Your post raises an interesting question. Can you MAKE yourself cum when you want to? Is there something you do that brings you to orgasm, or is it just a matter of not holding back or delaying it? The reason I ask is, I had a boyfriend once who claimed that by relaxing certain muscles he could "let himself go", so to speak.

Can other guys do this?

 

Actually Kimiko.....it is very possible. Don't know about the relaxing of muscles thing but I just quit attempting to hold back and concentrate on letting go......and BAM!!

Not perfect though.....sometimes if I've held back for too long (an hour or more) it is difficult to "shift gears" and finish. Takes more effort and time then.....fortunately my girlfrind knows al the right moves to make me blast off like a rocket.

 

I usually find that I can help with that...you know, talking dirty, telling him I want his cum, etc. With my husband, sucking hard on one or both of his nipples almost always tips him over the edge.

 

I don't think many women take advantage of men's nipples! How do you guys feel about having your nipples sucked and bitten?

 

I think if a girl sucked my nipples, it would throw me off, and probably wouldnt know what to think.

 

Well I think you should try it! Purely based on how delicious it feels for me ...

 

I'll go with you on that statement, I've gone a long time

 

yeah about 30 -35 mins for me

 

i know 2 hours. with a little help from alprostadil.

 

Sometimes it's 10 to 15 minutes, sometimes it's about a half-hour, a few times I'm pretty sure I've pushed 45 minutes. After that though I'm so sweaty and sticky that it starts to not be fun. This with changing positions and a breather here and there.

To answer Kimi's question, there are times when it feels like I can speed things up. It doesn't always work, I think if I feel to much pressure to pop then I can't actually do it, but if it's relaxed, if she's getting tired or what not, or if she knows it's just not going to happen for her that night, I can somtimes end it pretty quickly. There have been other times when I've fucked myself so tired that I couldn't keep it hard. Usually a ten-minute breather brought it back, and that's the main time I try to just get it over with.

-S-

 

Interesting. Do you find that if you slow down, just relax, and get into the sensation and not just the blind, hard thrusting, that it can sometimes bring you to orgasm more easily?

 

ONe way I can go so long is by slowing things down when I start to get the urge to come. If I do this a couple times it does three things for me, A) it lets me control when I want to come, not with muscles, but with my mind. and B) when I do let go, it's an unbelievably strong orgasm. and most importantly, C) let's me go all night.

I think it's almost the same for women too. ie: bring them closer to orgasm each time, but back off. Then, when you do take them 'all the way' it's much more intense.

- - - Kimi, let me know if I'm right about the 'women.' . . .

 

You're probably right that it's more intense. To be honest, though, I think most women feel like their orgasms are elusive enough that if one is close, they're gonna go for it, rather than risk letting it get away.

At least in my case, I don't hold back. I'm a lot more likely to growl something like this, through clenched teeth: "Fuck me hard! Make me come!"

 

Well see one thing you gotta understand is that we spend most of our time trying not to cum. We don't want to be known as one of those minute-men, you know. :wink:

So you have to sort of switch gears. For me, I focus on the sensations as much as I can and usually visualize the orgasm. A lot of times it's visualizing where I want it to be since, as I mentioned awhile back, I've never been with a girl that would let me cum on her face. Sometimes a pearl necklace or on her tits will suffice, depending on my mood. Again, visualizing here. (I've had some girls who didn't mind when I popped on their stomach or tits, but it's like they were doing it just because they knew I liked it and not because they found the act pleasurable in any way so at that point it wasn't interesting.)

Once I've accomplished this, it's more a matter of letting it happen. It's almost like I give my dick permission to get it's cookies. Remember, most of the time I'm telling him 'not until you can't possibly hold out any longer!" And yes, we talk to our little-heads. More then you might think, I'm willing to wager.

And then, we have lift-off. It's not gauranteed, but it tends to work about 70% of the time. I've tried to use this with the hookers before I swore off them, but the added pressure of the clock seems to almost kill it.

-S-

 

Faaaascinating. It's like a little war going on between your head and your penis.

Mmmmmm, go ahead, baby, pump out all that hot fuck sauce all over my face...nnn, I love how it feels, all syrupy and creamy....let me have every spurt of it...while you watch...

 

I'd hate you if I didn't love you so much, babe. :twisted:

Or as the man said. "I love you all wrong."

-S-

 

*laughing* I love it when I find the key to a man's heart.

But here's the funny thing...if I knew that all I had to do for my man to make him happy is to let him come on my face, I'm TOTALLY there! How easy is that?

 

You're mistaking me for always doing what the lady wants! Most of the time I'll oblige, but many times when I hear her building up, I'll slow down, and leave her at a plateau that, for her, just isn't quite there, and then let her slowly down. I'll do this a couple times and then when I get her up there again, it just seems soooo much more intense for her.

Sometimes it cracks me up too, when she desperatly just wants to come, and I just won't let her. I love the control. It's usually after she's all frustrated, that I let her have what she wants. Those seem to be sheet tearing, finger & toe clenching orgasms for the women.

Ohh, it's good to be a man!

 

*hissing* Bastard!

 

hehehe, I love anger! it seems once it gets like this, her orgasm is 10x stronger.

keep hissing, it's good for you. . . trust me. :wink: