Can you repeat the question?

 

What exactly would you like me to clarify ?? Or are you wanting me to adk you something more??

 

So you're saying you wouldn't at all in any way at some point feel like you just weren't doing it for your S/O?? No matter how good your game is . perhaps as a woman i could be taking it too personal after all I'm all for extra fun in the bedroom

 

Well @luvie maybe you should tie that man of yours face down and breakout the old strap on and pop his Cherry!
Be sure to turn the porn on his phone first.

OUCH!!!!

 

I can't imagine a guy doing that, not in the middle of having sex. If my guy did that, he'd better get used to watching porn because that's all he's going to get around here. I'd just get up and leave.

 

All this is doing is making you feel like your not good enough. So he should explain his motives for this behavior. Or one day you will be explaining how you fell into anothers bed and you both unleashed that passion. And he will be wondering why it happened. Because in his eyes he was giving you all you needed.

 

I'd like to write down a few thoughts. These are only points to ponder and shouldn't be taken too seriously. If anyone feels susceptible, don't even bother to read this post, because you could take it personally and it is not my intention to hurt anyone.

Sexuality is a very complicated thing. We can't control what turns us on.

It's better not to take online feedback seriously. Nobody knows the whole picture, so it's easy to say whatever.

About being a good lover. Can one be a good lover and at the same breath express criticism about one of the needs of their partner? Isn't a good lover one who'll be happy to, within the boundaries of consenting adults only, be understanding of the other's needs and fantasies and try to fulfill them?

If I claim the needs and satisfaction of my partner come first, and he happens to need porn to increase his pleasure, I'll give him porn, no shaming him for that.

Or am I really saying that his needs come first, as long as I'm all he needs. I'm not talking about other people. I'm talking about watching porn, or masturbating, or using a vibrator, plugs...

When we think of ourselves as lovers, shouldn't self criticism often start with our egos? I may not be all a man needs all the time.

Another thought. Isn't confidence a powerful aphrodisiac? If I'm confident, why should I care if a man needs some porn? I won't assume there's something wrong. It's just something he likes. Perhaps a memo sort of thing to try new positions. Perhaps he's just making sure he has help in case of need, to keep it up longer, to please me more.

Another thought. Do we need to know everything? Don't we all like a little privacy? Do we always want to talk about every little aspect of everything, all the time? Isn't a sign of love and respect when we grant our partners a little privacy and the right to just be, without having to explain themselves to us about things they're not ready to discuss, or just not in the mood? Or self-conscious about?

This could all be linked to the idea of confidence. And confidence can't be given to us by others. It comes from within.

Could one give one's partners space? They don't need to explain themselves to us. They'd talk about everything, eventually, but organically. Not because of a "need to know".

If we depend on others to build our confidence, aren't we giving them the power to eventually destroy it?

It's a bit the same as being confident because of wearing special clothes, or heels, or make up. Or because of a particular physical feature, like boobs, or butt. How are you going to feel when you're naked, barefoot and clean? When time passes and physical features sag?

Wouldn't we all be happier working on ourselves and being more receptive to the fact others won't ever be perfect, just like us? That they don't have answers to all questions, just like us?

I repeat that I'm saying it all in general, not as criticism to anyone. Just a few thoughts that crossed my mind. If anyone feels disturbed by it, accept my apologies.

 

I have started with porn but once things got heated up we both totally ignored the porn until we finished fucking.

 

It is strange.
Ask him for an explanation as to why he needed to go to porn once things were all ready heated up.
Did he go to porn during foreplay? or during intercourse?
Are you saying he had an erection and lost it? or switched to porn because he was afraid he was loosing it?
If he has been with you for a couple of years he should be comfortable enough to talk about it.
He owes you an explanation as to why he is seeking other stimulation.

Having a hot looking woman in your arms in your bed that is willing to do anything VS watching a phone screen, that is screwed up?
Tough decision between the two isn't it !?
I think it is obvious what the choice would and should be!

If he is loosing his erection and he loves you and feels for you there is some physical issue with himself.
Is he feeling pressured or inadequate in addition to erectile problems?
Am I correct in assuming you're not being aggressive or intimidating in some way that is putting further pressure on him?
Or something blocking honest free communication between the two of you ?
Otherwise is something personal preventing him from getting into you.
Maybe best not to jump to a conclusion but if its physical he either needs help or if its in his mind then you need to work it out or
consider a solution that works for you.

I would suggest tongue in cheek that you either need to find another partner or bring one home to show him how its done!!!
But don't take it the wrong way, I know how it feels to be in a relationship and not be wanted.
I hope that you can get an answer and hopefully work it out.

 

hubs is 74 and he can get it up anytime without porn of viagra. just needs to see some skin and he is ready to go. we do hacve porn playing most of the time but it is not professionals in the videos. it is what we make ourselves and of our gangbangs and fuck parties in our home or where ever we are. i am 53 and love the sex that we have and the fucking i get everyday and i do mean everyday. hubs and i get it on every morning when we wake up and again at night when we go to bed and anytime during the day we want to fuck. that is why i have no clothes and don't want any as i am always ready for hubs and his friends to use andy way they want me. i am not a sex slave just love to fuck and suck and i am a 3 hole slut and love to be airtight.

 

To begin with, No woman I have been with has kept her phone within reach when we were having sex.
Some women enjoy watching porn while having sex but not on something as small as a phone.
On a big screen is much better.
I personally would not be having sex with anyone who was more interested in their phone than having sex with me.
Sometimes I do not even allow a cell phone in the house with me. You can bet the sex would come to a sudden stop if my partner picked up their phone for anything.

 

I would squeeze his dick with my cunt.

 

I wouldn't take it and you certainly shouldn't have. I think it's totally rude, insensitive and disrespectful and I would have told him to watch his porn and jerk himself off ,then I would have put on my clothes and walked out and never had anything to do with the him again. I remember years ago when the Patriots where in the super bowl for the first time in years. My wife comes walking down stairs in nothing but a pats jersey on and wanted to fuck. The old fucks out here might remember Susan Saint James in McMillan in wife wearing the football jersey to bed? Well she gets on top and starts riding me, the pats are on the goal line. I started yelling lean to the left, lean to the left the pats are on the goal line and it's 3rd down move your fucking head, move move get your fucking melon head out of the way. But it wasn't like I picked up my phone and started watching porn, it was the Patriots

 

Ditch him. He has a serious problem if he needs to watch port while having sex. He's got it all mixed up in that simple head of his. You watch port when you can not have sex or don't have anyone. More worryingly you didn't happen to notice if it was gay porn. Def get rid