I would still be willing to suck her pussy and finger her.

 

He can't at all he had surgery and we haven't had sex for 3 weeks

 

I wish he would

 

I don't wanna sound selfish but I need affection and pleasure

 

How long has it been since the surgery?

Its not selfish, you are expressing your desire.

 

2 weeks but it had been a week before the surgery. He won't touch me or look at me naked.

 

A bigger issue is at play. I suggest you talk to him and figure out why he is acting that way.

 

2 weeks but it had been a week before the surgery. He won't touch me or look at me naked.

 

No he just really can't have sex and don't wanna get turned on by me or pleasure me cause he can't be pleasured

 

Absolutely!! I've done this even while having the ability to have sex. Pleasuring her is just as enjoyable to me, even without reciprocation.

 

1 problem: He's insecure, perhaps more so now with the surgery.

Same advice I would give a guy: Do something that will boost the way he feels about himself. Something NOT sex-related. Keep away from that topic for a while. Once he starts to get some of his manly ego back, he will eventually get his libido back.

 

Sweet passion, sorry to hear what you're going through. You sound like an extremely sexual person who's used to getting want you need from your man, so this sudden change must be tearing you apart (or at least leaving you incredibly frustrated.

In the past my wife and I had a slightly different problem whereby she had surgery so couldn't have penetrative sex. If she touched my cock she would become extremely frustrated, so I wouldn't let her - I just licked her incredible pussy every night for a few weeks, going without myself (until she fell asleep, at which point I'd jack myself senseless).

Is the any chance you could tell us what surgery he had? Just wondering if the "more going on" is related to the surgery - e.g. if it were a circumcision then he may not want to become aroused, or if it was heart related maybe he is genuinely afraid that becoming aroused might harm him?

 

There's something else going on here, or there's something specific about the surgery that would impact sexual desire.

Something is always going on if a guy does not want to have sex.

 

Thanks for your reply I sent you a pm

 

yes

I would do anything I was capable to please u and if that don't work my friend joeys a no strings kind of guy so that would b the back up plan preferable to u cheating on him at least he knows the person and trust both of you

 

In the case of being unable I would do all I could through fingers, tongue and toys which I've been known to do even now in giving her nights where I'm her toy and please her till she's completely satiated. If it was needed or necessary I would let her have a lover that could satisfy her though in a minute, love knows no boundaries!

 

Of course I would. Just because you have a feeling or issue doesn't mean your partner does. You have to attend to every need. Love doesnt just mean meeting her/his needs only if your are met as well.

I have hands, fingers, a tongue and a bank acct to buy toys with!!

 

Exactly that's what I tried to make him understand. He just tried to make feel guilty for thinking about my pleasure and not his pain. But my wants and needs doesn't stop or go away. So It really bothers me.

 

I would love for my husband to be like that with me. I would return the favor when he got well in every way. Pleasure him over and over.

 

Aahh haaa I do like your solutions to bringing me pleasure. Very thoughtful of you. Some men just aim to please. It's very sexy.