Hi,
I'm not going into detail about myself in the open, but i was an abused child, occasionally i remember and dwell on it and sometimes it affects me for a while.
I wonder if my sexuality and openness to sex in general is based on what happened to me?

What are your thoughts???

 

how old were you was it a family member

 

Not of the rules here and don't wish to be banned so will say nothing and you can guess and the other question was sort of and yes

 

Can we pm each other

 

If you like

 

Are you sure you're in the right place?
That's in a round about way what my shrink said!

 

All valid questions and there are many survivors on the forum and my advice would always be to seek out professional help......talking therapy...…..and that maybe you want to ask these questions three floors down on sexuality instead of on the moral quagmire that is general discussion.

I think you will get a more measured and thoughtful response on the sexuality sub-forum!

Good luck!

Thinskin

 

Just a general question! How do i move my thread? Just copy and paste or what?

 

I have survived much in my life and i have not let it affect me in bad way, it has definitely affected me in a sexual way

 

Where you are in your life is the result of the sum total of your experience. Every moment before right now has brought you here, and every moment has influenced you in small or large ways.

Experience shapes you, and is inevitable. It makes you uniquely you.

As to the why, I think you need to begin with ascertaining that only if you think there needs to be an explanation and/or change. I mean, unless you’re just curious and feeling introspective, which is also perfectly valid.

Based on one brief post I’d say you’re doing just fine (recognizing that’s incredibly simplistic) and would just simply ask whether you want to actually know if your sexual personality is predicated on having survived abuse, or whether you just want to have an explanation for your open mindedness.

We seem to offer an explanation often; how many times have you heard people say, “Oh, I was raised that way” or “My parents did X, so I did Y” to give background or credence to something they do or say.

My thought is that you needn’t explain yourself to anyone. You are a child of the universe, you are here, you are perfection and imperfection in a completely unique combination, the sum of your parts, physical and mental and emotional, and you have boundless potential.

Look at you go.

 

Well, couple thoughts.
First, the abuse you suffered is not your fault. You couldn't prevent it.
Second, you can let the abuse define you, and you can even use it as an excuse. Or, you can define what happened to you and understand that your abuse only harms you if you let it.

These are not Shooters words. They are the words of an abuse survivor who Shooter has known for many years. An abuse survivor who counsels abused kids.

 

I was just wondering if you joined 8 years ago but only have 64 posts why you decided to come out now? Did the abuse make you reclusive?

 

Thats terrible that you had to go through that. I was bound to have some sort of impact on your developing sexuality.