ok so this doesnt really have anything to do with porn...but i REALLY like this girl and she has a boyfriend but there not doing so well right now and i dont know if i should tell her how i feel about her or what...anybody have any advice...i would also like to hear what the girls think i should so about this

 

Sure why not?

Nothing ventured nothing gained? Unless this boyfriend is also a buddy of yours or so? But perhaps even then, the quasi rule of "all's fair in love and war" should apply if you truly want offer her something better than she has iyo.

Another thought is about rebound girls being an almost sure bet to fail as a bond for young folk. But I think I'll let a lady hereabouts say more on that issue if they so decide.

 

yeah her boyfriend is one of my good friends and hes kinda getting mad at me for talking to her on the phone and stuff so much...but he never calls her anyway.

 

You are only here once - you might get run over by a bus tomorrow and die wondering - tell her and see what happens - if it fucks everything up then move on.

 

Yeah I reckon this is ok in your situation also.

I get the feeling this "friend" isn't exactly a "best mate" who has maybe sacrificed himself for you in the past (like landing you a job through influence or etc etc?) .

So, if your intention is to make her happier than he is, and you don't care how he'll feel about it to much. Go for it.

When I was young I would have dithered also no doubt. BUT I can tell you honestly now, I only regret the times I sat on my ass and felt inadequate when I felt for a girl as you probably do at the moment. So better speak to her and see if she can reciprocate your feelings, and if she thinks she can? Well. Let it be a lesson to your ex-friend, to take more care with his toys. Its not always a bad thing to get a kick up the arse now and then. He could come away a better man after all.

 

Advice my dear old Mum frequently gave me ....make sure you're wearing clean underwear!

 

My mum always used to say "watch out for the buses"

 

That reminds me of something, When I was about eighteen a friend held a vicar and tarts party, all the girls went as vicars and all the lads went as tarts. After the party was over and the sun was coming up we got the munchies. SO we quickly removed our wigs, dresses and make up and put our shirts and pants on to head for the 24 hour motorway service station.

On the way my mate crashed the car, no one was too badly hurt but we were all concussed. One guy had hurt his knee, another his ankle, We were sent to the hospital. Gave the nurses a bit of a shock when they discovered four hairy arse teen lads all wearing fishnets and suspenders inder their pants.

Still mum would be proud, they were clean.

 

i guess my problem isnt tell her how i feel cause she knows i have strong feelings for her...but my problem is tell her she shouldnt be with her boyfriend anymore cause i know she loves him but i think he doesnt have the feelings for her that this sweet beautiful girl desrves...i guess what im saying is i would give anything in the world to be in his position but to him shes not that big of a deal so it seems like a waste to me

 

Young Love, To Be There Again

This is usually a painful time unless you are an absolute ass and don't care about any girls feelings. Obviously you do not fit into that category, you are much like me with very deep feelings and attachments.

My best friend asked me if it was OK if he dated my first love who hadn't been (from her side) a "friend" even though I still loved her dearly. Since I wasn't "dating" her any more, (she was over at my house all the time), I told him since she wasn't going with me, I couldn't object. So I gave him my blessing, he married her six months later, doing what I wanted to do. Couldn't go to the wedding, to painful for me. Didn't date for 2 years, I was hurt so much.

 

My first question is: How do you know that she has feelings for you? Is it not possible that she likes you, and you're misinterpreting that....... a lot of men do. In my experience, woman are much better at having men for friends than visa versa.

Secondly, assuming that she does have stronger feelings for you, ask yourself why she is still with your friend if the relationship is unsatisfactory?
This is a cast iron fact..........when you're in love with someone, you never think that anyone else could love them as much as you......could be as good for them as you.....or treat them as well as you could!

I think most men have experienced this at some time!

You say that she loves your friend......if that is so, I would resist the urge to tell her that he is not good enough for her, -that might only serve to make her resentful.

If you play this wrong, then you stand to lose both of them.

Don't waste your time with unrequited love. Go out and meet other girls......there may be some wonderful girl who is just right for you around the next corner. Remember that nothing is ever quite as attractive as the thing you cannot have!

 

An excellent opinion.

 

That's how it always is... you like her and she likes him and he doesn't give a fuck her cause he an asshole. Wait til she comes to you and if she doesn't, cut your loses an move on.

 

Well Chunky and I are different. I'll bet his mum also told him to wash his hands after he took a piss while my mom told me not to piss on my hand. So I guess I'd be willing to say something along the lines of: "By the way Friend's girlfriend I think I have very strong feelings for you." But when you do you better be right and you better be true and you better be ready to move and that includes in any direction the ride takes you. Myself, I believe in taking the risks for the things I think will make me happy, but then I got nothing to cry about if I get bucked off after I told them to open the gate and let me out of the chute.

 

Remember that nothing is ever quite as attractive as the thing you cannot have![/quote]

Oh Chunky is that why you are just so damned attractive then?