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    Personal info as kik, email, skype etc. is not allowed ("email is....."; “kik is same as my username”) on our forum. Please use Private Messages for it.

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  2. Hello,


    New users on the forum won't be able to send PM untill certain criteria are met (you need to have at least 6 posts in any sub forum).

    One more important message - Do not answer to people pretending to be from xnxx team or a member of the staff. If the email is not from forum@xnxx.com or the message on the forum is not from StanleyOG it's not an admin or member of the staff. Please be carefull who you give your information to.


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  3. Hello,


    You can now get verified on forum.

    The way it's gonna work is that you can send me a PM with a verification picture. The picture has to contain you and forum name on piece of paper or on your body and your username or my username instead of the website name, if you prefer that.

    I need to be able to recognize you in that picture. You need to have some pictures of your self in your gallery so I can compare that picture.

    Please note that verification is completely optional and it won't give you any extra features or access. You will have a check mark (as I have now, if you want to look) and verification will only mean that you are who you say you are.

    You may not use a fake pictures for verification. If you try to verify your account with a fake picture or someone else picture, or just spam me with fake pictures, you will get Banned!

    The pictures that you will send me for verification won't be public


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  1. Hush

    Hush Happy Hhedonist

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    Oct 15, 2014
    Having been in and around the lifestyle for 20 years (my husband 38 years) to degrees few will ever experience I can tell you that the only thing "gay" about it is your friend's reaction....but then again not. What I mean by that is, his response would be except it sounds as though you were discussing subjects with someone who is not experienced or mature enough to be discussing them.

    It doesn't matter that he has started swinging in that he has not been in it long enough to have enough experience to be comfortable with his own sexuality. Think about it. Why does it matter to him what you do? My initial guess being you mentioning such a thing to him probably felt to him as though you were tossing it out there to garner a good/bad reaction intent on leading onto more rather than simply having a casual conversation.

    I'm not saying that you spoke on a subject you shouldn't have. What I'm saying is you discussed a topic with the wrong people.......Hence the old swingers concept of "discretion". Part of that being not sharing people, events, or situations with those not having similar tastes, experience or knowledge......you're the veteran, it is upon you to make that call knowing that when they are ready to know or learn they will ask.

    Hush....an alias
     
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  2. swingerj

    swingerj Sex Machine

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    Oct 16, 2014
    Very true all around. To give context, we were having a conversation about the lifestyle and he was asking quite a few questions about how to behave. They all seemed like he was wanting to make sure he did not violate the "rules". The question that spawned my answer above was regarding "accidental touching". Like if he were to touch another member of the party in some way that was not intended. I told him it all depends on the relationship they have with their partners. Then I told the story.

    I was quite put off by his response and checked off the "too immature" box on his party invitation.

    Thank you for your well thought out input. Always good to connect with others in the lifestyle that have experience.
     
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  3. swingerj

    swingerj Sex Machine

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    Oct 16, 2014
    Tiny bit, yes.:)
     
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  4. BrandiDelicious

    BrandiDelicious Luscious Lips

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    Oct 16, 2014
    You were confident which is a huge turn on and the etiquette of the lifestyle is yet to be learned by your friend who called you gay.
     
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