oh I thought he just had a talk about the birds and bees I didn't realize that he talked to him about the incest site
oh well problem solved i guess

 

I guessI think that saying something to him was probably the wrong thing; especially in a family setting privacy is very important, and going through someone's internet is not the right thing to do. Also, what could be more embarrasing than your dad talking to you about something like that when it really is none of his buisness. Anyhow, that's my oppinion.

 

i could see it being okay if it was like "big tit porn". but the incest thing is pretty fucked bro. if that was my kid id beat his ass and buy him a prostitute.

 

He's 14 though, it's not like he's 18 or something like that. When I was 14 I was still experimenting and all that stuff to find what turned me on. Besides which, have you seen how many views incest porn gets, and the ratings? Tons of people look at it; not just him.

 

I'm really surprised there are people here who think it's wrong for parents to monitor their 14-year-old's computer usage. If your daughter was chatting online with a pedophile, or sneaking out and having sex with a 40-year-old ex-convict, or buying drugs on the street from a gangbanger, or engaging in prostitution, would it be an invasion of her privacy to check on her and prevent her from doing it?

I'm responsible for my kids, and as long as that's so, I'm going to do whatever it takes to know what they're up to, to the extent possible. I HOPE they trust me enough to tell me what's going on in their lives, and I HOPE they give me reason to trust THEM enough that I won't have to snoop around unnecessarily. But rest assured, I'll do what I have to do to protect them if they ever give me good reason to worry.

 

Kimiko I agree with you that it is right to monitor your childrens activity to protect them from predators and bad influences but in this particular boys case, his father did know what he was up to, and I said that raising the issue could embarass the boy and leave him with a deeply unpleasant memory for the rest of his life, considering all he was doing was checking out a porn site , not unusual for a 14 year old boy with hormones,and as I said he should introduce safeguards for surfing the net to protect the boy from dodgy sites that could leave him vulnurable, but as for buying drugs and prostitution that wasn't his problem thats why people have been suggesting that the father relax and overkill the situation, if he was involved with drugs and prostitution or having sex with a pedophile then people would have advised as you said to do everything it took to protect him but in this caes that was not the problem

 

Kimiko I agree with you that it is right to monitor your childrens activity to protect them from predators and bad influences but in this particular boys case, his father did know what he was up to, and I said that raising the issue could embarass the boy and leave him with a deeply unpleasant memory for the rest of his life, considering all he was doing was checking out a porn site , not unusual for a 14 year old boy with hormones,and as I said he should introduce safeguards for surfing the net to protect the boy from dodgy sites that could leave him vulnurable, but as for buying drugs and prostitution that wasn't his problem thats why people have been suggesting that the father relax and not overkill the situation, if he was involved with drugs and prostitution or having sex with a pedophile then people would have advised as you said to do everything it took to protect him but in this case that was not the problem, and prying too much into a teenagers privacy if and I specify IF there isn't any particular concern, and in this specific case there really isn't, then that can promote a negative and hostile response from the teenager and could result in distrust towards the parent and ensure that teenager will probably never confide in the parent again and there goes the trust

 

My point was that I think it's perfectly justified for parents to monitor their children's web use, and does not consititute an invasion of privacy. That doesn't mean I would have made an issue out of this particular discovery. I probably wouldn't have, as I would have considered his curiousity about such things perfectly normal. You do have to pick your battles...

 

If you monitor your kid's web usage than he's just going to get pissed at you being an overbearing parent, my parents never checked my web usage, I've never gotten a prostitute, or done drugs worse than pot, and I've never been molested by a predator, or preyed upon by one.

He's a kid, he looks at porn, unless there's a problem there's no reason to go through histories, caches or any of those things because it's his privacy.

For example: What if your child finds he's having feelings for the same sex, naturally he doesn't want to bring it up with his parents, and if he knows that his parents monitor his web usage than he'll be disinclined to try and find help over the internet, and it'll plain suck for him; sure you can say well he'd go to a school advisor or something, but it's really hard to talk about. And the web has tons of useful websites for the topic.

 

Just leave your kid a lone. He doesn't want to bang you, but the idea of incest from a 3rd party perspective turns him on. There was a porno series of incest I used to love, and believe me I'd rather kill everyone on this planet and myself than even look at my mother for more than a minute.

 

I look at porn on my PSP.

 

So, I should just leave my kids alone and let them do as they please. I can see where that idea might appeal to the younger folks around here, but I'm guessing you're not a parent. You should try it. It might give you a different outlook on life.

 

Kimiko I'm with you 100% - as a responsible parent, you HAVE to check the internet usage - my son is still 9 so he doesn't go on the net on his own - but when he does, I'll be letting him know UPFRONT that I'll be checking on what he does - this is not overbearing, but merely protective, from the sicko's and arseholes out there!

 

dude just leave it
dnt do ne thing about it cuz he will get mad at u for goin thru his stuff


and hez 14, dnt tell me u didnt look at porn wen u wer his age

 

wow.. you bumped a thread from 2006.
please try to look at dates before responding :]

im sure its resolved by now..lmao

 

Incest

Now I had sex with my dad at very young age and it continued for years. I think everyone here is right though. He is 14 and curious. Lots of wierd sites pop up on my computer so it could truly be accidental. I also agree that you have the right and responsibilty to monitor his history
Amber

 

Doesn't anyone look at the dates on these things, Simply amazing!

 

plz delete

 

i dout he really wants to have sex w/you and your wife,it maybe just one of thos forbbiden pleasures.oh btw i got one when i was 16,used wifi for shit loads of porn but I turned on the password so nobody would snoop.but unless any more happens dont confront him,he start screaming about privacy,just like i did when my stepdad took my porn stash when i was 16. and i still hate him to this day for that and alot of other things.

 

What I'm wondering is what the search-string was for this dude to find this thread.