I was in no way suggesting that he shouldn't get divorced. I was hoping that in his haste to go have good times with the new love of his life he wouldn't forget all about his little boy. I still think he's a giant ass, but that's just my opinion. His wife doesn't sound like the most fun person to be with, but if it was that bad he should have left before he started cheating. But wait, then who would have paid while he was in school? I have no sympathy for him and a minimal amount for his wife. Most of my heart goes out to the child lost in the middle.

 

Although the counselor starts working with you, remember your wife will likely need to be brought in on this also. She has been left in the dark for too long.

 

If I were you I'd go see a counselor about this, they can actually help make the relationship 10x better then what it was before in some cases. I wouldn't be in any kind of haste about divorcing though, I would go see a counselor about this first and see what can be done there.

1 thing I am a bit confused on is why didn't you know about her mental disorders?

 

I have a serious question....


HOW DOES STAYING IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE HELP THE CHILD?!!!!

My parents fought, fought and FOUGHT!!! My first three serious relationships I was such a bitch, I have real issues, I think that relationships are suppose to fight, I learned after a few serious heartbreaks, but I'm by far not cured. I have so much anxiety that people will come in and out of my life, from my parents constantly "getting back together" "seperating" "getting together" etc. etc. Nothing was stable EVER. Perhaps if I did see my father every other weekend, and holidays were suppose to be instead of a screaming abusive war, I wouldn't have this much anxiety in life.

MORAL OF THE STORY. For those who say, "stay together, for the child" DOES NOT HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can only make others happy, when you make yourself happy. Thats what my parents should have done!

 

Btw, now both are living alone and are crusty miserable people because they spent so long fighting, they never met others that made them happy.

 

What do you mean you are being unfair? What your wife is doing is also unfair. If she was giving you the love a wife should you wouldn't be in this situation.


Sit her down and tell her that you need sex and if she is unwilling to fulfill her obligations as a wife that you are going to get a concubine to fulfill your needs.


I had a similar situation and used the same tactic on my wife. She was using the lack of sex as a punishment for something I had alleged ed had done so I found a woman who was willing to have sex in front of my wife. Guess what? The lack of sex vanished.


But in your case I think I would just tell her “If I can't get sex from you then it's time for a divorce as I can not go on without a sexual relationship with you.”


If she loves you then she might just come around. If not, do what you are doing but do it in the open so she knows that you mean business.

 

Alright, you need to man up.

What do you mean you cannot afford to get divorced? It is just money and you will make more.

If you are worried about child support, get over it.

If you are worried about alimony, you are fucking someone (many someones) else while married. If you were so worried about that, you should have kept it in you pants until you were legally separated from your wife.

If you are worried about the bills and school loans from school, you did get a degree that it sounds like your wife paid for. Maybe you should pay for it.

If you were really interested in fixing your marriage, maybe you should have gone with your wife to one of the doctors that is prescribing her meds and described what YOU see as untreated symptoms of the disease and side effects of the medication. I know this well because I do this when it comes to my wife and medical issues she has. I am sure the doctor could have gotten your wife and you in to see a therapist to help work through the problem you were having but it sounds like you were just waiting to get the degree and then be free of her.

You sir, sound like an egotistical, self centered, man child that wants to find the easy way out of a difficult situation.

 

What are you basing this on, honey? Very interested why you would say such a thing... PM if you don't wish to post here.

 

I would be one to disagree with you. Not simply on the basis of being here in XNX alone, as it can be considered healthy to have sexual fantasies. There is nothing wrong with being interested in viewing the human body, male or female, participating in various sexual acts. It is in how you, the individual, deal with the activity in R/L that matters. Not everyone who visits this site is or can be considered a sexual deviant. But, then again - do you define Dr Ruth as a sexual deviant, too?

As for advice, based on what was written, I'd say H/Garfield has a long way to go toward growing up. Just because his wife is suffering from a mental disorder, that doesn't and shouldn't give him carte blanche to find someone who satisfies his sexual desires. On the other hand, it seems to me that the wife, if what H/G says is true, wasn't totally honest with him going into this marriage. They both need counseling and the wife needs a new Doctor. One that can manage her medications such that she leads a more "normal" life - or one that is acceptable to H/G. And gee whiz, he should know that if he is in the medical field.

Because if he divorces her now, trust me - if he thinks she's making his life miserable now, it will only go downhill from here. If he's having financial problems, the court system will take a dim look on what he is and has been doing the past few years. And if the wife gets the child, he is in for a long child support road - one that can last until the child graduates from college.