I would be in you right now if I could!

 

If I was your bf I would fuck you a lot and if I thought I had to jerk off then you could jerk me off. I would want to include you in it all and expect you to. But most important you wouldn’t be here complaining about not being satisfied. I would be knocking the bottom outta your pussy and keeping you satisfied so you wouldn’t have time to complain. If he can’t keep you satisfied somebody else will and I’m available if you want me to come show you what satisfaction feels like

 

I love jerking but also love sex. Love also pleasuring ourselves while wat hung each other when we don’t feel like sex

 

Jacking off,requires no effort, no need to make sure your partner is happy, no judgements of how good or how long or how hard just a very simple wack till explodes. with many partners having sex is the opposite of jo. always critiquing everything, disappointment if not as expected, etc...

 

I'm not opposed to masturbating.. as needed. Never turned down the ex, when she was pregnant.. and wanted it 6+ times a day.

 

@Juicebox913 to me masturbation is no where nearly as enjoyable as sex. It is totally devoid of any emotional pleasure.
Granted it is a convenient and rather quick way to get off so serves a potential need that way.
If I had you I would want to be inside you, fucking you !
Or if I was spent and tired I would be licking your pussy, fingering you and fucking you with toys until you could take no more.
But each may be different. I myself get a thrill call it a a high, from the mutual enjoyment form the emotional bond that develops, and just love
the joy from getting a lover off, giving orgasms. Plus I love to hold, to caress, to stare in my lovers eyes while giving little loving kisses to them during the afterglow phase.

My thought is that Perhaps he is not emotionally invested in your relationship.
Is there anything you can do to possibly indulge his fantasies and merge them together with yours hence turning it into action.
Is there anything you can offer him that is not present which he is watching in those porn videos?
I think you need to sit down and have a talk. It sounds like is not just the case of mis matched libido.
You need the presence of the thrill of pleasing each other, of getting each other off.
You need to nurture that feeling, it should be a bond, it needs to be ignited, to be fueled, to be kindled.
So if he prefers to merely please himself then there is deeper issues within your relationship.

Figure it out. There is no point in just towing an anchor.
You will be happier if you set yourself free and have a horny guy that cares about you and enjoys loving you.
Or perhaps friendships with more than one horny guy that loves pleasing you.
Or find a man that wants you to have both of the above.

 

I feel you. I hate that feeling. I hope you have a better partner, because you deserve better.

 

Unless the masturbation is part of a sex act with the partner, always sex over masturbation. There’s something off about a guy that hasn’t such a low sex drive, but he’s turning you down so often. It sounds like his addiction to pornography is outweighing his desire

 

God, If I had a girl that wanted to have sex multiple times a day, I’d probably worship her. And it’s weird because it’s, at least sometimes, reversed. Usually the guy is the one ready to go at it, and the woman whose not feeling it. And at least, in that case, their not going off, and masturbating by themselves. It would be different if when he gave excuses, they were true. But it just sounds like he’s just not interested in having sex with you. I’m sorry about that, but as many of previous comments suggest. There are plenty of other partners out there that would be more than happy to accommodate your high sex drive. And I hope you do!

 

Why not both?

 

I enjoy having the human connection when having sex. But enjoy sex even without it.

 

Both are great, I'd love sex everyday, but a nice long edging jerk session can be pretty intense too.

 

It is no brainer, sex with a partner is better in many ways than any masturbation.
When I cum into a vagina, I feel rejuvenated. When I cum into a tissue, I feel depleted.
This goes parallel to a study of women having sex with a partner wearing a condom.
The women felt depressed after sex. And when there was no condom in use during sex, they felt much better after .
I gather, you have tried to talk to him with no effect.
Sexual habits are very hard to change. Maybe think of the early days for you two.
What was it that brought you together.

 

I have a pretty high sex drive and would enjoy giving it to you anytime and anywhere you wanted it.

 

Obviously sex feels 10x better but sometimes I just want to take care of myself, or have just taken care of myself and therefore ask her to wait a few minutes

 

Sounds like he just isn’t into you anymore for whatever reason. I wouldn’t take it personally - move on!

 

I was like that with one of my girlfriends. All she wanted to do was mission, and that's it she didn't want to change positions, or do anything else. So I started looking at porn for variety. Then I showed her diff positions. And she liked them.so maybe he's bored of ur sex.

 

I'm curious what his response is to this. If he's turning you down that often, there is something else going on, and it's not going to resolve itself unless you two talk about it and try to resolve the issue.

 

I would rather be having sex.

 

It’s all about the intellectual and emotional connection that you can’t have with a tissue/rag/sock……