Venus - understanding a little about chronic pain from a medical prespective, it appears the brain pathways that give you pleasure are precisely those that debilitate many people.

Have you ever considered what you and other masochists could offer towards research and treatments for pain management?

 

My girlfriend works at a sex shop, and when I was looking to buy a cock ring, she said that the metal ones are the best. Measure around the base your penis when it's hard, and get a ring that's just a tad bit smaller than that. When you're having sex, put the ring on when you're semi-hard - enough that it'll stay on, but not so much that it's too tight to get all the way down.

There are adjustable leather rings with a series of snaps, I have one of those, but it didn't really work; he could feel the back of the snaps and it wasn't comfortable. I also have one with a sliding buckle but that didn't stay tight. So as much as I think leather is sexy, I haven't had any luck with it for cock rings.

 

The needles don't hurt much at all, actually. A prick going in, a slightly weird pulling sensation as they go through, and a prick on the other side. After they're in I can barely feel them, I can even forget they're there. When it's a LOT of needles, it makes moving around a little hard, because they keep getting jostled, but that's not all that painful either. Just uncomfortable and a little pokey.

My favorite thing about needleplay is that it sends me into subspace very quickly. It's a direct assault on the nervous system and the "I'm being attacked!" endorphins kick in almost instantly. I love that endorphin high.

I don't get sexual gratification out of almost any kind of pain; I do get turned on by breast/nipple torture, but considering that breasts are a secondary sex characteristic, anything done to them is sexual. But when it comes to other parts of my body, I just like the pain and the endorphin high I mentioned above. It's honestly better than sex, and it can last for hours.

 

I don't consider myself to have a submissive personality; I don't think I'm a submissive person in general. I'm not swayed by dominance/a dominant personality alone. I am obedient to the authority of a Master I respect, and that complete obedience is why I identify as a slave in a power-exchange relationship. (Another term is "authority-transfer relationship," which I like better, but not as many people recognize it.)

I think it's possible to submit, as an action verb, without being submissive, as an adjective. When you think about it, everyone submits to someone else. If you do what your boss wants at work, if you obey traffic laws, if you abide by the rules of a group you're in, you're submitting to authority. Soldiers do what their commanding officers tell them - but I don't think anyone would categorize soldiers as submissive people!

Masochism isn't related to the power exchange dynamic - in fact, neither is any kind of BDSM; a couple could be in an M/s relationship and do nothing but have vanilla sex in the missionary position for their entire lives. Not all masochists are on the "right side of the slash" either (Master/slave, Dom/sub, Top/bottom) - I know dominant masochists who tell other people to hurt them! One well-known Master has a CBT fetish, and his slaves do all kinds of painful things that most people would associate with submissive men. But no one in the M/s community questions that he's a Master. His slaves are doing what he orders them to; he's getting what he wants from them.

 

Thanks! I was looking to get the metal ones, but I wasn't sure if I could get ones to fit quite right. I'm a bit girthy and very slightly oval shaped at the base. I will take your advice and measure before getting some.

 

That cock did not go all the way into my vagina! I was able to take it all in my ass (I had indigestion for the rest of the day but it was worth it). For vaginal sex, anything over 7 1/2 inches is unlikely to fit completely. I'm stretchy but it's not infinite. But I can deep-throat at least 9 inches and obviously I can take a lot in my ass, so a guy with a really big cock can still fuck me as deep as he wants.

I definitely don't like cervix-banging - not only does it hurt, it makes me nauseous - but a very light touch is pleasant. I really like having a Hitachi pushed all the way inside me and vibrating against my cervix. (This clearly requires the ability to take some girth, I'm not sure everyone would be able to do it or enjoy it as much.) I also once had a guy with really long, narrow hands massage my cervix with his fingertips, and that was amazing. It's hard to describe the feeling; it's like I know it should hurt but it doesn't, and skating around the edge of that is a delicious frisson.

 

I don't, and I don't want any. I just don't have a maternal instinct; I didn't even play with dolls as a kid. My biological clock never started ticking, I've never wanted kids in my entire life.

I can come up with a list of reasons - I have a bunch of hereditary illnesses that I don't want to pass down to anyone, with some of those illnesses pregnancy would be dangerous, Sir and I don't make all that much money and I don't think we could afford it, and neither of us is young anymore - I'm over 40, he's nearly 60, I don't think those are good ages to have kids at.

All that aside though, if I was perfectly healthy and had millions of dollars and we were both 25, I still wouldn't want to. The urge just isn't there.

