Desirability is a complicated thing and what complicates it most is that it starts with physical attraction, but physical attraction quickly becomes a small element in the mix. It's the nature of the human mind. We like a lot of things, but we don't waste time on the unavailable. When something attractive becomes available, its desirability goes way up, and we're impelled to work hard to get it.

What this means in the real world, a man can find a lot of women attractive, but the one who finds him attractive to her, gets his attention. His brain will find something desirable about her. A lot of desirable things, mostly stuff she won't understand.

Don't hold yourself up to some vague impossible standard of "not sexy enough", when the real standard has already been applied and you are desired by the only man whose judgment matters.

 

Well, From your pics you look very desirable to me

 

I was after this girl for a long time. Asking her out. She finally did go out with me but I never got anywhere. Felt awful. Then her friend told me she admitted she is a lesbian. At least I wasn't me, but until I knew, it hurt.

 

Frankly, I have never felt desirable. However, I went many, many years not wanting to be. Attention, focus or interest in me meant a bad thing. Even when I worked and one would think it was important, I simply worked more out of habit (in that otherwise I would simply rehash my entire past over and over), so I didn't care if I garnered attention, and therefor more profit. Finally regarding that, I learned a long time ago that I could have a face that looked like a sack of smashed assholes, no curves like most gals, a nasty personality and no verbal skills, and still as long as I had hands and holes you'd get attention, like it or not.

That said, over the years I had many who try and make me feel desirable, yet oddly (or maybe not, simply confirming the physical) considering I'm not that personable of a person, the desire they expressed was for me as a person. The balance more fixated on my "skills" so once again, hands and holes.

In any case, once I got to the age that being desired meant something positive, then it really didn't matter anymore to me. I learned to be proud of who I was simply because I accepted myself for being me. Funny thing with that is, the second I started liking myself, people seemed to desire me 100x more.

Funny how that works...

Hush....an alias

 

I had this feeling one time and I began posting nudes online. I got a huge boost to my self confidence, until word got out and I got attached the nickname "GoneWildGirl" from the subreddit r/gonewild. Everytime I was called GoneWildGirl by a fellow student I felt a little worse. After other events had taken place, I reached a point to where I didn't care anymore, all I cared about were my own desires, not whether someone else found me desirable or not.

 

I've never been desirable. Litterally gave up entirely...

 

Yes in the middle of a sexy chat and the other person just goes poof and disapears.

 

Yes, to women. Usually when people hit on my wife all the time but it rarely happens for me. (IRL on here people actually seem to like me even if it is mostly men)

 

I believe every female does, I do constantly . No matter the attention I recieve. I base it on opinion. I am my own worst enemy. So yea, i feel undesirable ALOT .

 

Rub one out. I don't know if it's the endorphins or what, but I think I look better after a good wank.

 

Feeling undesirable has not been a reality for me since I achieved adulthood. Knowing certain people (ex wife, etc.) did not want to ever speak with me reinforced the knowledge there are people who do not desire me.

 

Well this has been a depressing start to the day.

Attention from the opposite sex helps, but beyond trying to look my best, that's out of my control.

My favorite story about that was a woman walking the opposite way down the sidewalk, looking me up and down as she gets closer, then as she's about to pass me she kind of shrugs her shoulders and cocks her head to the side as if to say "yeah, I guess he meets minimum requirements." Made me feel good and gave me a laugh.

 

Of course - haven't all women at some time or another?
Bad hair day - bloating tummy on a period - a guy saying he hates my pubes - being told my boobs are sagging - someone saying I have a fat arse!
These are just a few of the events and comments that make me feel undesirable - but hey ho .. that's life - strip off and enjoy the World!

 

More now then I ever have in almost 50 years of being alive and the fault lies within me to change it, I feel 10x less the man aesthetically and feel piss poor sexually. As many know the wife and I have gone through years of struggling with our connection sexually that over time (depending on your views) you start to internalize after first blaming them, so I devised a plan yet enacted in it's fullest extent. Of throwing myself into the deep end of the physical, mental and nutritional training for Powerlifting and Strongman sports for which my reserve is that by following such an intense program will lead to a wall of separation without her support.

This isn't to say that she doesn't wish to support such a lofty goal, but has made it clear that she doesn't appreciate the muscular form (which could change) necessary or the eventual separation from the home for networking a parlay into a full career and that would partially garner the attention to me in a sexual way from others. Damned if I do and Dumb if I don't!

 

I can't understand women. My wife was feeling down about herself and asked me if I thought she was still desirable, I told her she was fuckable, it didn't help.

 

Ya an still do at times

 

Oooohhhhh yeah

 

Yup