Well, lest anyone think she had to be a prostitute due to a dull mind or no education, read some of her posts in GD. This lady is more than just a ex-prostitute. Much more.

 

I do not really have any questions, just a comment. You are AWESOME!!! I just wish you could have been there to help that other woman.

 

she did it for the money to pay for her masters , we get that she is well educated

 

ever felt bad for the wives at home?!

 

Informative thread!

Any run ins with the human trafficking side of the sex industry?

The Super Bowl is in my backyard this year and I've heard a lot of focus on this aspect of the industry.

Thanks.

 

Orgasms

How often did you orgasm with clients? Not counting the guys you became emotionally involved with.

I can't figure out why I find this thread extremely interesting, but I do.

Thanks for doing it.

 

That's a deep question and I could drone on and on and on about it. Superficially speaking, no, I did not feel bad. That's not to say that on occasion with certain clients I ignored the obvious, that her husband just couldn't control his impulses or was being completely and egregiously dishonest. But, and again being 100% frank, most of my clients were in sexless marriages with almost zero physical intimacy. I'm not saying it was 100% the woman's fault. Just looking at my own circle of friends, it's a 50/50 thing a vast majority of the time. Marriage takes a lot of work to maintain without falling into a rut.

But, when you see a client 5+ times and his story is not only consistent but you can see the frustration and pain in their eyes and behind their voices...no. I don't feel sorry for the wives. I feel sorry for the men and the empathetic side of me was glad I could be there for them. Maybe not the best arrangement for me or the client but if not me then someone else and I knew I wasn't going to rip them off, stalk them, blackmail them, etc. And so for those few hours I could be their calm in the storm. They could forget about the world and just enjoy some company with someone that was 100% about them, even if it was for pay.

In our own ways, many escorts are therapists. No, we're not going to cure you, we're not some medical or mental breakthrough. We are (I was) an outlet though. I'm not trying to romanticize the industry. It's not a romantic place. But when you see the same person over and over, you do build a personal connection, even a friendly one. And it's very comfortable. Perhaps predictable for me but it's something different for them. And they're always grateful. They're always respectful. And here I am droning on and on and on already.

Short version: No, I rarely felt bad for the wives because most of the men came across and seemed like genuinely good guys who were tired of being neglected and no matter what they tried, their needs weren't being met. Even simple needs like sex once a week. That shouldn't be a hefty demand. But when these guys are only getting laid once a month if that and it's a very uninspired and vanilla sex that lasts a whopping 5 minutes with foreplay, it's unsatisfying.

Were there guys who didn't fall into this category? You bet, absolutely were some that were just serial cheaters and narcissists. I'd argue, however, that those are the exception instead of the norm.

 

Not personally. I did have a client, early on in my "career", ask if I knew any high school aged girls, preferably freshman or sophomore aged or even an 8th grader. I ended our encounter and two weeks later (to protect myself on the advice of a few other girls so that it wasn't obvious) called in an anonymous tip to the police. I agonized over it because what if he did succeed in those 2 weeks but from what I understood, he didn't. And he did get busted.

We would hear about underage trafficking and scams that brought women to the US on a promise of good jobs. Asian Massage Parlors were notorious for that which is why most got shut down in Denver. But I never saw it first hand.

And if I were a guy, I wouldn't hire an escort anywhere near New Jersey until after the Super Bowl. If I was a girl I wouldn't work there but the lure of good and constant money is a strong one. Vice is going to have a field day there the week before the SB.

 

Depends on the guy. You have to remember that being an escort isn't about me. I had never faked an orgasm before then and I honestly haven't faked one since but sometimes I had to earn my Academy Award because guys, even with escorts, have a delicate ego and if I didn't "cum", they could feel inadequate.

That being said, probably about 1/2 to 2/3 of the time I would orgasm. It helped that I was low volume. Again, I would see 3-5 guys per week tops. Early on I saw 7 guys in one week three different times but after that and I got my chops, I kept the volume low for a lot of reasons. Point being, I wasn't having orgasm after orgasm after orgasm and thus being worn out. I would masturbate to orgasm in the morning and then I would masturbate and edge myself about 30-45 minutes before my date but not let myself cum...most of the time. It helped keep me "ready" and made sex with some guys a lot easier since I was already aroused.