 

What is the gender of your partners and are you Dom/sub with them or are some normal sexual relationships ?

Does sex with any involve others including your husband ?

 

Thank you VenusInFurze .
These topics are very important .
I have a special question but I will put it in front of everyone.

• I am a man I do not like to be a man I love to be a slave puppy or Puppy dog controls this feeling always When someone talks to me that I am a puppy I feel happy until my sexual desires become stronger when I feel like a puppy. In other words, my cock swells. I feel like I am a dog and I become addicted to this.
• Am I wrong, what do you advise me to do?
  
• Please Help

 

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The video explains my words.

I ask all of you to express your opinion

 

One sick puppy

 

I'm not sure it works that way. Pain does hurt me, quite a lot. It's not that pain is transmuted into pleasure instead, it's that I enjoy the sensation of pain. It isn't all pain, either; usually, it has to be deliberately inflicted in a BDSM context, because the human connection and interaction are important to me. I don't like headaches or menstrual cramps or shutting a door on my finger. There's a saying, even masochists don't enjoy stepping on Legos!

I will say that some kinds of non-BDSM pain work for me. I actually enjoyed the three-day ache in my arm after my flu shot last year. And while I can't say I enjoy shots at the doctor's office, I don't mind them either because I'm into needleplay. Some random nurse sticking a needle in my arm doesn't put me into subspace but I also don't flinch or find it uncomfortable. I have a high pain tolerance, even for pain I don't like, and I have wondered if that's because my body is so accustomed to processing it on a regular basis.

I do have chronic pain that I manage with what probably counts as being under the BDSM umbrella. I have fibromyalgia, and I get a weekly fire massage for it. (Fire massage is kind of hard to explain; it involves short torches with soft cotton heads that are dipped in rubbing alcohol, set on fire, and run across the skin.) I don't think it's as simple as pain driving out pain, though. Fire massage is not actually painful unless you want it to be. Fibro isn't well-understood but one theory is that it involves the ability of the nerves to sense/process temperature, so maybe the constant heat being pushed into my skin helps the nerves sort it out. I always feel a lot better after a fire massage; it's the most effective fibro treatment I've found.

 

Currently, most of my partners are men; one is a transwoman. She's taking hormones but hasn't undergone surgery, so she does still have male genitalia, but she doesn't like to use it and I've never thought of her as anything but a woman. (I've written several posts about her in this thread.)

Sir is always my Master. When it comes to my poly partners, though, he doesn't put limits on my relationships. For him, that would be like domming them, and he has no interest in that. He could veto a potential partner before I started a relationship, but once I'm seeing someone, only a drastically bad situation would make him unilaterally cut me off. My rules for my poly relationships are "be safe and have fun." Safer sex is a requirement. But I'd do that anyway!

One of my male partners is a sub, and while we aren't in a full-time D/s relationship, whenever we're together, I'm the Domme and he's serving me. I enjoy it a lot.

All my other relationships are egalitarian. Many of them do involve BDSM, but it's Top/bottom, not M/s or D/s. Usually I'm the bottom, but I switch with my fiance. Sometimes he's on top and sometimes I am. He likes to top me physically (hitting me, mostly); I top him mentally and psychologically (humiliation play). It wasn't easy for me to get into the humiliation but after a lot of communication and trial-and-error, we've found a method that works for both of us.

I don't have group sex with people I care about. I've been in threesomes, foursomes, and orgies, and while the sex was always fun, the emotional fallout was uniformly awful if anyone involved cared about anybody else. Picking up some people at a swingers' party and having an impromptu threesome? Awesome! Me and a partner joining another person for a threesome? HELL no. It's not worth the risk.

 

• That's not uncommon in the BDSM scene. There's a whole subcategory called "puppy play"; it has its own pride flag. You're not alone, and you're not even that unusual. You just are unusual in mainstream culture.
• No, you're not wrong. I advise you to get involved in your local BDSM scene.
• Just did.

 

DEAR EVERYONE:

Let's not derail my thread with this, please.

 

This is a wonderful feeling that I am on my nature
Do you have guidance or rehabilitation sites?

 

Thank you

 

Some times everyone makes fun of me in social networking sites I am a puppy

 

I found several useful sites when I googled "BDSM puppy play." They're serious, not porn, not making fun of the fetish.

Personally, I don't believe in rehabilitation for sexual fetishes that only involve consenting adults.

 

Could you be any sweeter ???