does therapy usually work or not often or about 50%?
i see a therapist because i've been afraid of guys always, and i've been in therapy for 2 years.
i also talk to my parish priest each week.

 

Therapy only works if the person getting it really wants it to work.
If the person does not really want help it is a complete waste of time.

 

i try to be as honest as possible in therapy so hopefully that will help my therapist enough to solve me, and its helped me be honest online too.

 

Being honest is a start. You are forgetting what I posted.
The person has to want it to work.
The funny thing about it is if a person really wants something to work they do not need therapy.
Only those who do not really want anything to change are the people who usually go to therapy.

 

i think my case is too hard to change so i don't really want it to change.
i mean i'm not willing to date a man, even though i love imagining dates like everyday.
plus i love being with my GF anyways, but i know i should experience a date with a guy at least once in my life
but i've at least been alone with a man in the house when he put GFs blinds up, even if he's done handywork like 10 times before when i lived with MUM.

 

If you really don't want to change why go to a therapist?
Maybe some day your curiosity will cause you to give a man a try.
If you enjoy being with a woman why worry about it? Accept that and enjoy it.
What makes you think you should experience a date with a man?

 

that's a good question actually a lot of times i've almost stopped therapy and i might stop really soon :/
i think my curiosity is very very very very powerful so i might try out of interest if a comfortable option happens (i could probably date the handyman but he's married).
i agree i have enough love by sticking to my GF
most of my fantasizing is about men, so just seems like i'm a bit obsessed with them but maybe i'm only obsessed because i haven't tried one whereas i've tried like 8 gfs.
my GF knows my body science changes around men :/
i'm just going back to bed now cya

 

Why did you go with girls from the first?

 

Dude she's CLEARLY a lesbian.

But also...I have my own qualms about therapy.

In the events of extreme circumstances, I've found therapy to be an empty and rewardless experience in the past...

But talking out your problems with someone who you trust is also healthy....and most importantly...rational.

Slashes someone's tires is irrational. Throwing a brick through someone's window is irrational....

But trying to better yourself by fixing and mending the brokenness we've all experienced at one time or another, is a very brave thing to do.

 

Might want to try another therapist. The one your seeing hasn't help you in two years. He's taking you for a ride.

 

Clearly not a lesbian if she dreams and desires about having sex with a man.
Maybe bi.

 

Therapy works most of the time, but it really depends on what you consider to be success. If you had therapy to help you quit smoking, it's easy to measure that one.

Therapy to deal with irrational phobias(fear of parakeets) has a high success rate. The therapist doesn't "cure" the phobia. Instead they teach techniques which help the person cope with or avoid stressful situations.

A lot of the time, the root problem needs to be treated with drugs, antidepressants, anti-schizophrenia, ant-what have you got. These mental illnesses always come with learned behaviors which can make life difficult, such as hiding from the giant parakeets. Therapy helps learn new behaviors, once the drugs have given the person a more realistic view of the environment.

Parallel therapy has the poorest success rate, but probably because the treatment for depression, schizophrenia, and other mental illnesses also has a poor success rate.

 

I know a woman who hated elephants. It wasn't fear of them, she wanted all of them dead.
She went to therapists and was even in a mental institute for a while.
She finally killed her husband. She still hates elephants.
Manic depressive.

 

i'm not sure, just was at sleepovers a lot with the right girls i guess.

i might just keep talk to my parish priest instead, he's wise and its fun to talk to a man without their being the romantic presssure....
he lets me talk even when its not confession or anything formal

 

I won't fuck pizza.

 

MUM said for me to go, so it wasn't my idea really.

i almost decided to study psychology in year 11 but i decided not to because its a lot of reading and i don't read a lot usually and also because there is some math and i always try to avoid that.

 

A good therapist is worth their weight in gold

 

A lot depends on the therapist. Psychiatry is more of an art than a science.

A book I recommend is Neurosis is a Painful Style of Living, by Samuel I. Greenberg. It is only 143 pages long.

It was my introduction to the works of Karen Horney, who I also recommend.

An essay I recommend is "Psychological Types," by Carl G. Jung. It is 53 pages long. You can find it on the internet right here:

http://www.edarcipelago.com/classici/CGJungpsytypes.pdf

Jung explained the dichotomy between extroversion and introversion.

Introversion has advantages, but introverts have difficulty developing social skills. If an extrovert and an introvert are together in a room full of people, before talking to any of the people the extrovert will be observing the others, seeing how they are dressed, how they interact, and so on. The extrovert may be thinking about a book he read several years ago.

By Jung's eight part typography I am an introverted thinking person. That is to say that I overestimate the importance of facts and logical reasoning.

Self analysis can supplement analysis by a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

 

I find mental health meds work far better than therapy.

 

The therapist is probably doing a good job but then she talks to the priest who most likely undoes all the therapist's work.