight n taut, she wants another go but im really scarred that if i dont perform next time i might not get another crack, even if i only nail her once and never again that wouldnt bother me so long as i get it right next time, can anyone suggest anything or does anyone have any tips on doing the job right next time round?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

I know you are both consenting adults, but:

A. She has a boyfriend. What's this cheating bitch up to? If she isn't in a relationship where they have agreed to be sexual with other people, then shit, you're just as terrible for being an accessory to her cheating and deserve a limp, useless penis forever. If she IS, then:

B. She's 19.... I know it's legal and all, but it's definitely a little bit on the creepy side to me, why are you having sex with a 19 year old you've been texting for "a couple weeks"? It's very fishy on both sides. That;s not typical 19 year old girl behavior for her, nor is it typical behavior for men of your age, maybe some shit needs to be sorted out psychologically for both of you.

and C. A lot of times, our dicks just don't want to cooperate. The more you think about it, the more likely it is to do the same thing next time; anxiety can really mess with your dick. Best just to forget about it and move on, cause if you dwell on it, it will linger for a while...

-SOOD

P.S. My points were presented in order of importance; please address the first two, because you're right, this is bad, this doesn't seem at ALL like a normal or healthy relationship to me.

 

Don't wank for a week and avoid the scotch... damn scotch, GRRRR!

 

I've never seen a 39y/o who types like that.

Jus' sayin'.

 

He's obviously "down wit da youth"! How else d'ya think he pulled the 19 y/o for the chip shop!?

 

Oh, clearly...

 

Well dude,
You're in a mess and thinking that you're not gunna get hard (i.e. anxiety) will only make it worse. Have a shot before game time make sure you get potassium from some source (potatoes are great source as potassium will lower performance anxiety) and you're good to go.

Good luck mate

 

Sorry, I cant not say anything here! So what if he's 39 and shes 19? If they fancy each other then fair play to them both.

And if she has a boyfriend and wants to cheat on him, thats her call! If he doesn't know this guy from Adam, I fail to see how he has any loyalty to him!

Ive been cheated on, and I feel no animosity towards the fella, because he doesn't know me, so why should he care?!

To say they need to address anything psychological is insulting! Sometimes its just about 2 people finding each other attractive and wishing to make the beast with 2 backs.

As far as the Mr Floppy situation goes, if you have both laughed it off, then try not to let it play on your mind! Chalk it down to tiredness, stress or similar and make sure you're nice and chilled out should the occasion arise again!

 

Viva Viagra......

 

dont worry dude its happend to me

i nearly had this realy fit blond girl one night but stupid me befor meeting up with her i went and got stond with my mates ( i no long do anything like that any more) so when we met up and she wanted to get down to bussnes i couldnt get hard nothing was working. so we called it a night and i took her home

cut a long story short she came round the next day and we fucked all night


so dont worry about it if she wants it then she will be back they all ways are

 

nice post..lol

 

It's people like you that are the reason we have wars; "Oh i don't care, i don't know any of those civilians, so bomb the hell out of them so we might find potential weapons or maybe kill a suspected terrorist". Christ. Wake the fuck up. just because you don't know somebody personally doesn't mean they are worthless, the boyfriend of this 19 year old girl is probably a douche, as 99% of people are, but there is the small chance that he's a really good, caring guy, and this might ruin him. That to me is reason enough for the OP to think twice and stop being selfish. Shit, girls claim to want "nice guys" and all but they are the reason none of them exist anymore, and you aren't helping the problem. I just don't understand where you draw the line when it comes to playing an active role in something. I'm sure you'd be against helping your buddy stash the body of his girlfriend (even though maybe you'd only care just for your OWN stupid sake), but when it comes to having sex with somebody who is cheating on somebody else, it's all hands on deck? What the fuck is wrong with people these days? Does nobody have any respect for other people at all anymore? Shit, it's infuriating.

-SOOD

 

ok well thanks to a couple of you guys for the advice its appreciated, for the self righteous of you out there get over it, she's 19 its not something i make a habit of it just turned out that way im doing nothing illegal or perverted, how many men would honestly turn down a bird of that age? you only have to look at virtually any porn site adult mag etc to see that they are full of girls at that age, ok she got a fella, big deal thats her problem not mine, im not going to lose sleep over her doing the dirty on him i dont know the guy and i dont know the history between them, im not planning on spending the rest of my life with her, i accept that it would be stupid to start a relationship with a bird that cheats on her man i didnt come here to be judged i just came for advice and help thats all, once again to those that have offered it i thank you for taking time to reply....................

 

Yeah no shit.. Performance anxiety has fucked with me for the last 4 times with sex. It least you got it up in the end. But maybe give her oral so it's not all bad for every one?

That way she will come back because you pleased her enough.

 

haha i did give her oral, even when she came it still didnt help, im putting it down to a blip me thinks, last time it happened was about 6 yrs ago, but then it didnt bother me like it has done this weekend......................

 

Do you want to be anymore extreme? What are you 8 years old?

Theres a slight difference between cheating on someone, and war! :? Grow up!

 

Maybe you shouldn't be having sex with birds. Remember if you fuck a canary you might get chirpies!

 

Let alone bird flu

 

all the best to you

 

Of course it was an extreme example, that's why i asked where is the line drawn? If it's war it's ignorance and being "mindless sheep", but when it's somebody cheating on somebody else it's "getting some"? Why the double standard? I really don't feel like I'm the one in need of growing up, after all, I actually have some respect for people I might not even know, simply because they are people too, which is a concept you seem to have trouble grasping (According to Erikson, children 3 to 6 year olds develop that sort of thing).

-SOOD