There's an interesting thread on masturbating in front of your partner. The responses indicate that this usually involves mutual masturbation, or one partner masturbating to stimulate the other, or one partner masturbating if the other is just not into sex at the moment (and frequently remedying that situation!)

Has anyone found themselves in a situation where they, or their partner, have masturbated not in front of the other but rather on their own, more or less, but with their partner present and with his or her knowledge?

As an example, I like morning sex, my wife likes before bed sex. When we travel, we usually barely get on the road on time each morning, so morning sex is pretty much out of the question. So I'll sometimes masturbate in the shower, at a hotel or a friend's place where we are staying. My wife will be getting up, or getting ready, even coming into the bathroom as I'm doing myself, and brushing her teeth or doing her hair. She might give me a smile and ask me how it's going, or tell me to hurry up, talk about the day's plans, or try to go unnoticed so as not to disturb me. Sometimes she'll watch me finish, but she'll usually just go do what she needs to do while I bring myself off.

 

I have caught my partner masturbating and left her to it.

With my Ex there were a couple of ocassions where I took myself off to the bathroom after sex to get myself off ( I dont think he was aware I had done this )

I dont think I have ever done it in the way you describe though

 

“Has anyone found themselves in a situation where they, or their partner, have masturbated not in front of the other but rather on their own, more or less, but with their partner present and with his or her knowledge?”

I do it all the time. If for whatever the situation, she's not into it just then, I ask if she wants to watch. Sometimes she does, sometimes she don't. I have found the good fortune that it often brings on a later session of intimacy if she watches or even if she just knows I did it.

My most fondest was my first time doing so with her. She had hurt her neck and was on the mend and we had no intimacy for a couple of weeks. I came in one day and, after asking how she was feeling, I bluntly told her that I needed to get off and was going to jack off and asked if she wanted to watch. She replied “yes” so I stripped down and jumped in bed beside her. As I stroked one out, she began breathing hard. When I blew my load, she moaned “ummm”. I kissed her and dressed. She came out later that evening saying how hot that was and if I had some for her that night. You can guess the rest.

 

Hot!

 

No never happens. I do enjoy reading the stories though. It is not really something my spouse likes for me to do. It is not really something he wants me to enjoy doing. So it is not something i would want to get caught doing. He does not mind if i do it with him present like during foreplay. But i can not really feel comfortable doing it then. I feel almost like i am doing something i should not be doing. Since he does not celebrate me giving myself pleasure when alone. So when asked to do it with him or for him i have to really get lost in my thoughts to have a orgasm.

 

I frequently masturbate lying next to my wife especially in the mornings. My wife is aware that I do it because sometimes she is awake, sometimes not. I have told her about on several occasions also. She understands and doesn't have a problem with it. Sometimes at bedtime we do it together. My libido is stronger than hers so we make it work the best we can.

 

Masturbation is the ultimate private act. Doing it in front of someone else (like your partner) is either exciting or awkward, both for the reason that it's such a private thing. It all depends on how comfortable you are with yourself and how willing your partner is witnessing it (or how positive he/she is about it).

 

Daily. My sex drive is about 10x my girlfriend's and we are seldom apart, so I sneak times to keep myself satisfied.

On weekends, I'll do it a couple times in the living room before she gets up, posting to the Saturday and Sunday pic threads here in between

On weekdays I'll do it really quick before I join her in the shower, or in the shower after she gets out.

 

Sometimes when I am taking care of myself and my gf is just not into sex that day, she decides she is and hops on. It has happened often. I ask her now if she wants any. It is "yes" about 40% of the time. I find that taking care of myself with my gf's knoweledge or not, takes the edge off of my sex drive and life is less complex.

 

Yes. There have been instances where my partner was just not into it, but i was really horny, so i just jerked off in front of her. She watched but didnt touch at all

 

I'll ask my wife if she wants any before I start, or more accurately, I'll ask her if she minds if I masturbate. At this point in our marriage, even a dolt like me can tell if she's "in the mood" or not, so it's not like I'm masturbating when she wants to be making love. As long as I'm not in the doghouse -if I am, I certainly wouldn't be asking to masturbate; heck I probably wouldn't feel like doing it, anyway - if I'm in need of release but she's not into it, she'll just snuggle up to me if we're in bed at night, or if we're home during the day, she'll send me off to the bedroom or shower to do the deed or just have me park nearby on the couch or recliner to jerk-off where she can watch (just so she can keep an eye on what I'm fantasizing about, I'm sure )

And you're right, it does make life a little easier. We both enjoy making love, but we don't always want it at that same time and with work and child-care and all our other obligations, it's often just practically really difficult for us both to be in the mood and available to each other at the same time. I've got a higher need to simply orgasm than she does (maybe a guy thing) and she recognizes that and doesn't take it as a slight, as long as I'm not doing it behind her back. If I have a wank when she's not home, I let her know.

 

As my wife began to dislike sex, she would tell me to get lost and go take care of myself. I usually did but one night wondered why I had to get up and go to another room just to stroke myself off. So I told her I wasn't leaving and she could just turn her back. That night, she gave me a hand job but she told me the next morning she didn't want to have to tug me every time I wanted to masturbate so for months and months, I'd just start with her right next to me and she'd ignore me. Read a book or fell asleep. And I hated that. It wasn't long before she wouldn't even talk about sex. Now, we sleep apart and she's grateful that I'm not going to bother her. Plus, since 2008 she let's me get taken care of elsewhere so it almost doesn't matter any more. But when I first started masturbating along but with her there, it felt good physically but that was about it. I would have preferred mutual.

 

Yes in the shower or in bed.
She had noticed me in the shower long time ago several times and she used to sneak up up and look or come in.

My relationship has reached a fucked up stage though.
She does not want sex. She seems resentful if I masturbate or pretends to not care or notice.

 

This was supposed to be a reply to a certain conversation earlier

I apologize for injecting myself into y’all’s conversation, but I am absolutely perplexed at the notion of, “I got mine, you’re on your own.” Even though I know men are pigs. Personally my goal has always been ‘Ladies first’, which was tricky with an exe who also, done when she was done. She would say to me “You had your chance” and I often had to take things into my own hands as well, and even choosing masturbation because it was gonna end up there, for me, l anyway, but I digress. I just had to interject my two cents after reading y’all’s exchange.

 

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