I really do. I mean before this whole ordeal I knew I wanted to marry her. And she could never stop talking about us being married. So I know its what she wants to. Thank you for your reply.

 

If you both cheated you might want to try open relationship if you truly want to be with each other it may spice things up a little for the both of you only do this after sitting down and talking to each other and set ground rules 1st and see if there's a possibility of it working

 

I will admit that I have not read all the posts on this thread but will still give my thoughts, based on experience of so called cheating.
I think that it is now generally accepted that both sexes have equal needs and desires for sex and can equally feel sexual frustration. That being the case, in my experience, both sexes are liable to cheat when the frustration levels gets too high. Also in my experience, despite what some female members have said, I have found that as far as 'just good sex' goes women do not need the 'emotional element', they can enjoy a good fuck, differentiating it from 'love making'.
Example: I had friends who had been married for 23 years, they had four kids the youngest being 8. One day she openly propositioned me telling me that since the birth of the youngest her husband had gradually lost interest to the point of only 'mounting' her every few months, with no foreplay, quickly cumming and going to sleep. They had discussed this and even sought counselling but he did not change and she had reached the point of being desperate for a good fucking, masturbation no longer giving her the relief she needed. I was very shocked at this but she went on to say that it would be 'no strings sex', just sex, she did not want an affair because she still loved her husband. She very clearly differentiated between lust and love. Although she would be 'cheating' she looked on it as getting satisfaction for a natural human urge that her husband could not or would not any longer satisfy.
I have experienced several other similar cases.
Should anybody, male or female, or any orientation, be expected when the have done everything to rectify the problem be expected to subdue their natural urges, when the relief of those urges is the only part missing from an otherwise 'happy' relationship.
If we have any other kind of pain, which a partner cannot relieve, we seek help without it affecting the relationship, so why not sexual which can cause as much,if not more, pain than anything else.
If there seems any element of 'boasting' in this post it was not meant, I was only trying to tell of my knowledge and experience of 'cheating'.

 

Well I feel like this has to be done. I first of all would like to thank each and every one of you that took the time to read and offer an opinion and/or advice on my inqury. More importantly, when I made the thread I was angry. I was angry about the situation, I was angry at myself for allowing my relationship to come to this, and subconciuosly I think I was looking for reasons to bestow this anger on anyone who just happened my way. I lashed out on and at a bunch of you because your advice didnt align with my own thinking. I was acting purely on emotion alone. And for that I am deeply sorry and hope that Ill be forgiven and can continue in this forum. If I could name all of you I would, but the truth is I took not even a second to read handles and look at profiles. I just reacted.
Again guys thank you, and I applogize to anyone I offended or disrespected.