lol @ Obscene Cupcake- The "ugleh" thing is always a risk you run.

Thanks again for your input everyone! :rose:

 

I'm not really sure if it is possible. I mean you see all of these advertisements on the TV about how someone found true love and everything online but they are paid actors and actress. I'm not saying it is completely impossible, but still is there ever any certainty with love???

 

I think it is possible.
There is still magic in the world

 

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Hmmm... I see no storage for my shoe collection. Forget it then!

 

Just want to say one more thing to the OP.

"Is it possible to fall in love on line"?

Well Chris, with you yes.:excited: "big sigh and long wishful thoughts".

 

You could store one pair of shoes on the guy since he doesn't seem to have any!

 

What you gonna put on him, dress shoes, sensible shoes or fuck me pumps?:laughing:

 

Probably not fuck me pumps since he doesn't look to be in the mood...

 

I'm going to say I think it's very easy to meet someone online and then fall in love with them when you meet them in person. Personally, I don't really think I could fall in love with someone after just talking to them online. There's something intangible about physically meeting someone

 

Yes it most def is! I did and years later we are still living together! We have had obstacles at various times but the fact that for a long time all we coulddo was talk means we know each other better than lots of couples. And there is pretty much nothing we can't discuss!!

 

I believe talking online helps allow you to be more open about yourself. Your not so worried about looks, and stuff like that. So "yes" I believe it is possible.

 

I was thinking about this again today. A co-worker and I were in her car and she started telling me about how she met her husband. They met on Yahoo personals, initially dismissed each other because she lived in Texas and he lived in Tennessee but they hit it off and met. A month or so after she had returned from visiting him he told her he couldn't do it and had to find a way to be with her. He moved halfway across the country and they married a couple of years ago. Awwww....

 

I have talked to two men I met in a chat room for over 3 years now. Do I like them yes! Do I wish i could meet them yes! One is only 2 hours away but he can be sketchy so that is why I haven't met him. The other is on the other side of the US so it hasn't happened. We talk about everything and also have a very sexual relationship on here. Do I wish I knew him in "real life" of course. But sometimes I wonder if it would be the same if we met. I hope to someday met him because I think we could be great friends and he gets me. I do believe 100% you can fall in love online. But you need more than aol or yahoo. You need phone calls, video chats, e-mails and the truth!

 

I have to say totally yes from experience, but Omega Vega said it correctly. Does the person you feel in love with truly exist in the real world.

I am 41. I have been in some kind of online chatting or sharing of information since I was 15. And yes, that predates the internet by about 10 years. I grew up making friends on BBS's, chat rooms, and forums like this one. I have literally meet 100's of people from online. I used to run my own BBS and we would do monthly pizza parties to meet for real. After that, I used to go to AOL parties where you might meet 50 new people you have been chatting with in one night for the first time. So I have a bit of experience in this dept.

That said, I will quickly relate four stories to you of ladies I meet online in my 20's. There were others, but these were the four I was most serious about, i.e. thought I was in love with. And when I say that, I mean it. A lot of time when you are young, you THINK your in love, but your not. Be it online or in RL. Lord knows I had several of each. There was a girl I went to college with that for 2 semesters I thought I was in love with her. looking back (hindsight 20-20 and all) she was just hot and I had a serious case of lust.

I was raised and grew up in Louisiana, not the most geek friendly state in the US.

Girl number 1 - was from California. She was divorced and had two kids. I flew there to meet her. By the time we had spent a day together, we realized we could be friends, but there was no chemistry once we had meet in person. She had been honest about who she was and I had been too (always the key as you will see) but sex/chemistry attraction was just not there. She was a beautiful lady and all, but we just didn't fit that way.

Girl number 2 - was from Texas (3 Hr Drive) She was separated (supposedly, still not sure if that was true or not) and had 2 kids. I drove to meet her several times for weekends. I found out through another online friend after several months and several trips, that I wasn't the only guy visiting her. She evidently had several guys that were doing the same thing. I don't know how honest about who she was that she was being, but she certainly was not honest about what she wanted. I missed sex with her and spending time with her kids more then I ever missed spending time with her. I had fallen seriously in love with the kids for sure and that was the last time I ever considered dating a girl with kids. I missed the sex too, as it had been great. She was very talented in that dept and had not lied about that at all. Evidently, she was getting a lot of practice.