But I did cum at least half of the time with clients *if* they knew what they were doing or if they asked what I liked. I want to stress though, it wasn't about me. The date was 100% about them, their fantasy and their needs. If I orgasmed, bonus. If not, well, there's always my BOB. And I was in college. Finding a horny frat/jock boy was never very hard at all. Pretty much just had to throw a rock in any direction.

 

what is cheating to you ?

 

It's actually very boring. I was 15, he was 15. We had been friends for years, since elementary school, and started being bf/gf the summer after 8th grade. It was the usual escalation of kissing to touching my boobs to fingering me / jerking him to oral sex and then one day I decided I was ready.

Only he was not very gentle, he kinda thrust in with 3 pushes, he lasted a whole 60 seconds at best and other than the pain, I got literally nothing out of it. But since I "loved" him in the early high school sense, we tried it again later that week. I sucked him off first and had him go down on me. Again he was quick but not nearly as frantic but still not much for me until the very end but he was done and I wasn't willing for a round 2 that night. 3rd time was marginally better, I started to get something out of it but again, 15 y/o boys and the quick trigger even after getting rid of the easy one just moments before.

By the 5th and 6th time he was doing a better job and by the 2nd month of us having sex I finally came during sex and he got a grip (figuratively speaking) on his quickness. Sadly we only dated for 6 months after we had sex. That woke up a monster in me. I don't deny it, I was a major slut in high school. We broke up because I wanted to fuck other guys and try them out. I was in double digits by the end of my sophomore year.

 

My job was all about cheating. Men who came to me were cheating. There's no grey area. They were all unfaithful to their wives if they were married.

Cheating is saying you are in a committed relationship but then being unfaithful be it emotionally or physically with someone else. But at the same time, I can rationalize as did these men, based on the circumstances that for the greater good of their marriage that they needed an external outlet for their sexual tension.

My job wasn't to be a marriage counselor. I did talk to some of the men about their marriages and on occasion gave advice on ways to maybe get their wives interested again. But they were all cheaters. I didn't begrudge them though because it's not my place. Again, and most escorts say this, if women didn't quit giving BJs after they got the ring, we'd all be out of business. A generalization for sure and there's usually 50/50 fault when a marriage goes stale but I've learned over the years it takes very little to keep a man happy.

Feed him well
Let him shit in peace
Let him sleep
Fuck him regularly

I mean really, that's guys in a nutshell. Obviously there's more. When I settle down, I want a guy that wants more than that as well (his ass better be good on a bike / skis and love ice hockey / football and have a good career) but if you can't meet those basic needs...he's at least gonna think about cheating.

(sorry men, I don't mean to put you in that small of a box but admit it, that's a big part of your needs).

 

ahahah , a bit offended but okay


okay did u love the job itself ?! , other than yes coz of the money , money a side , did u love what u were doing? knowing that u could easily get the sex and pleasure from the guys in college

 

You ask two questions that are a subtle attempt at judging (and moralizing) and then you take offense when the respondent also makes a judgment.

Just a tad hypocritical.

Thinskin

 

Ever have any requests that you refused to do?

What was the weirdest request/fantasy?



I am highly intrigued by this thread.

 

Just a tad. Redrat's a muslim hypocrite who visits porn sites daily, is an adult virgin who never gets any and thinks he knows something about sex and relationships though he has neither.

Sad really.

 

lol 1st of all let's not make this thread about me guys , please feel free to create a thread explaining how much of tad hypocritical i can be if u feel like it

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hypocrite

i didn't say she don't get to feel offended for how i feel about her ex job or actions , so hypocritical is not really the right word here

RedRats*

 

Frankly I can do without most of you guys invading the third floor Sexuality. The reason I mostly stay out of GD. Is that you could all pick a fight in an empty room. We have fun down here!

Thinskin