I have been told much the same before, she was always submissive (wanting to please people) but when she experienced a huge trauma, it was brought to the surface.

 

Submissive

 

I have always known my place as a submissive slave

 

For me it was always there below the surface, once I accepted it I got more and more into the lifestyle. Domination and submission is like a drug that way

 

I always knew I was sub but when I experimented with choking w my girlfriend I discovered I was a top as well

 

Always knew I was a very submissive person. Always wanted to be physically Dominated by a Stranger Man

 

I didn't have a word for it I just knew that being told what to do or forced a little got me wet. The first time I had two friends of mine pretend to take me by force was my first multi-orgasm sex. I also discovered older guys that loved to lead, sometimes a little forcefully and I loved that as well. Giving in is the best and I rarely if ever 'take control".

 

A question for the subs and slaves among you.

Do you get your pleasure from being used (the physical) or from knowing that you have pleased your Dom/owner?

 

Iv never been with a man but I thank about it all the time so I would say I'ma sub just the thought of me in my knees tacking a hard cock in my mouth an then bending over an letting him have his way with me wow I won't it now

 

I was trained by my mom and dad from a young age. And yes i believe i am a born submissive slut.

 

Ive always been sub. I love being dominated

 

I've always done as I'm told from the first time.

 

I'm a switch. I'm sub with older women, and dom if she's younger. Not talking BDSM or master slave. Just a matter of who's "wearing the pants" in the relationship.

 

Is this just in the bedroom or is it in every day life as well?

 

It’s something I’ve “ gravitated” to throughout the years, ultimately finding a balance, yet a preference in being treated like the ones I’ve been with & or done wrong. I pump the brakes on those overly pushy & thinking that even though I’m there to be sub/fem. , it’s on my terms, I haven’t been working out, with muscles & muscles, just for some asshole to think that they can get some satisfaction on me. Don’t be pushy, show me a little respect, try not to rush things & you’ll be able to treat me like your wife on your honeymoon.

 

I don't understand pushy Dom's. Any domination and submission has to come from a place of trust and understanding. Giving someone power isn't easy and takes a lot of strength on the part of the sub / slave.

 

I think I always felt submissive. At least after my first real intense sexual experience. It was kind of a rape-black mail situation. I had not control. I went to therapy after and the therapist said that I am reliving experiences I have not processed. But the submissive role is the only way I can feel intense sexual arousal.

 

I change. Karma Chameleon
Mostly Sub

 

I figured it out as I experimented

 

I know I've already answered but I'm thinking some of my sexual submissiveness is apathy.
I enjoy sex when it's happening (and I mean really enjoy it), but when it's not, I don't really think about it a whole lot.
My dad never discussed sex. At least not with me and my sister.
My mother was hard core against it. I'm pretty sure she was a missionary style, under the covers, lights out and only on anniversaries and his birhday.
She thought sex was something women were expected to endure, like menstrual cramps and painful childbirth.
My best friend on the other hand, was sexually active at an early age (or so she claimed) and by high school graduation had slept with about 20 male students and a few teachers/coaches (or so she claimed)
She said there wasn't a sex act a woman could perform that she hadn't. (Later, I figured out she had embellished her resume).
My first few partners weren't very experienced and didn't seem to grasp the idea that the woman was supposed to get something out of it other than a "reputation".
So that left me someone ambivalent about the whole thing.
When I gave my first BJ, I was somewhat pleasantly surprised when the ground didn't open up and swallow me whole.

I kind of went along, to get along.
I knew guys expected their girlfriends to do certain things and I didn't mind doing them, I just didn't realize I was missing out on whatever the big thing about sex was.
I figured out how to make myself orgasm (I thought I had discovered the secret to alchemy) and once I had, I had no problem having them during sex, but I still didn't spend my time thinking about sex.
My "boyfriends" asked for a BJ and I'd think "Sure. Why not" Same went for giving handjobs and eventually intercourse. I was simply trying to please.

Kevin was the first to tie me up, blindfold me, etc.
I never had a three way until after I met him (four and more ways came later)
I trust him and that trust gave me the confidence to do things I would never had done previously (public nudity, being watched, role playing, etc)

I'm somewhat sexually submissive but I think my pliability and eagerness to please make me appear to be more submissive than I actually am.