Men's Choice

You decide, stud.:rose:

 

I had to chuckle to myself when I thought about this. For quite awhile (we're talking years) a medication I was on pretty much prevented me from reaching orgasm. I could, but it took a LONG time, and much more patience and effort than my wife was willing to devote to that goal. Everything worked physically...just no climax (for me). Knowing that in no way impacted my willingness to give her as much pleasure as possible. That's the difference between sex with a lover, and masturbation...one of the biggest sources of enjoyment is seeing and feeling the pleasure you're giving to her. These gentlemen have it right:

But it does seem like there's more to this...

The fact that you mention "pain" suggests to me a new aspect of this I didn't consider. I don't know exactly what it was he had surgery for, but if it left him 'unable to have sex' it could be that there's actual discomfort that occurs if he gets turned on. The thought that he doesn't want to even see you naked...makes me wonder. Years ago, I was injured during sex with a past lover...she was a "curvy" lady with a few extra pounds, and was on top during some really intense fucking, and at some point I slipped out of her and on the down stroke her pelvis had a collision with my penis.
For all intents and purposes...I "broke" or "sprained" my dick! I woke up like an hour later in intense agony, with a super-hard erection that went straight for the first half, and then veered left at about a 30 degree angle!
It took a long time for it to heal, and because arousal resulted in so much pain, I went to great extremes to avoid getting turned on. And since the woman I was with was (sorry, its the truth) a sadistic bitch, when she was mad at me, she would come up and whisper sexy things in my ear because she knew how much pain it would cause me....fun times.

If he does have some condition that causes him actual pain...just try to hang in there and be patient. Give him time to heal, and he'll probably be eager to make up for lost time when he's well again (it sounds like you had no complaints before the surgery?) I know a couple weeks can seem like a long time, but my wife recently had to have a total hysterectomy, and we couldn't have intercourse for a couple months. I thought I was going to go crazy, but I survived. I recommend you do what I did: buy yourself a toy and look at a lot of porn!

Sigh...that's familiar. When I saw a New Year's banner from the back last Decemeber, and realized that "2013" in reverse looked like "Eros" I was resolved to make this a year of sexual adventure! Truthfully? I think my wife and I had sex maybe a dozen times in the whole year...It would be nice if this year was different, but I'm resigned to the fact that it won't be.

I hope this situation resolves soon for you Sweet, and that your man is back to the giving partner you were accustomed to. I believe it will....

 

Tell her there is plenty of you to go around rite sweetie?

 

Thank you sweet heart. Believe me honey I used my toys numerous times all while hiding it from him as he didn't like the thought of me pleasuring myself either. It has been very difficult for me since I'm such a sexual lady. I did understand his pain and I felt really bad and I was very good to him even though he would lash out at me over silly things just cause he was frustrated. Yesterday he tore my clothes off and threw me on the bed and we had sex... well if you call it that it lasted maybe 2 mins which I understood why lol but I liked the fact that he got so turned on by seeing my body and feeling my wet pussy again. Sex is such a lovely lovely thing!!!!

 

You got that right sweetie!

thinskin

 

I'm so sorry honey. May 2014 bring you tons of sexual pleasure however you can. Make it happen.

 

That's so sexy baby!!!!!

 

I would do anything to ensure her sexual needs were met. period

 

Quitter talk!

 

That's the part I don't get. Why not be willing to lend a hand, tongue, or power tools? If you don't get any pleasure in providing pleasure to somebody else, at all, doesn't that indicate that something has gone horribly wrong?

 

You have a point!! That something was called being a little selfish. If he played with me he might get excited. Or if he played with me I might get pleasure and he wouldn't. If something happened and I couldn't have sex well he would just be satisfied in other ways. Cause if you don't keep your partner happy someone else will.

 

Yes , I almost forgot what sex and pleasure felt like.

 

Sure I would do what I can for her.

 

Unfortunately, that's what will happen - people will seek release and pleasure elsewhere. Porn, toys, etc, and then, probably the real thing.

No one likes to contemplate the idea of missed-out-on orgasms.

 

Second guy this week offering to fill in for me.

Thinskin

 

Sweetpassion i hope things get better for you. i know in my relationship i catch my wife and muff her to orgasm at least once a week whether she wants it or not, with no want or need for reciprocal action. i just think she could do with it. I can not image a week going by where i have not pleased her at-least twice.(not those times when she goes on the rampage and insists that i make her have 10 or fifteen orgasms)

 

Thank you, it's killing me. I need it so bad. I wish he would understand my needs. It's no longer a want. I need his touch.

 

Jump on top of him and growl in his ear just how much you want it while grinding on him. If you want to go the kinky route, record yourself masturbating and tell him you got a great movie to watch together.

 

I wish but he isn't able to have sex right now due to surgery it will be a while.

 

Love to help you out Sweetpassion