Many girls who have not had anal sex cannot bring themselves to ask for it because it is considered taboo. Most of these will probably say no even if the guy asks for it.

I suggest that while you are fucking her from behind, you slow down and start pulling it out and putting back in again. Eventually you take it out and rub it across her puckered arse hole. If she pushes back then I would say you have a green light and you have saved her the embarrassment of admitting her curiosity.

This has worked for me with more or less a 100% success rate. As far as I can remember anyway.

Thinskin

 

For the guys who keep getting shot down:

What else are doing to her asshole before hand? You warming her up to the idea at all? You eating her ass or getting a finger in? I never asked my wife I just worked her into it naturally. Rub her clit, eat her out, get her good and wet, then play with her asshole. Don't go jamming your fingers or cock in there just touch it, massage it, circle it with your finger. While she's riding you on top, reach back grab her ass cheeks and touch her asshole. After awhile she'll be used to it. She will expect you to touch her asshole while you are fucking and it won't be a shock.

Lube and clitoral stimulation are tied for number 1 one the list of things you need for anal.

One day after I had been working her up to it, we were in a store and I bought the biggest bottle of lube they had. She asked me what that was for and I just told her " you already know what it's for. " I smiled and tossed it in the buggy and kept on walking.

Now, if I'm playing around with her asshole and she hears the lid on that bottle click, she assumes the position and starts scrubbing that clit like a crazy woman.


Your results may vary,

DS

 

I appreciate what you're saying here...but I'm getting shot down when I drop my drawers. For me this is simply an issue of finding the right woman who is adventurous enough to try me.

 

It's really not that big of a deal to me, I've done it before and I can live without it just fine. I have tried doing little things like that with the wife, but the minute I even get close to her asshole, she pulls away and says no. It's whatever.

 

Well, my dick is normal sized. I haven't ever been turned away and I always get a call back for a repeat performance.

I guess there's a downside to having a giant cock, lol.

DS

 

It depends

I believe (from experience) that there are women who do it, and women who don't.

Anal massaging while having sex with her on the upper side will give you a clue - but it doesn't mean that, if she likes to be touched there, she will also accept your dick inside...

I've even chatted with some of them and I concluded there are two cathegories:

1. They do it because they know men enjoy it + as the man can fill her up there with no pregnancy risk (I'm talking about times when here we used to have lots of unprotected sex - no AIDS!)

2. They do it because they've discovered it gives them pleasures at higher ranks than the vaginal sex... (so, it's probably how they're built...).

Now, out of this topic - I've also met girls that were orgasming just while sucking my dick, with absolutely no stimulation from my side!

Back to the topic and to answer the original question - I believe a man can realize if he produces good sensations or pain.
If the girl is in pain, she won't have to "shout it out", since any sensitive guy will feel her tense.

When she really loves it, than you can also, as a man, feel it - it is, I believe, pure chemistry!

And from a very personal point of view - you cannot be, as a man, "hard as a rock" if your partner doesn't feel comfortably...
Maybe you just have a quickie, to release your tensions and get into another activity, leaving "the matter" for better moments... :rose:

 

I totally agree

 

Any time you wish to avoid embarrassment let me know.

Thinskin

 

i wan them to beg for it.but i don't want them to feel any pain,pleasure only

 

My girl is still saying no after months of trying to convince her...

 

not much worse than bringing up the idea and her scrunching her face up and telling you you make her sick....lol now that would be a bad reaction.