Is there something wrong with me? Am I secretly and unknowingly some kind of nutcase? Or are the feellings I have in some form being misinturpet? I have been with my Fiance 2 years been engaged almost a year. Early in the relationship I cheated, never told her and time went on. Over the following months our relationship changed. We were officially out of the "Honeymoon Phase" and reailty set in, Fights became more and more and we split. We reconciled a month later and seemingly picked up where we left it only this time she cheated. Brings us to now and I dont know what to do. Im livid, even more so because i think it was an act out of spite even though she says it wasnt. I am still very much in love with her and dont want to loose her. Am I crazy? Or do I fight for my woman?

 

Does she want to be with you?

 

You should split up.

You are not right for each other and shouldn't waste any more time.

If you think I am wrong, I will not argue but, I'm not.

 

Take off your "rose colored sunglasses" and things will appear as they are. At times we can't see the forest for the tree's when in a deadend relationship. Our brains are not programmed to accept failure and as such we do silly shit like what you mentioned. We have all been there, some of us are just smarter than others and know when to cut our loses ...

The love of my life isn't always right (and neither am I) but I support her (and she does me) 100% regardless and we work through it and "educate" each other along the way. Cheating is not even an option for either of us as we were both cheated on in prior relationships.

I do wish you luck though as this is not an easy decision per se but the alternative is not something I wish upon anyone ...

 

Is she good in the sack?

 

Life is fucking complicated! At least allow for the possibility that she didn't cheat out of spite. maybe she did, is that worse than cheating because she found someone so sexy she couldn't pass him up? The worrisome thing for me is you have only been together for 2 yrs. This shouldn't begin to happen until much later unless neither of you can be monogamous and if that's the case, have you considered an open relationship. It's not for the feint of heart.......but who knows.

 

Crazy no, confused maybe, committed I doubt it! You cheated even before you two were ever married and that's not a good sign, as a honeymoon phase doesn't even exist until after marriage. The sex might be good, but a continuation of any form of real relationship seems disingenuous!

 

Why don't the both of you go to some pre marriage counseling to she what up in your relationship. You can learn how to talk to each other and how to listen. You can get past this a get a better relationship out of it but you both have to want to do it.
It will take some work. I wish you luck whatever the outcome.

 

cut your losses and get out now ! if you both are cheating already before you get married , it's not meant to be !

 

Frankly, you're not giving us enough information so we can offer intelligent suggestions. Age is a factor, to be blunt, most young people are not ready to be in monogamous relationships. Yet they make a pact, play house, then one or both cheat, then they break up, the other cheats for revenge or while they're split up causing the other to now lay blame, etc. etc., and it goes round and round... All while the relationship swirls deeper and deeper into the toilet bowel of cheating, revenge and jealousy.

Now wanting marriage is not a solution either no matter your age. Too many people believe that by suddenly having a piece of paper that it magically will fix all bad in a relationship. Fact of the matter is it simply makes breaking up a messier affair, but it has no power to prevent anyone from doing anything, repair old wounds, or strengthen bonds.

Marriage, swinging, having kids, moving to new places and so on are not "fixes." They are progressions in making a good life/relationship better, and sure to make bad ones even worse.

Hush....an alias

 

I'd say you're both clearly non-monogamous if you can't stick together for two years, but that's not ethical nonmonogamy. Open relationships are a thing but they need to come from a place of honestly and communication between everyone involved.

 

Stay together. Cheating doesn't always come from lack of respect for the partner, but lack of respect for themselves.

 

Translation you are all stupid exept me. Suckers liked her post a didnt even see they were being insulted.

Can a person walk on a rainbow is a better question.

 

I love you michael.

 

We know who you are . at least I do. You aren't worth two squirts of warm piss

 

First thing, MisterMack posted this thread, and Mannie Mack is the one responding to some posts, just wanted to point that out. I never read that you guys were married, just that you were engaged. Early on in the rrelationship when the two of you were together, you cheated. After time both of you started beefing and split up, if that's when she started fucking around, she wasn't cheating, you were no longer in the picture.

 

What time frame? A day? Then ya...she fucking cheated.

 

my ex did that to me in a days time. It felt like cheating inside.

 

I am the very last person to throw the moral red card at you for the cheating thing, so I am going to say this: You cheated, big fucking deal, learn from it and move on. She cheated, great, now you are both even.

What I would say is that 2 years isn't long at all and seems way too short for you to be fighting so much that you split up, and now yu are back together and engaged.. My advice is to make this a very long engagement indeed and not commit to anything until you are both really sure because from what you have said I am not making bets on this being the marriage made in heaven