I actually lost mine with a call girl. If I had to do it over again, I would have done it sooner.

 

I wouldn't change it, it was the right time. If i were to change it, i wouldn't have my awesome little daughter.

 

Yes, I would have waited longer. But then again, I've grown to be somewhat prudish and would have rather waited till I was married, or with someone I felt would be a life long partner. Not entirely sure I could fully say I regretted any of it though.

 

is it still a bad thing that i hadn't lost it yet.. that i'm still hoping for my first time to do it with someone that i really like and love, care about?

 

I don't think so at all! It's your body, and your preferences. Do what's best for you.

 

that's true.

as for that question.. i have answer for those who might have struggled with it. i really honestly believe that the social pressures comes from the mindset of how others are looked at or look down at. but the pressures, erg local peer pressure from how you feel about yourself and how you feel about others that might think of you. what they say about you might make you feel ashamed, inferior to them just because of that they truly are jealous that you never did it at all. my 12 cents.

personally, i just think it's pointless, it doesn't matter about it. you do it for fun, good time, love or experimenting with it. that's what we as Human beings are. we're.. simply Human.

 

I "lost" it when I wish I had found it ! I wish I had lost it when I was 14 to someone who was in their 20s. (you need to watch the movie "Summer of '42" to see what the ideal way was for a boy to lose his virginity). I was 18 and lost it to my future first wife who I was married to for 4 1/2 years, then divorced her and married another for 4 1/2 years then got divorced and married for 34 years and then divorced her and I am still looking for that sexually confident female who can teach me everything I need to know!
I am a very slow learner!! lol!

 

I would have kept it longer or at least chosen someone else. It wasnt a good experience

 

He's on vacation

 

Those who have never been there may not understand that sometimes you have to put a positive spin on even the worst situation which at the time doesn't feel wrong at all. That although wrong by the Lord or the law it happens and not everyone cries over it.

 

Hey men are shamed as boys when they don't and women are shamed if they do, there's no pleasing the court of public opinion so we need to teach the youth to be true to themselves!

 

I would have loved to have done it 2 or 3 years sooner (wasn't for lack of trying!) Sure, I would have been less mature and responsible, but if everyone waited until they were really mature and responsible enough, there'd be a lot of people dying virgins. I know someone who waited a decade past everyone else I grew up with. The next thing you know, she's pregnant and the father wouldn't stay with her. Eeven waiting that long, I guess she wasn't mature and responsible enough. I think heaping so much social and spiritual importance on virginity leads to a lot of unhealthy attitudes toward sex.

 

I lost mine barely a week after I had left home to start college. For me, it was the right time with the right man.

 

Can't change the past, so deal with it and move on.

 

I was 20, I ended up marrying her for 12yrs...don't regret it. Would have been Nice to have gotten some sooner but I moved around so much that it was hard to meet new

I'm not religious in any sense so I didn't have that holding me back.

the lack of partners before my ex-wife didn't hurt me in learning and trying new things and she never knew or guessed that I was a virgin before her, until I told her years later.

 

Neither of us would change ours. But, if we could change history, we would know each other and be each other's firsts.

 

The best you can do with boys or girls is teach them all they need to know, especially the difference between love and lust. If your in a relationship let them see a healthy interaction of two people who love one another and explain to them that you don't play or be played with emotions if it's only sex!

 

As a parent if it's not to presumptuous for me to add when it comes to our children besides the benefits of a comprehensive sexual/sensual education. Don't allow your children to believe in the sexualization of their bodies before their ready for the implications and responsibilities inherent in the way they dress or act. Little girls shouldn't be raised wearing g-strings and short shorts just as much as boys shouldn't be taught to cat call or wear cock hugging jeans with their shirts off. It implies a lack of parental supervision that I believe encourages the wrong message and they'll grow up soon enough to make their own decisions that I don't think should be rushed.

 

Omg you are so correct. I'm 39 with a 10yr old daughter who is going to be hot. Not being perverted, just realistic.

I can't stand seeing parents letting their young daughters wear such tight and short clothing. It's disgusting. I'm no prude by any means. My is Bi and we've both caught ourselves looking at Hot tight ass in spandex shorts, only to realize they're well below age.

Women don't want to be sexualized? You just want to look good? Ok, that's fine,but let's talk about what it means to look good.

Everywhere is the animal kingdom, all the pretty and big displays of colors , beautiful songs sung by birds , noises and trips the bugs make , posturing and fighting with males do..... Is all for one reason and one reason alone , mating.

if you want to go out in skimpy tight clothes and look good, who is it for?

If children are not ready for all of that physically and emotionally , then they shouldn't be dressing in that manner. There is no reason to look like THAT at a young age. So girls need to be taught to not sexualize themselves , and the boys should be taught to control their urges as much as possible . I was young once , hormones racing , wanting sex at every turn looking at every woman.... but did I force myself upon anybody.. did I let it distract me in school , yeah little bit on that one , but I was still taught to respect women . something this generation is very much lacking. well I will be one of those who will tell her everything that she wants to know . You can't stop your kids from having , which can educate them and make them smarter about it all that will help them make better choices.