Girl number 3 - was from Florida. She was a widower that had never had kids... Least, that is what I was told. I flew her to my house for a week at Christmas one year. She spent the whole week with me, everything seemed great till after I had dropped her back off at the airport. When I got home, I had a voice mail from her husband telling me how I was breaking up his family and asking how could I take his wife away from him and his kids at Christmas time. Supposedly she had told him that she was at a work conference. Two plus two in their stories never really added up. My gut feeling is they did this kind of thing as a couple for kicks, but I will never know. I don't even know if she did or did not have kids. Nothing about what she had told me was honest and the sex was only so so.

Girl number 4 - was from Florida, but was living in San Diego with her sister and brother in law. We had planned on her coming to my house for us to meet. I was going to fly her in but her sister and brother in law had a huge blow up and she had to take their three kids back to Fla to stay with her parents while it was all sorted out. That delayed everything by 6 months because she was helping with the kids. She ended up moving in with me sight unseen. She shipped her stuff to my place and we meet face to face for the first time when I picked her up at the bus station (at the time I didn't have enough money for plane fair). We lived together for 6 months, got engaged on Christmas Eve, married 4 months after that, and we will have our 13th Anniversary next February. I can honestly say that the hours upon hours we had spent online and on the phone with each other prior to her moving in was when I fell in love with her, not after she arrived in person. We would literally talk on the phone some nights from the time I got home from work, until it was time for me to go to work the next day (or until one of us had fallen asleep on the phone). I literally would have a $600.00 AOL bill on top of a $600.00 phone bill prior to her moving in (hence the lack of cash for a plane ticket). She is totally my soul mate in every since of the word. We seem to have the perfect mix of similarities and opposite likes to mesh well and compliment each other. I won't say we have never had an argument or been mad at each other. But baring a sugar low (we are both diabetic) we have never yelled at one another or called one another names (except in fun/jest/sex). We just don't make room in our life for that kind of drama. So go for it, you just never know!!!

You never know in a relationship, online or RL what might cause you or them to call it quits. Maybe 5 months in you find out he squeezes the tooth paste from the bottom of the tube (bad example unless your over 30) and that drives you insane and you can't take it. Or maybe you never discussed it until your in love or living together, but he wants 12 kids and you want none. Or maybe a year in he finally opens up to tell you he likes to cross dress and you can't handle that and he can't live without it. You rolls the dice and play the game. It's all you can do. You can always be three moves away from splitting up, but if you don't get together in the first place, you never know.

Now, a word of caution. My wives uncle is a cop, and ran my dl# through everything you can think of before she moved in. Even then, I wouldn't suggest you run off to move in site unseen. As many people have said, pick a public place to meet in person, and take those blinders off to anything that might clue you in to them being a nut job. Finally, if the person is a skilled nut job, you could have known them for years in person and not known the level of their dementia or they could have been fine when you meet them and something happens that makes them loose it. That's just how life is. So be safe, but don't be scared to follow your heart.

For those that say it CAN'T happen, all I can say, is that some people find it easy to open their heart, expose themselves and fall in love. Other's don't, and I truly believe that some people don't have the capacity to at all. We are all different, but to tell someone else you don't know that it can't happen for them? That's just not an answer that I would buy.

 

Wow that's a great story. I still think that online relationships are just another way of meeting, with only a slight increased risk of deception. Heck, if someone's going to be devious, making up an online persona is just one way of doing it. Equally if you are gullible, being online isn't taht much different either.

 

A very good friend from here has met several women on a dating site. The last woman sought him out, and he admitted to me that there was nothing in her profile that would have ever made him choose her. They emailed back and forth, exchanged telephone numbers and talked every night. She lives about an hour and a half from him.

She was flying back into the area and suggested they meet for dinner. He told me that when he saw her he knew. The first thing she said to him was, "If this is a dream, I don't want to wake up."

That was four weeks ago - they are going out and looking for rings today.

 

Sweet hearing all the stories. Funny, heart-breaking and heart-warming. I guess the only conclusion I can come to is that hey! why not! give it a go. I've never been in love. Women are way too weird.

 

Of course they are... That's what makes them so much fun to love and to make love too. :rose: