That's sad If fact a lot of these responses are.


I'm straight up with a woman. I'm quick to tell her if you don't tell me what you like or you fake it, you're the one losing out. I'm here to please you

When a woman does fake, does she go through all the muscle tightening and asshole puckering routine? That's one thing I look for during orgasm so if she's going to fake it, she had better put a lot of work into it to make it look real.

 

Busted!! Guess who's getting some punishment...

 

I have with previous lovers, they didn't seem to care so much about pleasing ME. but currently, no.

 

i feel that if a woman is FAKING her orgasms...its HER FAULT !! nobody is pshycic , every person is completely different on how they need to be pleasured. TELL US HOW YOU LIKE IT ! dont be affraid of making us feel inadequate. WHat works on one person , may do absolutely NOTHING to for the next one. if u want that finger in your ass to make u go that extra bit , then say so.

 

100% agree, if you're confident enough to have sex with someone then you should be confident enough to tell them what you need... lol, i truely don't understand what goes through a girl's mind as she decides to fake an orgasm... the whole idea genuinely seems obscene to me... just communicate... and cum :mrgreen::mrgreen::mrgreen:

 

They all have I suspect..:excited:

 

A lot of denial going on in this thread. It's almost as if:

a: women don't want others to perceive them as deceitful, deceptive or manipulative, and

b: men don't want to confront the possibility that they may not be the supremely gifted lovers they think they are.

Result: everyone has a vested interest in preserving a polite fiction.

 

I'd rather hear the truth, thanks. If I'm not a good lover, tell me so, and I will strive to improve. I do not see a reason to lie. Everything works out better when the truth is told. I don't enter relationships to boost my ego, I enter them because I care about the other person and want them to be happy. If they aren't happy, and I could improve something to make them happy, I want to improve that thing. If they pretend to be happy, and don't tell me when something's wrong, I respect them less. Besides, if someone says I'm great from the get-go, I suspect they're lying, because I know I'm not perfect.

I reserve fiction for entertainment, like books and movies. A relationship is about both people being happy, not just one. I would never want to pretend I enjoyed something and be miserable, and I would never want my partner to do that either.

 

Well...that's a bold and idealistic statement.

But in the real world, telling the truth on every occasion can be rude, or downright cruel. Yes, in a committed, long-term relationship, truthfulness is absolutely necessary and desirable, although even in such cases, white lies can be beneficial.

In a casual relationship, I'd rather preserve my partner's self-esteem than hit him between the eyes with the fact that he's a lousy fuck.

 

I agree, sometimes it’s just not worth the effort, and just get it over and done with.
A guy that doesn’t know anything about proper foreplay and thinks just because I’m naked he should just stick it in, probably isn’t going to get a second chance and I won’t waste my time teaching.

 

If he's a lousy fuck, why are you in a casual relationship with him?

I think we just have a different world view. Like when I write my stories, I don't want people just to tell me "wow, that was great, write more." I want people to tell me something that actually helps me improve for next time. If someone tells me something useful, I am way, way, waaaay more grateful to them than if they stroked my ego by telling me how wonderful I am.

In a relationship, to me, it's even more improtant to tell the truth. If I am eating you out, and I'm not doing anything for you at all, you should nudge me in the right direction and tell me what to do to get you off rather than fake it, otherwise I'm wasting your time. Relationships should be mutual, and if only one person is getting off during sex, the other person is just a piece of meat. That's alright if that's what you want to be, or if that's what you want to fuck, but if I'm fucking a piece of meat I don't care whether they get off or not, so there is STILL no reason to fake it, because I wouldn't care.

And people who are bad at faking it are the worst of all. I'd rather you read a book or watched TV as I fucked you than pretend to be enjoying yourself. Hell, when I watch a porno I hate it when the acting is bad.

Hell, if I'm in a one-night stand I'd rather the person I'm with tell me what's not working and what is.

As for being rude or cruel, I think it's only cruel to tell other people that your partner is no good. If you tell me I'm no good, I'll ask you how I can improve myself. I don't see anything rude or cruel about it. To me, it is way, way more rude to lie to me than to tell me something about myself that needs improvement.

Oh, well, different strokes for different folks.:-|

 

Because it's a casual relationship, this may be your first opportunity to find out about his deficiencies. That's why I made the distinction.

Suppose I told you that you smelled bad. Or that you have bad breath. Or that you came too quickly and I didn't enjoy it at all. Most people don't find it necessary to insult their partners for the night...they just chalk it up to a mistake and move on.

 

If you told me I smelled bad I'd put on some deoderant. If you told me I had bad breath I'd chew some tic-tacs. If I cum too quickly I'll try to pleasure you in other ways. I don't consider a single one of them insults, since the first two have easy fixes, and the third is something I always want to improve, so I appreciate knowing the source of the problem, and I would strive from then on to make it last longer.

In fact, I can't think of the last time I felt insulted by anyone, sexual partner or not, because too many people are always walking on eggshells in hopes of not offending me or anyone else. If it's on your mind, speak up. If you have a problem with something I do that ruins the sex for you, tell me.

I take every criticism as an opportunity to improve myself, unless it is a limitation that cannot be improved, it which case I accept that limitation and move on to improve other areas to make up for it. If you told me my dick was too small, I'd accept that as a limitation and work around it to make sure you enjoyed yourself.

Telling me what is wrong helps me become a better lover. Keeping your feelings inside builds resentment.

If you are unhappy, I want to make you happy. If you are crying, I will comfort you. If you are angry, I will try to calm you down. Unless you tell me that you want to feel something specific, I assume the emotion you wish to attain at the moment is happiness, because that's usually the emotion I prefer. I know that's not always the case, but it's a good start.

 

dude you're a genius... why more guys aren't like you i don't know

 

I still did it once

She'd sucked me off earlier to orgasm, we fooled around and I got hard again, and we fucked. She really wanted ME to cum, and I was having a great time, but just couldn't get another orgasm. I guess it was too soon after the last one or something ...

So I pretended that I had an orgasm but just didn't cum. I think she knew, it was fairly obvious

 

Considering that I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, I can be honest. I've never faked an orgasm. It doesn't matter who I'm with or what I'm doing, but I make sure I take care of my own orgasm. It's usually a foregone conclusion that guys are going to cum during sex, so I don't worry about them. It may sound selfish, but I never leave the bed until I'm satisfied.

 

Sounds fair enough to me.

If I get mine, only fair that she gets hers. I always used that as a kind of insurance policy
I love going down on a woman, but at the same time, if I'd given her a great orgasm she wasn't so fussed if I came too fast or something, haha

 

i suck at sex so far but the only way i'll get better is practice and how can i practice if my friend does not want to teach me.

but yea I'd rather she just insult me then hide the guilt. Makes me feel better if i know what I'm doing.

oh yea i have not post in about a month becuase wrath of the lich king is coming out and I've been bust leveling like crazy.

bye everyone.

 

i'm kinda like that but the only problem i have is i take medicine and have social security.

Woman are not attracted by that.

guess my image is already damaged.

 

I've faked. I used to fake every time. I'm 26 and I've never had an orgasm. At first I faked because I didn't want to hurt his feelings (he didn't know about my 'condition'). Then I faked because I was already stuck in the lie and I didn't want to tell him the truth after so much time. And I couldn't just "stop having orgasms" all of a sudden.

But finally I just told him the truth. It was easier than I thought and the sex only improved because now he's even more excited about trying new things in hopes he can give me a real orgasm.