So I'm new to doing this whole forum stuff, and role-playing. I love sex ( although don't get near enough in my relationship) and still have a lot that I want to try. I'm looking for an advice on how I can expand all this. I've been in my relationship for awhile now and she isn't sexually adventurous or horny often. So I'm lucky to get it twice a month. It's hard to deal with, and I've tried everything to try and get her more motivated to try new things but nothing. I've asked about side chicks and got an I guess. But can't really find one. So any ideas? Any help or advice is appreciated

 

You need to learn how to read her.
Find out what she likes and doesn't like.
If you think that her not being as into sex as you are is going to be resolved by you having "side chicks" then your relationship is in serious trouble.
You having another girl to have sex with just takes the "burden" off of the one you want to be with.
Talk to her and find out WHY she's not as interested in sex as you are but understand that you two might not be as sexually compatible as you'd hoped.
Then you have to decide if the sexual part of your relationship is more important to the physical side of it.
Most women's sex drive is in their head, not their crotch.
Stop trying to get in her pants for a little while and concentrate on getting into her head.

 

You are not ready for a relationship.

 

I take her to dinners, spend time with her at the beach, talk to her about everything she wants. I've talked to her about her turn ons, and what she likes and enjoys. I do those things and still don't get anywhere with her. I love her very much, and I'm happy with her, it's just the sexual aspect. Msman, not very helpful advice. There are these things called open relationships.

 

How long is a while? If sex has already fizzled out that is not a good sign. And if she tells you i guess....refering to a side chick. Then that sloppy answer obviously showed you she is not putting much thought into the seriousness of your relationship. I hope she is one you can have meanful, heart to heart tlks with. Cause that is what needs to happen. Maybe she is losing her feelings towards you. I hope not but you two just need to tlk and tlk some more!!!!

 

Pm'd you

 

There are things called open relationships but it’s not clear if your wife is really okay with it. “I guess” is not “yes.” I wouldn’t be anyone’s “side chick” unless I was positive that his wife knew and was totally ok with it.

 

Going on 5 years now. She has never really been sexual, but has had some random spurts of it. An yeah we can be completely open with anything. She said she guessed because she wants me to be completely happy as I want her to be, and because she isn't that sexual, she felt that would help. And I'm not sure what to do at all

 

@niqo I don’t do threesomes with established couples. Emotions get too messy.

 

Get professional help!

 

I can't tell from your post how involved you already are. If you are married then I believe you should work on it, maybe talk about it together and both of you make some compromises, or maybe you both should seek counseling. If you're not married and since she (if I read your post correctly) is ok with you getting a "side chick", it doesn't sound like there is a whole lot of commitment on either side so maybe it's time to get out of the relationship before it goes any farther.

 

I have learned after many years......she isnt going to change. If you really want to experience what you are craving, you will have to find that special woman that wants that journey with you. Or you can settle and stay with her and always wonder what you missed.........

 

If you're not married then dump her! You obviously have a higher sex drive than her, and talking her into doing some kinky shit isn't going to work out well. You could also cheat on her since she said "i guess" to your 'side bitch' request. The only thing is she'll get really bothered by it if you do find a side bitch, and 9 times out of 10 you want the side bitch to be your main bitch cause she do things that your gf won't. Then you'll get all insecure when you find out that you were your side bitch's side dick the entire time.

This is why real relationships should be avoided until you get all the sex out of your system. Role play constantly then settle down with that relationship stuff.

 

Sex was very important to me while dating. My ex wife of 12years was ok..and let me do what I wanted..but she wasn't really into sex. Getting some for the sake of getting it..isn't as good as getting it because you both like it.

I set out to only settle down with a woman who enjoyed sex as much as I did. Ever woman I dated or chatted with online..I made sure to tell them what I wanted. I got a few " is sex all you care about" from a couple women. But when I explained my view on life and how enjoying sex and having a great sexual connection....can make the relationship and everything else that comes with it..much better. Most didn't believe..even my gf now didn't...but she does now. Even having a quickie before going to work...can brighten your day and make more bearable..even enjoyable. My gf works in a horrible ghetto rite aid...with thieves stealing ever hour..yelling and screaming...fighting....having sex really does her mind good. But most people don't use sex in that manner....it's only for getting off.

Women always say, That all men think about is sex. Men really think about one thing.. that's only one thing that women have to worry about to make us happy . Women on the other hand have a million things that they care about and think about... a million things that men have to deal with to make them happy. Why can't that one thing be easy?? Lol

Sorry for the rant , but with all that said ... I don't think you should continue your current relationship . I would tell her the real reason you are breaking up but be prepared for the typical " all you think about is sex" comments . To retort that you can come back with : I've made you happy in most of the ways you need, you couldn't do this one for me.

Don't feel bad about it either. Don't settle for less than what you want in a relationship...just be prepared to search quite a bit for it.